Hmm its hard to remember totally cringeworthy moments but maybe its just me and my girlfriend being so comfortable with each other._j5689_ wrote:
I got diagnosed with Asperger's a long time ago at a legitimate psych evaluation place in Baltimore.I'm Jamesey wrote:
Holy shit I internet diagnosed your Aspergers based on a couple of posts, I should've became a head doctor.
If you care about your social skills and confidence, it shows and it gives off awkward vibes, I could give all the shitty confidence tips in the world but none worked for me, I just outgrew my social anxiety, I know how bad it can be, I went from having more friends than I could count to being unable to get on a bus by myself, and slowly dragged myself back up again.
I gave up hunting a girlfriend and ended up with one way out of my league without trying at all, so in my opinion its easier when you're not over analysing your every move.
Try making fun of yourself, or the girl when it gets awkward, my girlfriend says one of the things that made her like me so much was that she felt comfortable with me, even when shit got awkward because no matter how cringey it got, I just made fun of her or myself and it made her relax.
And perhaps you just got lucky or something. I wouldn't expect it to just happen like that but it seems to be the only way it's ever going to happen, still I wouldn't know when to take it seriously or not once the opportunity came and also wouldn't know how not to devote all my effort and attention to any possible prospects, which, from what you say, is at least part of what seems to be fucking it up for me.
And give me an example of the making fun of her or yourself part when it gets awkward, I can actually imagine that going well but wouldn't be sure how to formulate it.
Last awkward moment I can remember is me and my girlfriend being baited into discussing the ins and outs of me giving her a golden shower in the middle of a party full of friends and my younger brother and sister, no awkwardness, just hilarity.
Maybe we're just shameless
Just learn to be comfortable with yourself, and laugh at yourself. A while back I got into an argument with somebody at a party and on my way outside to stomp him he cheapshotted me in the back of the head and I flew headfirst down a flight of cement stairs on to my head and knocked myself the fuck out.
I never got pissy or cried about it, I went back in bleeding down my neck and continued to drink, joking about how I think he knocked some sense into me. If I got into a rage or cried about being knocked out it would've ruined the party, but being able to ignore a tense moment and laugh helped everybody relax around me.
