Okay, first off, don't know why some of you are saying "she better say yes," because it's a PROMISE ring, not an engagement ring. I thought I made that clear in the thread title?
Secondly, some of you think the promise ring is dumb, or an act that says I am not ready for commitment. Read jord's post, he got it right.
I'm getting her this promise ring for now because I want to keep her, but I still need to continue dating her to confirm my already initial thoughts that she'll be a wonderful wife. So give it perhaps a year or two or three, and then I'll get her the engagement ring. Another year or two or three, and we'll be married.
Right now though, we're both still in college, I have at least another 2 years left, her about the same, so it makes sense to not marry in college. And again, jord is right: stupid is getting married at 22.
Additionally, I'm in college = I'm poor. My budget was only $200 because I managed to pick up a small job, where pretty much the majority of my paycheck is going towards this. If I'm going to be getting an engagement ring, I want to get a nice one, so I'll need more cash, which I don't have coming in right now. So that's another reason for getting a promise ring now and not an engagement ring.
Thus, your advice is flawed OrangeHound, simply because you gave it without knowing the circumstances under which the promise ring was chosen over an engagement ring. And no, just to clarify for you, it is NOT a ploy for sex.
+1 to jord, Sir Schmoopy, and Canadianloser for knowing what I mean. Also, +1 to TheDonkey and Ajax_the_Great1 for the laughs
Secondly, some of you think the promise ring is dumb, or an act that says I am not ready for commitment. Read jord's post, he got it right.
I'm getting her this promise ring for now because I want to keep her, but I still need to continue dating her to confirm my already initial thoughts that she'll be a wonderful wife. So give it perhaps a year or two or three, and then I'll get her the engagement ring. Another year or two or three, and we'll be married.
Right now though, we're both still in college, I have at least another 2 years left, her about the same, so it makes sense to not marry in college. And again, jord is right: stupid is getting married at 22.
Additionally, I'm in college = I'm poor. My budget was only $200 because I managed to pick up a small job, where pretty much the majority of my paycheck is going towards this. If I'm going to be getting an engagement ring, I want to get a nice one, so I'll need more cash, which I don't have coming in right now. So that's another reason for getting a promise ring now and not an engagement ring.
Thus, your advice is flawed OrangeHound, simply because you gave it without knowing the circumstances under which the promise ring was chosen over an engagement ring. And no, just to clarify for you, it is NOT a ploy for sex.
+1 to jord, Sir Schmoopy, and Canadianloser for knowing what I mean. Also, +1 to TheDonkey and Ajax_the_Great1 for the laughs