BF2S Forums So the Mrs just kissed another guy...

was she drinking?   Has your relationship been okay lately... ?
any red flags recently... her dressing nicer or losing any weight?
Her kissing someone else can be a blip on the radar or a deal breaker...  I would try and be cool and let her explain... people make mistakes...
If you wen't out and had a few beers and some girl was being flirty and you ended up kissing her..and you felt bad
you would hope your girlfriend would understand... she sounds like she knows she screwed up...
If your relationship is strong... try and work it out... if not...  ?

Last edited by [TUF]Catbox (2008-11-03 22:13:39)

[TUF]Catbox wrote:

was she drinking?   Has your relationship been okay lately... ?
any red flags recently... her dressing nicer or losing any weight?
Her kissing someone else can be a blip on the radar or a deal breaker...  I would try and be cool and let her explain... people make mistakes...
If you wen't out and had a few beers and some girl was being flirty and you ended up kissing her..and you felt bad
you would hope your girlfriend would understand... she sounds like she knows she screwed up...
If your relationship is strong... try and work it out... if not...  ?

She and I dont drink, the relationship has been rock solid, apparently it was just a old friend or something. I told her that i wasnt mad at her, but in reality i am mad, but im not at the same time...its killing me

I think you should give her a pass on this one. Yes it's ok to be angry, and you should, but she apologized, and besides, it was just a "kiss". If she said she made out with him for a few hours, then there'd be problems. Shit happens, gotta take it and deal with it, then move on. And like Panther said, there's something about seeing old friends that brings that stuff out.

This isn't a relationship wrecker.

Face it. It could have been worse...

You should be lucky it wasn't an ex boyfriend

Forgive her but she must work for it lulz.

liquix wrote:

divorce her, cuz it aint gonna go away. It will eat at you until you snap, or your just abusive in some way or another for so long she'll just leave you.

Shut up already

S3v3N wrote:

They're all whores except for your mother.

You too.

This is D&ST not Pee Wee's playhouse. How about I sleep with both your girl/boyfriends or husband/wives and then make a joke about it.

It's just a kiss. Ok, you'd feel better if she hadn't told you - but she apparently needed to get it off her chest because of all the guilt she was feeling. Guilt = she obviously values your relationship and doesn't want anything to ruin it. So while ignorance is bliss, getting to know about it means that she cares.

She made a mistake - we all do. At some point you might find your self in the same situation, then you'll be the one with the guilt gnawing you.

Had I done that to you (baby, snookums), I'd also have told, knowing that receiving the news sucks bollocks, and being selfish enough to hurt you with that information, but hopeful that my truthfulness would enable us to build on our relationship even further. I did that once to a girl, back in the day, 1999. But because I felt like shit, I ended the relationship and spent the next 2 years or so single. I ended up regretting that decision for a long time.

Meet up with her as soon as you possibly can. Preferrably.. ..now.

1) Express your dislike/anger/frustration for what has happened, but immediately after that, go to step 2
2) Forgive
2) It was probably her "old friend" that made all the advances - you should tell your girlfriend that if she doesn't set him straight, you will.
3) Do your best to not let this come between you. I know it hurts, but it's just a kiss. Probably just one kiss and that's all. If she still wants to be with you, stay by her side and let time heal all wounds. If this was the first time, then it probably will be the only time.

Go see her.

TheAussieReaper wrote:

Sleep with her sister.

^that.

Not really.

Obviously she feels bad for doing it if she told u etc. so mabye just tell her how u feel and talk about it abit

(im no expert though)

I don't understand why my honest opinion get's this answer in DST: "shut up already"

Look, I've been where the poster is and if I learned anything from my past is that it never got better. If I had sense enough as a younger-man I would have left her when I found out, not a year later when I was driven to near insanity with distrust.

Mistakes happen, she told him about it, which is a good sign. If the poster feels that keeping the relationship is better than the alternative, that is his choice, and I hope for his sake that things blow over.

Best of luck man.

TheAussieReaper wrote:

Sleep with her sister.

In this case, I fear AU logic fails.


Though I can't help but agree.


jks.

xBlackPantherx wrote:

liquix wrote:

divorce her, cuz it aint gonna go away. It will eat at you until you snap, or your just abusive in some way or another for so long she'll just leave you.

Shut up already

S3v3N wrote:

They're all whores except for your mother.

You too.

This is D&ST not Pee Wee's playhouse. How about I sleep with both your girl/boyfriends or husband/wives and then make a joke about it.

I agree with pantherx, I mean wtf are you two talking about, its just a kiss. I know for Elite its not just a kiss but this can be solved. Talk to her, ask her if shes missing something in her marriage, obviously she missed something when she kissed him. Go on a trip of her lifetime, make her happy again so she doesn't forget why she married you. Women get bored of everyday housekeeping, they need a change.

Personally I would show her the door but a) at least she was honest and b) I have a buddy who forgave his chick the same thing and they seem to have been happy ever after.