JimG wrote:
Please read over what I said.
1) Homosexuality is NOT a choice, that's pretty obvious.
2) I am not criticizing the way you bring up your children I am just saying that homosexuals will most likely bring up their children to be more liberal then you obviously are bringing up your children.
3) Obviously you will not let your child decide for himself to play with fire etc, and that is completly irrelevant, as I doubt homosexual parents would do the same thing.
4) That generalisation is not 'generally' true, unless you have hard facts to prove it. Influence only goes so far, and in time children start to have their own views as they start to spend less and less time with their parents. Children adapt with time and with their friends.
5) You are allowed to teach them those beliefs but a child should be brought up with an open mind and the choice to be able to decide for themselves with some guidence from their parents.
1) You cannot prove that it's not a choice. How can anyone? Have you ever seen a gay turn straight? And not have any problems like withdrawal symptoms? I have. it works both ways. They are learned behaviors, period. You always have a choice, and you can learn attraction even.
2) That is an opinion that cannot be possible to make not knowing the liberal values I will teach vs. what a homosexual value set will teach. Liberal teachings are more than just sexual orientation.
3) The playing with fire, running neighborhoods freely analogy is meant to compare your idea that letting children decide things for themselves IS a wise choice. ALL parents teach their children things that they shouldn't learn for themselves..and there's nothing wrong with it unless it harms them, or is unlawful, right? Well then, teaching morals is about as perfect a teaching topic a parent can have for children. When their adults, they can weigh what their parents taught them, and what they're learning on their own, right?
4) Well, as you grow older and have sobering realizations that you "are" becoming like your parents (a common reality for people who find themselves doing things they didn't want to do because "it's what their parents did"), you'll see it's a very real generalization that is accurate. The burden of proof is not on me to bear, so forgive me for not proving it to you.
5) You have misjudged me thinking I will bring up my children to not tolerate certain people. It's ok, I expected it. What you don't know is that I, and my wife, have more than once discussed the futures of our children. We've discussed the various outcomes and paths that will befall them like homosexuality, befriending gays, acting gay, etc. And probably to your surprise, and to the surprise of others calling me a bigot, we were quite liberal in our thinking. While we'd love our children to adhere to christian principles, we will accept them if they don't..and that includes homosexual behavior. This is another example of loving people and hating the sin that many of you can't fathom.
A good example that my wife and I have already taught and proven is that my daughter has a female classmate who's got two lesbian parents. The topic was letting Ceara go play at her home for an afternoon. Naturally, we discussed briefly what this could do to contradict our teachings that mommies and daddies are the best parents for kids. We let her go, then if she mentioned that her friend had two mommies, we could then take advantage of that moment to teach her that
"it's ok for your friend to have two mommies..sometimes kids have parents who adopted them, sometimes kids have just one parent, sometimes two of the same kind. There's nothing wrong with those kids and its important to not tease them when other kids tease them. For you, you have me and mommy and [teaching moment supportive of heterosexual parenting]..."Done! Tolerance, kindness, choice, and my daughter has been taught a moral value! If this is bigotry, then i'm the scum of the earth. But imagine it the other way around? What if gay parents do the same thing? Is it bigotry?
Last edited by IRONCHEF (2006-11-21 10:35:15)