LaidBackNinja wrote:
So. My girlfriend recently watched The Notebook and absolutely loved it. She told me to watch it. I watched it and thought it was disgusting. We had a pretty huge fight over it, but that's not the point.
Has anyone here seen the film and what is your opinion on how it portrays romance and "true love"?
I personally hate it because it paints a completely unrealistic and unfair picture of men. If women believe that real love should be like this all men are screwed. The film basically teaches women that it is okay to cheat on your fiancée (who isn't even a wifebeater or anything but a really great guy) and bone your ex-summer love boyfriend who you only dated for a couple of weeks and has somehow become "the one".
EDIT: this guy pretty much says it all IMO:
http://www.workingauthor.com/romcoms-an … love-lives
You just didn't understand the movie, because you were watching it from a distinct male biased perspective. You are judging the characters in the movie by typical Old-World European patriarchal standards. You're emphasis on reason is only valid in this male dominated framework. Different rules apply to different genders:
Man cheats on girlfriend = cunt
Man prefers hot chick over dedicated stable girl = immature
Man ignores advice from parents/friends = stubborn
Man is unsure about his feelings = wussy
Man is unreasonable = egocentric
Man decides actions based on personal feelings = inconsiderate selfish pig
Woman cheats on girlfriend = true love
Woman prefers dodgy stallion over dedicated stable guy = true love
Woman ignores advice from parents/friends = true love
Woman is unsure about her feelings = confused, needs to be given time to find true love
Woman is unreasonable = intuition
Woman decides actions based on personal feelings = true love