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if she is consistenly saying she wants to go private, why havent you yet if you don't want her to be clingy later? why are you going so slow? is this a lead up to a relationship? take care of it nowPochsy wrote:
So guys, there's a kind of cute girl (maybe a 7 on the scale- no pics, I just don't have one) that I know wants me. I've been trying to not make things awkward seeing as I will have to see her at almost every party and event hosted by the college, so messing up royal is not an option. I have no intention of dating this girl. Or at least not as of yet. Who knows, maybe she's cooler than I think. Either way, the question is; How do I test the waters and make sure she will not be attached if I do have sex with her?
BTW I have 100% sure I have the green light, as every time I see her at parties she tries to take me to a "more private area so we can get to know each other". And once her line was "I need to change my shirt, come with me so I don't have to go alone".
I don't know this girl well enough to judge whether or not she will become attached to me if we have sex. For me it may be a one time thing and no big deal, but for her it might mean I want to start a relationship. Which I do not at this point, but I have not ruled it out. I'm cautious because she is someone I will have to be around, not just a random pick-up and throw-away kind of girl. I have to worry about dealing with her in the future if I do make an error in judging her intentions.Kimmmmmmmmmmmm wrote:
if she is consistenly saying she wants to go private, why havent you yet if you don't want her to be clingy later? why are you going so slow? is this a lead up to a relationship? take care of it nowPochsy wrote:
So guys, there's a kind of cute girl (maybe a 7 on the scale- no pics, I just don't have one) that I know wants me. I've been trying to not make things awkward seeing as I will have to see her at almost every party and event hosted by the college, so messing up royal is not an option. I have no intention of dating this girl. Or at least not as of yet. Who knows, maybe she's cooler than I think. Either way, the question is; How do I test the waters and make sure she will not be attached if I do have sex with her?
BTW I have 100% sure I have the green light, as every time I see her at parties she tries to take me to a "more private area so we can get to know each other". And once her line was "I need to change my shirt, come with me so I don't have to go alone".
Last edited by Pochsy (2009-10-08 18:27:02)
Eh, not worth it then. I really don't want to mess around with this girl unless I know exactly where she stands, so I'll have to pass up on the easy sex and keep waiting to see how things develop. I don't need to end up in a overly dramatic situation with so much work at my feet. Same reaon I don't want a relationship.Ty wrote:
What is it with the teeagers of this site at the moment...
Kimmmetc's advice is right on the money. The longer you leave it the more likely a relationship will be forged. As to not knowing whether a one-time fling will turn into a relationship - you don't know, that's modern-day sexual relationships, you don't always know what's going to happen, you just have to deal with it when it does. Fun innit.
This is what's known in anthropological circles as the "Ty Predeliction".Pochsy wrote:
Eh, not worth it then... I don't need to end up in a overly dramatic situation with so much work at my feet. Same reaon I don't want a relationship.
*offliquidat0r wrote:
lawl, NZ gets cut of my desktop. sux2bNZ
I know exactly what you're referencing, but I should also point out that in the place you are typing from, "here be dragons" is also acceptable.Ty wrote:
Aye, you be off the map 'ere sonny! Here there be monsters!