Yep .
Although, I don't think we're completely out of the shit just yet. Last night she caught a train home (120 miles again) because apparently her dad is bringing some stuff to the house today (she has work at 1pm) and he doesn't like traveling alone. This seemed like a lot of effort to just be a considerate daughter... and last night, well, she went out clubbing with creeper-guy and a whole other bunch of friends from home, until about 3am. She said when I waved her off on the train that she would be missing me, texting and calling all night, it sucked she had to leave etc.etc. I got one drunken text at like 2:30am, and then a drunken phonecall at 3am informing me that she was walking home to bed now. And whaddya know, creeper-guy was walking her home! When shit like that happens and she keeps it completely quiet, it worries me, because I know that she is hot property in her local girl-market, and it basically just seems to me at the moment as though she's conveniently trying to keep the best of both worlds now - me and our relationship here at the house, with frequent trips back home for hang-outs, night-outs and fun experiences with creeper guy and co. I trust her so this shouldn't be a problem, I know... I know. But it still pisses me off that she's keeping stuff quiet, and it still naturally pisses me off that this guy is trying to leech onto her at every opportunity.
When this relationship first started, months ago, I drew a firm line in the sand that basically said the same thing that Teds said a few pages back: boyfriends should never feel second to another male, except for family. Whether or not that ginger faggot 'feels' like family to her, he fucking isn't. For months our relationship and that balance was perfect... he was completely off the radar, uncared about, unthought of, no communication. Now after this last week of hard times, he's back in the place he was before she even met me, and I just know that shit is going to hit the fan again if she intends to keep him and want him there. I know I said a few posts back that I've just got to keep quiet, put the arguments and serious discussion on the backburner - but what should I do, BF2s? Put my cards on the table early and risk scaring her off again, or put up with rivalry and feelings of bullshit relegation for a few weeks, so that she is more open to the talk, but could possibly be more adverse to change because she's 'used to things' then?
libertarian benefit collector - anti-academic super-intellectual.
http://mixlr.com/the-little-phrase/