Noo!Uzique wrote:
Yep .
Although, I don't think we're completely out of the shit just yet. Last night she caught a train home (120 miles again) because apparently her dad is bringing some stuff to the house today (she has work at 1pm) and he doesn't like traveling alone. This seemed like a lot of effort to just be a considerate daughter... and last night, well, she went out clubbing with creeper-guy and a whole other bunch of friends from home, until about 3am. She said when I waved her off on the train that she would be missing me, texting and calling all night, it sucked she had to leave etc.etc. I got one drunken text at like 2:30am, and then a drunken phonecall at 3am informing me that she was walking home to bed now. And whaddya know, creeper-guy was walking her home! When shit like that happens and she keeps it completely quiet, it worries me, because I know that she is hot property in her local girl-market, and it basically just seems to me at the moment as though she's conveniently trying to keep the best of both worlds now - me and our relationship here at the house, with frequent trips back home for hang-outs, night-outs and fun experiences with creeper guy and co. I trust her so this shouldn't be a problem, I know... I know. But it still pisses me off that she's keeping stuff quiet, and it still naturally pisses me off that this guy is trying to leech onto her at every opportunity.
When this relationship first started, months ago, I drew a firm line in the sand that basically said the same thing that Teds said a few pages back: boyfriends should never feel second to another male, except for family. Whether or not that ginger faggot 'feels' like family to her, he fucking isn't. For months our relationship and that balance was perfect... he was completely off the radar, uncared about, unthought of, no communication. Now after this last week of hard times, he's back in the place he was before she even met me, and I just know that shit is going to hit the fan again if she intends to keep him and want him there. I know I said a few posts back that I've just got to keep quiet, put the arguments and serious discussion on the backburner - but what should I do, BF2s? Put my cards on the table early and risk scaring her off again, or put up with rivalry and feelings of bullshit relegation for a few weeks, so that she is more open to the talk, but could possibly be more adverse to change because she's 'used to things' then?
.Amdi Peter wrote:
Just ignore it, you defenetly don't wanna fuck up things now!
Imo, you should ignore it, and see what happens in the up-coming weeks.
But she's a woman. They're allowed to do shit like that, apparentlyUzique wrote:
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I know that, blah blah blah, if I put her in the same situation and if I did it, there would be a shitstorm.
I hope you're at least enjoying the fact that he's probably suffering through this a lot more than you. You've got her. He wants her, but will never have her (certainly doesn't sound like she's ever going to go running into his arms, no matter what happens). Keep that in mind. I'm sure it'd cheer me up in the same situation. In fact all his hanging around with her is probably just making him feel worse and worse.....Uzique wrote:
Yeah, she's living with me for the most part... I'll deal with the urges and occasions when she goes home to hang out with him as they come. It'll be awkward, and yeah there will be jealousy when I know how he thinks about her and the sort of sweet-talk, "I love you" lets-hold-hands sorta relationship that they have - purely platonic and familial on her half, wanting for more and attracted on his. He is a great support to her, I have to detach myself from my own feelings/jealousy and acknowledge that part at least, I just hope that over time as we recover from this lowpoint, she'll come to rely more on me for that support and less on this cuntrag.
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There have been instances of people falling out of their bedroom windows. It's actually quite common; it's like they are so obsessed with something that they don't realise there's emptiness below and just try to fly towards that something. It's quite possible it could happen to him.Uzique wrote:
Haha well if confronting her with my issue is relationship-suicide, slicin' and dicin' his intestines would definitely put me in a pretty tricky situation.
Uzique wrote:
Haha well if confronting her with my issue is relationship-suicide, slicin' and dicin' his intestines would definitely put me in a pretty tricky situation.
TSI wrote:
There have been instances of people falling out of their bedroom windows. It's actually quite common; it's like they are so obsessed with something that they don't realise there's emptiness below and just try to fly towards that something. It's quite possible it could happen to him.Uzique wrote:
Haha well if confronting her with my issue is relationship-suicide, slicin' and dicin' his intestines would definitely put me in a pretty tricky situation.
You two are bad.FatherTed wrote:
i heard people get jumped on the way home from a night out for no reason.
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