you see this 'woome' flashing ad about dating at the bottom? click it and sign up broFreezer7Pro wrote:
I don't have a girl. What do I do?
I had this the first time I met my girlfriend. Just honestly be yourself as cliche as it is. Be funny, but don't try to hard, because if you can get her friends to like you, there should never be problems Try and focus on being with her. Afterall it is your date with her. Not with her friends. But don't be stalkerish and needy.Amdi Peter wrote:
The first day we met each other in real life (we 'met' on the internet) was really nice. We ended up in the same park as we are going to on friday, kissing and just lieing in the grass.Lai wrote:
Well, she likes you and the two of you are going on a date. In other words, you shouldn't stress out too much anymore. Really now, you can not nor should plan what you are going to say. You're going on a date, you're not asking her to marry you. Just relax and do whatever you always do.Amdi Peter wrote:
OK, I'm in quite a dilemma.
There is this really awesome, really cute, sweet and beautiful girl.
I'm totally in love with her, and she knows that. She has told me that she likes me to, but before anything happens between us, she wants to know me better.
We are going together to a park downtown on Friday, May 1st. Maybe it only the two of us or we'll go with some of her friends (I don't know any of them).
So I need advice on two(/three) things.
1st may, If we go alone, what should I say/do? (we have spend a day together before)
If we go with her friends, what should I say/do?
Also, I have the feeling that I only text her, not the other way around.
I keep pushiing a button on my phone, hoping there's a new text from her, well knowing there isn't.
Should I keep texting her, I should I wait 'till she texts me?
Regarding the text messages,.. I really can't say too much about that. Some friends of mine text their girlfriend to death and the other way around, while others don't. Personally I seldom text at all, especially not to someone I like. It has nothing to do with lack of interest, I'm just oldschool. I prefer eye to eye talk or at least ear to ear.
I just fear that if we go with some of her friends, we wont be talking alot together, since it will be very akward for me when I don't know any of her friends.
QFT.DonFck wrote:
Nice, real mature.Acreta wrote:
sorry i was actually lying i just wanted to gauge what reaction i would get from people who were interested thanks anyway, btw i dont believe that your personal problems can be solved on the internet by people who dont know you and you are telling them your lovelife but w/e glhf!
FYI, people do get helpful advice on the internet. And I was willing to give it to you. Instead, you decided to demonstrate your level of maturity, which from the looks of the quoted post above seems to be somewhere between a 12 year old and an olm. I'd be very careful what I say in threads like these, there are people here who find them useful, and I for one will not stand for being fooled by a child when I'm willing and ready to give you my time and advice.
Even if this thread is in EE, it doesn't give you a free pass to fuck about.
Or would you go into the Suicide thread and tell people to be an hero?
This is my reaction. Are you happy?
Olm.. nice one DonAcreta wrote:
olm? what is this term? and come now, alot of 12 year olds are pretty mature, i know a couple, great people, very odd talking to them because yeah usually u would expect something more immature but stereotypes are terrible thingsInstead, you decided to demonstrate your level of maturity, which from the looks of the quoted post above seems to be somewhere between an 12 year old and an olm.
True. Don't bother if you can't talk together for all the time, because in the long run (even though that may seem far away now), that is gonna happen a lot more. And guess what, when she is with her friends when you're not there, she is also not talking to you. Don't see it as time lost, but rather as time gained. Besides, you don't necesarily have to talk only to eachother the whole time you're together. Personally I knew a girl I could not even talk with,.. uhm, never mind that.JakAttaK wrote:
I had this the first time I met my girlfriend. Just honestly be yourself as cliche as it is. Be funny, but don't try to hard, because if you can get her friends to like you, there should never be problems Try and focus on being with her. Afterall it is your date with her. Not with her friends. But don't be stalkerish and needy.Amdi Peter wrote:
The first day we met each other in real life (we 'met' on the internet) was really nice. We ended up in the same park as we are going to on friday, kissing and just lieing in the grass.
I just fear that if we go with some of her friends, we wont be talking alot together, since it will be very akward for me when I don't know any of her friends.
I saw this capacitor giving you the eye the other day.Freezer7Pro wrote:
I don't have a girl. What do I do?
Alcohol has always worked well for socially retarded people. Or roofies, depending on your level of social retardation.Freezer7Pro wrote:
I don't have a girl. What do I do?
Don't bother?Lai wrote:
True. Don't bother if you can't talk together for all the time, because in the long run (even though that may seem far away now), that is gonna happen a lot more.
Je moet je er niet zo druk om maken, joh. Als het eenmaal iets vaster is zal het wel vaker komen dat jullie ergens heen gaan, waar je niet de hele tijd met elkaar praat. Dat is normaal hoor, alleen nu omdat alles nog "nieuw" is, is het misschien een beetje naarAmdi Peter wrote:
Don't bother?Lai wrote:
True. Don't bother if you can't talk together for all the time, because in the long run (even though that may seem far away now), that is gonna happen a lot more.
Sorry, I don't really understand.
Ik spreek Duits en NederlandsLai wrote:
Je moet je er niet zo druk om maken, joh. Als het eenmaal iets vaster is zal het wel vaker komen dat jullie ergens heen gaan, waar je niet de hele tijd met elkaar praat. Dat is normaal hoor, alleen nu omdat alles nog "nieuw" is, is het misschien een beetje naarAmdi Peter wrote:
Don't bother?Lai wrote:
True. Don't bother if you can't talk together for all the time, because in the long run (even though that may seem far away now), that is gonna happen a lot more.
Sorry, I don't really understand.
Ik ga er trouwens vanuit dat je Vlaams/Nederlands spreekt, of spreek je alleen Frans?
Sounds like you'll do just fine. Don't be too worried about it, even if she's with her friends show her that you can coexist with a group and still give her attention at the same time. You don't want to forget that she's the reason why she's you are there, but you don't want to be super-shy and basically ignore her friends.Amdi Peter wrote:
The first day we met each other in real life (we 'met' on the internet) was really nice. We ended up in the same park as we are going to on friday, kissing and just lieing in the grass.
I just fear that if we go with some of her friends, we wont be talking alot together, since it will be very akward for me when I don't know any of her friends.
Last edited by Bevo (2009-04-27 13:20:54)
I wouldn't want to come off as too pushy, she probably wants here friends there as a buffer or her friends want to meet you. Either way she is interested, so I'd just leave it be.Amdi Peter wrote:
Thanks for the advice lads, it's useful
I'm actually in a bid of a dilemma again already.
I talked to my best friend at school today, and she said I should text the girl and say that I thought it would be best, if we went without her friends.
Do you think it's a wise thing to ask, or should I just let her decide?
howabout you pick her up and you can go together to hang out with them - and then split from the group laterAmdi Peter wrote:
Thanks for the advice lads, it's useful
I'm actually in a bid of a dilemma again already.
I talked to my best friend at school today, and she said I should text the girl and say that I thought it would be best, if we went without her friends.
Do you think it's a wise thing to ask, or should I just let her decide?
pff, as if taking advice from you would help.Kimmmmmmmmmmmm wrote:
howabout you pick her up and you can go together to hang out with them - and then split from the group later
Rule number one: ALWAYS let her decideAmdi Peter wrote:
Thanks for the advice lads, it's useful
I'm actually in a bid of a dilemma again already.
I talked to my best friend at school today, and she said I should text the girl and say that I thought it would be best, if we went without her friends.
Do you think it's a wise thing to ask, or should I just let her decide?
Wait you said you kissed her right?.. This is strange,.. I mean considering the two of you lay in the park half the day and kissed; at least you shouldn't blame yourself for calling it a dateAmdi Peter wrote:
Well, we apparently never had a 'date' on 1. may.
(this is how it started)
We texted the day after we'd met, and she asked me if I was going to the park on 1st may.
i said maye, and then asked if we should go together, to which she answered, "yeah sure cuite".
I then, I think it was later saturday or sunday, asked if we should go, only the two of us, or with some of her friends, to which she answered, that she wasn't sure.
I then texted her about an hour ago, saying that I thought it would be really nice if we just went the two of us alone.
Her reply was, "I'm not going to that park, I'm going to another park with some of my friends".
I then wrote, "Weren't going together?", to which she replied, "I said maybe, I had to check with my other friends first, but you can come if you like".
I just replied, sure if I get to see you.
I feel kinda fucked over, like she just screwed going with me, and didn't tell, but I also feel like I didn't read her texts probably, so it's my own fault. I'm fucking depressed, thanx for the help anyway chaps.
Would you tell your best buddy if a girl came up to you and told you she liked him? Instead of telling the friend, ask the friend what the girl thinks of you.Tetn1s wrote:
should I be worried if I tell this one girl's best friend that I like the girl? I want to make sure that this girl likes me before I ask her out to avoid emberassment and awkwardness, do you think she will squeal? From how she acts I dont think she would but not sure wat girls way of thinking is. I am worried of this because she might tell the girl I like her and that will pretty much ruin anything with her because it shows that I have no confidence at all. What do you think?
What I mentWreckognize wrote:
Instead of telling the friend, ask the friend what the girl thinks of you.Tetn1s wrote:
should I be worried if I tell this one girl's best friend that I like the girl? I want to make sure that this girl likes me before I ask her out to avoid emberassment and awkwardness, do you think she will squeal? From how she acts I dont think she would but not sure wat girls way of thinking is. I am worried of this because she might tell the girl I like her and that will pretty much ruin anything with her because it shows that I have no confidence at all. What do you think?
Last edited by Tetn1s (2009-04-29 22:37:21)
No third party to be honest. Better to face embarassment and awkwardness, than using a bypass. You'll feel way more embarrassed and/or awkward when the friend does/says something stupid or generally the girl finds out before she should.Tetn1s wrote:
should I be worried if I tell this one girl's best friend that I like the girl? I want to make sure that this girl likes me before I ask her out to avoid emberassment and awkwardness, do you think she will squeal? From how she acts I dont think she would but not sure wat girls way of thinking is. I am worried of this because she might tell the girl I like her and that will pretty much ruin anything with her because it shows that I have no confidence at all. What do you think?