A few weeks ago my 9yr old son came home with a split lip, and when asked how he got it he said that a boy 2 yrs older than him had punched him twice in the face to get his lunch money.
Like most good parents I was concerned and went to see the teachers who told me they would keep an eye out for any more signs of bullying and would act accordingly. I also went to see the other kids father who promptly told me to fuck off or I would get hurt as well.
That part was funny as me (ex- army para and pathfinder) vs him (grossly overweight, IT manager) doesn't quite look fair.....but I digress.
Last friday my son came home again with bruised ribs and a cut on his scalp.....apparantly the other kid had pushed him over, kicked him whilst he was on the floor and stole his money again. I was pissed, I went to the school and was fobbed off yet again.....went to the parents house and saw his father again, he refused to open the door and shouted obscenities through the letter box.
I was in the same situation when I started secondary school (highschool)....some older kid would punch me about and steal things. I had enough of this after a week so when he hit me again I snapped, grabbed him and beat the living shit out of him until he cried.......I never got bullied again.
I told my son what happened to me and hoped the teachers would sort this out before he had to do anything of the sort.......
Monday, I had a call to collect my son from school. When I got there I was told that a teacher had seen the older child punch my son and attempt to take his money......to which my son replied by grabbing his throat and punching him repeatedly in the face..... the other kid was taken to A&E with a broken nose.
My son has always been very popular at school, highly intelligent, very sporty, always happy and has a very placid nature and wouldn't harm a fly.......but he had just had enough and has become the only child in the school to stand up for himself and say I ain't taking this shit any longer. I have always taught him that violence should not be an answer but he should never be scared of sticking up for himself.
The other kid's father has been round and apologised for his son's and his own behaviour and the bully flinchingly apologised to my son......and in the few days since this happened he has apologised to half of my sons class as well.
My son is now back to his normal happy self but now has money for his lunch
So, I'm just wondering what everyone elses views on dealing with bullies are,
should you let the school deal with it?
should you deal with it personally?
or
should you teach your children that bullies only bully people that don't strike back?
Your views please
Like most good parents I was concerned and went to see the teachers who told me they would keep an eye out for any more signs of bullying and would act accordingly. I also went to see the other kids father who promptly told me to fuck off or I would get hurt as well.
That part was funny as me (ex- army para and pathfinder) vs him (grossly overweight, IT manager) doesn't quite look fair.....but I digress.
Last friday my son came home again with bruised ribs and a cut on his scalp.....apparantly the other kid had pushed him over, kicked him whilst he was on the floor and stole his money again. I was pissed, I went to the school and was fobbed off yet again.....went to the parents house and saw his father again, he refused to open the door and shouted obscenities through the letter box.
I was in the same situation when I started secondary school (highschool)....some older kid would punch me about and steal things. I had enough of this after a week so when he hit me again I snapped, grabbed him and beat the living shit out of him until he cried.......I never got bullied again.
I told my son what happened to me and hoped the teachers would sort this out before he had to do anything of the sort.......
Monday, I had a call to collect my son from school. When I got there I was told that a teacher had seen the older child punch my son and attempt to take his money......to which my son replied by grabbing his throat and punching him repeatedly in the face..... the other kid was taken to A&E with a broken nose.
My son has always been very popular at school, highly intelligent, very sporty, always happy and has a very placid nature and wouldn't harm a fly.......but he had just had enough and has become the only child in the school to stand up for himself and say I ain't taking this shit any longer. I have always taught him that violence should not be an answer but he should never be scared of sticking up for himself.
The other kid's father has been round and apologised for his son's and his own behaviour and the bully flinchingly apologised to my son......and in the few days since this happened he has apologised to half of my sons class as well.
My son is now back to his normal happy self but now has money for his lunch
So, I'm just wondering what everyone elses views on dealing with bullies are,
should you let the school deal with it?
should you deal with it personally?
or
should you teach your children that bullies only bully people that don't strike back?
Your views please