i do think you are unnecessarily adding a lot of white noise and social work to your life by constantly trying to set up romantic liaisons at work. the workplace can be stressful and demanding enough, without the juggling and game-playing and minor everyday flirtatious rituals. you think you're having fun, but really you're just miring yourself in a quag.
IMO some form of therapy can probably do a lot to help people who may not even necessarily be at the point of needing it. Early prevention and all that. Still some annoying stigma tied to that. It'd be like as if going to your GP for a checkup means you're an invalid.
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The teacher work environment is insane and encourages this.uziq wrote:
i do think you are unnecessarily adding a lot of white noise and social work to your life by constantly trying to set up romantic liaisons at work. the workplace can be stressful and demanding enough, without the juggling and game-playing and minor everyday flirtatious rituals. you think you're having fun, but really you're just miring yourself in a quag.
I am only in the classroom for 3 and half hours a day. Half of that time I am on my phone while the kids work, or watch a video, or look at their phones. All of the teachers have this same setup where we don't do really all that much work. We spend the other 2 and a half hours hanging out in the lounge, gossiping, etc. We then spend time together outside of work. Trading stories about who slept with who. It is like high school but with grownups.
The sub teacher that is apparently burned into Newbie's soul...she got the idea to approach me because two other teachers and sub decided to set us up together while at work. Like passing off numbers between people while the kids are there oblivious to it all. It wasn't my idea. I didn't even consider it but two teachers and sub told her to write down her number and give it to me. And it all went from there.
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Final thoughts about the work girl. She is hardly innocent in all of this too. I am a wrong but apparently it was obvious to everyone we worked with that I was coming onto her and she encouraged it the whole way.
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I have to start getting ready for work. My last thought about this is how relieved I feel knowing that I am going to get help. It feels great. I feel like I am already over it by just committing to getting help, trusting the program, and listening to the doctor.
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I don't know what happened over the summer. Everything is going good. Getting laid regularly, making money, great set of work conditions. Best I have been since early college. But the thoughts of this girl were just obsessing. I think I compared every girl I was with against my idea of her and not her the person: the manic trouble maker. And when I couldn't get that, I hyped myself up into risky situations to compensate and feel better. And I can't do that anymore. The thoughts are too much. Juggling all the girls is too much.
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Thank you for hearing me out and putting up with all of this nonsense. I was probably driving the people in my personal life crazy too.
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I don't know what happened over the summer. Everything is going good. Getting laid regularly, making money, great set of work conditions. Best I have been since early college. But the thoughts of this girl were just obsessing. I think I compared every girl I was with against my idea of her and not her the person: the manic trouble maker. And when I couldn't get that, I hyped myself up into risky situations to compensate and feel better. And I can't do that anymore. The thoughts are too much. Juggling all the girls is too much.
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Thank you for hearing me out and putting up with all of this nonsense. I was probably driving the people in my personal life crazy too.
you're gonna be ok, kid!
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Thanks Paulie
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Have you tried not thinking?SuperJail Warden wrote:
Thanks I appreciate that. Probably a bit of OCD. My work friend said I am "too much in my head." I don't know how to stop the fast thinking/over thinking.
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That is something I wish to learn how to do. How to stop ruminating on things. It will be hard though since
Also remember that learning too much stuff is bad, the brain has limited capacity - if you learn too much you might push out something critical.
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And exercising is bad too. People are like batteries. Exercising is wasting battery life.
Knees have a finite number of bends.
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If you masturbate too much your penis may fall off
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So my first session of therapy was Friday. I have a follow up same time this week.
It is going good. I don't feel any stigma regarding talking to someone. I see it as a service you would buy like any other. I felt a lot better just after making the first appointment. So I laid about my situation and life and problems. I also shared some things with the therapist that I have never told anyone but felt good finally sharing.
Two things about our first session, I have learned the value of Google Calendar. I don't think this is going to be a long term thing either. I don't see myself in therapy for months and months.
It is going good. I don't feel any stigma regarding talking to someone. I see it as a service you would buy like any other. I felt a lot better just after making the first appointment. So I laid about my situation and life and problems. I also shared some things with the therapist that I have never told anyone but felt good finally sharing.
Two things about our first session, I have learned the value of Google Calendar. I don't think this is going to be a long term thing either. I don't see myself in therapy for months and months.
Don't you feel like there could be some diminishing value in therapy if you compartmentalize your experience there into little parcels for the same online boards you write your fake experiences and alternate personas?
Not trying to do a therapist's job, just wondering.
Not trying to do a therapist's job, just wondering.
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The experiences I write about here aren't fake. What do you think was a fake experience?
Your Catholic upbringing in the midwest as the son of a travelling salesman and a Nepalese gold medalist or whatever it is you come up with.
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I am trying to get help and you are dragging me back down.
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I demand an apology
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I'm just concerned that you're trivializing the whole thing by writing all these "what I learned in therapy" posts with tinges of usual insincerity. Rolling it into maybe another joke.
You do you though I guess.
You do you though I guess.
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Everyone responds to treatment differently.
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Life can be hard sometimes
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I'm not going to play unlicensed shrink for the suicide stuff beyond that if you really feel that way, hopefully you keep your therapist in the loop for treatments or referrals. Along with for any life-disruptive addictions you have, or suspect you might have.
Probably not a whole lot I could otherwise say that would be that helpful, and anyhow it would be coming from the perspective of wondering if you're doing a bit.
Probably not a whole lot I could otherwise say that would be that helpful, and anyhow it would be coming from the perspective of wondering if you're doing a bit.
Yeah don't kill yourself.
At this point you've barely experienced a small fraction of the full spectrum of human suffering, like only seeing the color purple and deciding you've had enough. Seems to me you need to stretch yourself further, reach every limit etc.
Otherwise I dunno, I think I'm not the best person to offer life or relationship advice.
At this point you've barely experienced a small fraction of the full spectrum of human suffering, like only seeing the color purple and deciding you've had enough. Seems to me you need to stretch yourself further, reach every limit etc.
Otherwise I dunno, I think I'm not the best person to offer life or relationship advice.
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There's a lot of articles about the unhelpfulness of emotional invalidation (a form of emotional abuse) and weighing one person's feelings against another's. The reason I don't like getting into it is I'm professionally unqualified to perform psychological triage, and at that level could do more harm than good.
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