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i do think you are unnecessarily adding a lot of white noise and social work to your life by constantly trying to set up romantic liaisons at work. the workplace can be stressful and demanding enough, without the juggling and game-playing and minor everyday flirtatious rituals. you think you're having fun, but really you're just miring yourself in a quag.

uziq wrote:

i do think you are unnecessarily adding a lot of white noise and social work to your life by constantly trying to set up romantic liaisons at work. the workplace can be stressful and demanding enough, without the juggling and game-playing and minor everyday flirtatious rituals. you think you're having fun, but really you're just miring yourself in a quag.

The teacher work environment is insane and encourages this.

I am only in the classroom for 3 and half hours a day. Half of that time I am on my phone while the kids work, or watch a video, or look at their phones. All of the teachers have this same setup where we don't do really all that much work. We spend the other 2 and a half hours hanging out in the lounge, gossiping, etc. We then spend time together outside of work. Trading stories about who slept with who. It is like high school but with grownups.

The sub teacher that is apparently burned into Newbie's soul...she got the idea to approach me because two other teachers and sub decided to set us up together while at work. Like passing off numbers between people while the kids are there oblivious to it all. It wasn't my idea. I didn't even consider it but two teachers and sub told her to write down her number and give it to me. And it all went from there.
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Final thoughts about the work girl. She is hardly innocent in all of this too. I am a wrong but apparently it was obvious to everyone we worked with that I was coming onto her and she encouraged it the whole way.

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Last edited by SuperJail Warden (2022-09-15 16:36:32)

you're gonna be ok, kid!

SuperJail Warden wrote:

Thanks I appreciate that. Probably a bit of OCD. My work friend said I am "too much in my head." I don't know how to stop the fast thinking/over thinking.

Have you tried not thinking?

Also remember that learning too much stuff is bad, the brain has limited capacity - if you learn too much you might push out something critical.

Knees have a finite number of bends.

So my first session of therapy was Friday. I have a follow up same time this week.

It is going good. I don't feel any stigma regarding talking to someone. I see it as a service you would buy like any other. I felt a lot better just after making the first appointment. So I laid about my situation and life and problems. I also shared some things with the therapist that I have never told anyone but felt good finally sharing.

Two things about our first session, I have learned the value of Google Calendar. I don't think this is going to be a long term thing either. I don't see myself in therapy for months and months.

The experiences I write about here aren't fake. What do you think was a fake experience?

I am trying to get help and you are dragging me back down.

Last edited by SuperJail Warden (2022-09-18 14:44:07)

I'm just concerned that you're trivializing the whole thing by writing all these "what I learned in therapy" posts with tinges of usual insincerity. Rolling it into maybe another joke.

You do you though I guess.

Last edited by unnamednewbie13 (2022-09-18 14:49:57)

Life can be hard sometimes

Last edited by SuperJail Warden (2023-02-20 14:34:48)

Yeah don't kill yourself.

At this point you've barely experienced a small fraction of the full spectrum of human suffering, like only seeing the color purple and deciding you've had enough. Seems to me you need to stretch yourself further, reach every limit etc.

Otherwise I dunno, I think I'm not the best person to offer life or relationship advice.

Every day is a new day

Last edited by SuperJail Warden (2023-02-20 14:34:32)