Here's a pic. She's a white girl with a tan complexion due to lots of Greek and Italian ancestry, she's got pretty green eyes, and she has the wide hips, skinny waist thing going on which was pretty awesome. We only had sex twice, I wish we could've done doggy style more to enjoy those hips but she was complaining about me putting a queef into her the first time(apparently doggy is the easiest position for that to happen in), so I was like nvm the next time.
SuperJail Warden wrote:I am happy for you. Tell us about the girl.
It is, I can't even describe what a relief it was although it didn't immediately hit me until some point afterward.
uziq wrote:congrats. hopefully that’s a weight off your shoulders.
We were really comfortable with each other from doing other stuff up to that point so a lot of the unfamiliarity was gone. But she was complaing about a lot of things I was doing like accidentally putting air into her or when I made a joke she considered inappropriate, but it was because I was excited. Any awkwardness was incomparable to being a 27 year old virgin before that though. The awkwardness whenever people would talk about anything of a sexual nature was instantaneous. Anytime anybody brought up the sex or relationships topic, I just had to go completely silent. I was by far the last of all my friends to lose it and that was one significant topic with them that I could never contribute to, I felt like I was less than every adult around me because I hadn't had the experience of having sex like they more than likely did. It was a massive confidence killer, I pretty much instantly dismissed any woman who ever might have showed interest in me as just being friendly because I was convinced I would fuck it up somewhere and it wasn't worth getting my hopes up. And now all of that is completely gone, I never have to worry about feeling like that again. It was undoubtedly one the most unhealthy mindsets I could possibly have had about it to let it dictate my self-worth like that, but now it's not a problem anymore.
KEN-JENNINGS wrote:I hope he came to the understanding that losing your virginity is usually a lot more awkward than being a virgin
TL;DR version of this response: It wasn't nearly as awkward as I expected my first time to be, and any amount of awkwardness still would have been better than being a late virgin.
Honestly, the actual act of sex was pretty underwhelming, but by that point, in my head I had built sex up to be something that I don't think it could ever possibly be, or at least absolutely not in the first couple of times. I will say that seeing a vagina literally dripping wet waiting for me to stick it in was a magical memory though. But I felt like I couldn't 100% relax and enjoy sex because what little romantic chemistry we had by that point(6 months) had faded away, and she kept bitching about things I was doing while having sex the first time. I eventually couldn't finish the first time because it felt like too much pressure, she had broken up with her ex because of not being able to cum. Not the greatest first time, although I was still glad to have done it and now I know I can give women orgasms. 2nd time felt a bit better, no arguing since we had already just done that beforehand, and it was also slightly easier for me to relax, and I was able to eventually cum on her boobs. But overall it just felt like I was masturbating with another person.
Superior Mind wrote:Good for you, j5. Hopefully you enjoyed it.
I apparently gave myself deathgrip syndrome too and it's hard for pussy to match the tightness and speed of your hand. I've been told that new feeling just takes some getting used to, but with only two times under my belt with somebody I didn't even have much chemistry with, I never got a chance to really start mentally enjoying sex anywhere near as much as I do with masturbation.
TL;DR version of this response: My expectations were entirely too high from being a virgin for so long and I didn't have enough experience(obviously can't be helped) or chemistry with the other person to fully enjoy sex. But I am perfectly fine with that because that just means it'll get better with the next person now that I have the confidence to do some of the heavy lifting like a guy is expected to.
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