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Nyte wrote:

This is a long one...

So I've been doing online dating for awhile now and had my fair share of crazies, normals, sluts, etc.  I even met a girl (which became an ex) off of the site I was at (PlentyOfFish).  Anyways, about 1.5 months ago, I stumbled upon a profile of a very unique girl.  She listed hobbies of "gaming, dungeons & dragons, hacking, game of thrones, rift, secret world, forgotten realms books, sci-fi, cosplay, etc."  Those interests certainly got a peak outta me because I'm very well a nerd myself.  I messaged her and we bantered back and forth exchanging our system specs, games we played, etc.

Then we exchanged our Skype usernames.  A few days later, we started to video skype and I thought we hit it off really well.  She mentioned that she worked for the US government or something (she showed me her Department of Defense Uniformed Services badge).  She mentioned that she could not talk about it because its a national security thing.  I had my doubts to that but didn't really care at the time.  Anyways, we set up a meeting date but she fails to contact me that day.  I caught her on Skype again and she mentioned she was waiting for me to call her but forgot to give me her number (she had mine though).  Ok, I let that one go.

We really exchanged numbers this time.  She mentions that she'd be gone for the next few days to Montreal for a work assignment which was fine.  I texted her a bit and she was very unresponsive (she replied back once or twice).  We were supposed to meet up on that weekend since she'd be back from her work trip but because my texts went unanswered, nothing happened.  I caught her on Skype on Tuesday and she mentioned that she did text back and showed me her phone (over Skype video) which showed some of her texts to me with an exclamation mark (which meant it didn't get sent properly).  She also mentioned that she got hung over on the weekend so wouldn't have made it out anyways.  Ok, I let those go too.  This time, we set up a real meeting on that Wednesday.

So lo and behold, I actually meet up with her that day and we ended up grabbing some nice sushi dinner.  Followed up with a nice stroll throughout the night streets and some Baskin Robbins ice cream, we talked about everything that was nerdy.  She mentioned that she's a huge Deadpool fan (and possesses every comic that featured Deadpool in it).  She mentions that she's an "oldfag" from 4Chan.  She dismantled her phone and removed her SIM card to talk about how the US government can listen in on any conversation using any phone remotely (apparently her job gives her some access to this information).  She comes from a rich family/upbringing.  The big revelations she mentioned to me are that:

1. She was engaged at 20 years old (she is currently 26) but her fiancee went overseas for military deployment and never came back...
2. She travels alot because of her job and will be travelling on September 21 to South Korea.  It will be her last contract assignment according to her.
3. She is heavy into the Dungeons & Dragons and Role Playing scene.
4. She seems to be quiet sheltered and doesn't know some basic routes in the city (her rich family kept a heavy eye on her).
5. She was heartbroken for her fallen fiancee and only started dating again recently, she hinted that I might have been the first person she met online.
6. She graduated high school at 14 and has an IQ of 156.  She ended up going to Culinary Arts at George Brown.

Anyways, the date lasted for maybe 4 or 5 hours.  I drive her back to her grandparents place (she didn't want to be seen by her parents at the late hour of 1 AM coming home).  We were at the doorway and she was acting all shy and timid with her hands crossed.  I leap in for the hug and she hugs me real hard and bites my shoulder then pushes me away.  She tells me that she has to "act like a lady on the first date" and that she can't guarantee she'll be ladylike next time I see her.  I definitely felt a sense of attraction from both sides.  She then drops the bombs: "I like you alot" and "You're very attractive."  She brings up the suggestion of us seeing a movie the next day and I agree to it.  I tell her I want to see her as much as possible before her work trip to South Korea (the date happened on August 29).  I tell her that I'll be gone September 8-15 and that the coming weekend I'll also be gone to my cottage.  Anyways, we part ways and I gleefully jump for joy that I might have caught a great gal.

The next day, I text her confirming the movie.  I get only 1 response: "Hey handsome."  I called her twice with no answer and sent her 1 txt asking when she'll be free with no response.  I leave it be.

Of course, I go off to the cottage that weekend with no net/phone access so for the next 3 days no contact.  As soon as I get back, I txt her "I'm back from cottage, let's go catch that movie!".  Her only response was "Grrr".  I sent her 2 or 3 more texts with the last one asking if she wants to see the movie tonight.  No response.

I haven't seen her on Skype since.

Now, being the slightly suspicious "information is power" individual I am, I decided to dig up as much stuff as I could about her.  From what I was able to gather, she has 2 Skype accounts.  One of them has her real name and the other one has her online name.  She uses the account without her real name for me all those times.  I was able to gather this info through some smart googling.  She has 2 Facebook accounts.  Both of which are used for some reason based on her photo updates.  The first Facebook account had a recent posting saying "I can't wait until my husband comes back from deployment!" dated November 30 2011.  Very fishy...  The second Facebook account had a play on words with her name and didn't seem to contain anything out of the ordinary.  I would venture out and guess that the first Facebook account uses her Fiancee/Husband/Whatever surname whilst the second one does not.  Also, her first Facebook account mentions that she went to York University (no program listed) and NOT George Brown college for culinary arts as she mentioned during the date.

I was able to gather that she is a model as well, and a beautiful one if I might add.  The link to her modeling page is: http://modelmayhem.com/408207

Then I was able to gather that she has at least 2 websites that seemed to be related to role playing, particularly with an emphasis on vampire/gothic culture.

Based on this information, what do you guys think? 
Is she flaky and unresponsive by nature? 
Is she a liar/cheater, is her husband actually gone or is she seeing men on the side (like me)? 
What is she (does she sound like who she says she is)?
Is she really cautious about phone devices which prevents her from calling or texting (the whole SIM card removal thing)?

I haven't contacted her for 3 days now and don't intend to again (unless she contacts me first).  Her birthday is September 15 so I was planning on sending an innocent Happy Birthday text but that's about it.

KEN-JENNINGS wrote:

Nyte wrote:

This is a long one...

So I've been doing online dating for awhile now and had my fair share of crazies, normals, sluts, etc.  I even met a girl (which became an ex) off of the site I was at (PlentyOfFish).  Anyways, about 1.5 months ago, I stumbled upon a profile of a very unique girl.  She listed hobbies of "gaming, dungeons & dragons, hacking, game of thrones, rift, secret world, forgotten realms books, sci-fi, cosplay, etc."  Those interests certainly got a peak outta me because I'm very well a nerd myself.  I messaged her and we bantered back and forth exchanging our system specs, games we played, etc.

...

I haven't contacted her for 3 days now and don't intend to again (unless she contacts me first).  Her birthday is September 15 so I was planning on sending an innocent Happy Birthday text but that's about it.

she sounds like she's a pathological liar and you should run as far away as possible.

Nyte wrote:

Trotskygrad wrote:

Nyte wrote:

Assuming she's an "oldfag" on 4Chan, she could very well screw ME over lol...  I'll make subtle gestures at it through text.

I'll send her a "Happy Birthday <insert her various online names here and Facebook names and Skype name>!"

I'm listening to you, this is amazing advice.

simple way to test, leak your advice to a trusted friend who can post it. If she's dating/seeing multiple guys she won't know who leaks. If she fucks you over you know you're the only person she was seeing.

Nyte wrote:

Which part is the lie?  That's what I'm wondering.  She definitely knows her nerdy shit.  And she definitely is smart.

probably everything about her relationships and perhaps her job

it's pretty easy to appear smart and manipulative, one girl I know actually was sort of addicted to doing that to men.

What did this girl that you speak of do exactly?

Last edited by Trotskygrad (2012-09-05 14:12:36)

Nyte wrote:

This is a long one...

So I've been doing online dating for awhile now and had my fair share of crazies, normals, sluts, etc.  I even met a girl (which became an ex) off of the site I was at (PlentyOfFish).  Anyways, about 1.5 months ago, I stumbled upon a profile of a very unique girl.  She listed hobbies of "gaming, dungeons & dragons, hacking, game of thrones, rift, secret world, forgotten realms books, sci-fi, cosplay, etc."  Those interests certainly got a peak outta me because I'm very well a nerd myself.  I messaged her and we bantered back and forth exchanging our system specs, games we played, etc.

Then we exchanged our Skype usernames.  A few days later, we started to video skype and I thought we hit it off really well.  She mentioned that she worked for the US government or something (she showed me her Department of Defense Uniformed Services badge).  She mentioned that she could not talk about it because its a national security thing.  I had my doubts to that but didn't really care at the time.  Anyways, we set up a meeting date but she fails to contact me that day.  I caught her on Skype again and she mentioned she was waiting for me to call her but forgot to give me her number (she had mine though).  Ok, I let that one go.

We really exchanged numbers this time.  She mentions that she'd be gone for the next few days to Montreal for a work assignment which was fine.  I texted her a bit and she was very unresponsive (she replied back once or twice).  We were supposed to meet up on that weekend since she'd be back from her work trip but because my texts went unanswered, nothing happened.  I caught her on Skype on Tuesday and she mentioned that she did text back and showed me her phone (over Skype video) which showed some of her texts to me with an exclamation mark (which meant it didn't get sent properly).  She also mentioned that she got hung over on the weekend so wouldn't have made it out anyways.  Ok, I let those go too.  This time, we set up a real meeting on that Wednesday.

So lo and behold, I actually meet up with her that day and we ended up grabbing some nice sushi dinner.  Followed up with a nice stroll throughout the night streets and some Baskin Robbins ice cream, we talked about everything that was nerdy.  She mentioned that she's a huge Deadpool fan (and possesses every comic that featured Deadpool in it).  She mentions that she's an "oldfag" from 4Chan.  She dismantled her phone and removed her SIM card to talk about how the US government can listen in on any conversation using any phone remotely (apparently her job gives her some access to this information).  She comes from a rich family/upbringing.  The big revelations she mentioned to me are that:

1. She was engaged at 20 years old (she is currently 26) but her fiancee went overseas for military deployment and never came back...
2. She travels alot because of her job and will be travelling on September 21 to South Korea.  It will be her last contract assignment according to her.
3. She is heavy into the Dungeons & Dragons and Role Playing scene.
4. She seems to be quiet sheltered and doesn't know some basic routes in the city (her rich family kept a heavy eye on her).
5. She was heartbroken for her fallen fiancee and only started dating again recently, she hinted that I might have been the first person she met online.
6. She graduated high school at 14 and has an IQ of 156.  She ended up going to Culinary Arts at George Brown.

Anyways, the date lasted for maybe 4 or 5 hours.  I drive her back to her grandparents place (she didn't want to be seen by her parents at the late hour of 1 AM coming home).  We were at the doorway and she was acting all shy and timid with her hands crossed.  I leap in for the hug and she hugs me real hard and bites my shoulder then pushes me away.  She tells me that she has to "act like a lady on the first date" and that she can't guarantee she'll be ladylike next time I see her.  I definitely felt a sense of attraction from both sides.  She then drops the bombs: "I like you alot" and "You're very attractive."  She brings up the suggestion of us seeing a movie the next day and I agree to it.  I tell her I want to see her as much as possible before her work trip to South Korea (the date happened on August 29).  I tell her that I'll be gone September 8-15 and that the coming weekend I'll also be gone to my cottage.  Anyways, we part ways and I gleefully jump for joy that I might have caught a great gal.

The next day, I text her confirming the movie.  I get only 1 response: "Hey handsome."  I called her twice with no answer and sent her 1 txt asking when she'll be free with no response.  I leave it be.

Of course, I go off to the cottage that weekend with no net/phone access so for the next 3 days no contact.  As soon as I get back, I txt her "I'm back from cottage, let's go catch that movie!".  Her only response was "Grrr".  I sent her 2 or 3 more texts with the last one asking if she wants to see the movie tonight.  No response.

I haven't seen her on Skype since.

Now, being the slightly suspicious "information is power" individual I am, I decided to dig up as much stuff as I could about her.  From what I was able to gather, she has 2 Skype accounts.  One of them has her real name and the other one has her online name.  She uses the account without her real name for me all those times.  I was able to gather this info through some smart googling.  She has 2 Facebook accounts.  Both of which are used for some reason based on her photo updates.  The first Facebook account had a recent posting saying "I can't wait until my husband comes back from deployment!" dated November 30 2011.  Very fishy...  The second Facebook account had a play on words with her name and didn't seem to contain anything out of the ordinary.  I would venture out and guess that the first Facebook account uses her Fiancee/Husband/Whatever surname whilst the second one does not.  Also, her first Facebook account mentions that she went to York University (no program listed) and NOT George Brown college for culinary arts as she mentioned during the date.

I was able to gather that she is a model as well, and a beautiful one if I might add.  The link to her modeling page is: http://modelmayhem.com/408207

Then I was able to gather that she has at least 2 websites that seemed to be related to role playing, particularly with an emphasis on vampire/gothic culture.

Based on this information, what do you guys think? 
Is she flaky and unresponsive by nature? 
Is she a liar/cheater, is her husband actually gone or is she seeing men on the side (like me)? 
What is she (does she sound like who she says she is)?
Is she really cautious about phone devices which prevents her from calling or texting (the whole SIM card removal thing)?

I haven't contacted her for 3 days now and don't intend to again (unless she contacts me first).  Her birthday is September 15 so I was planning on sending an innocent Happy Birthday text but that's about it.

Macbeth wrote:

The collection of lies. The disappearing. The comic book collection and role playing websites. Her 4chan membership. The multiple Facebooks

Her modeling page wrote:

no implied nudity/erotic/bikini/lingerie/video vixen type shoots.

You could be dealing with a man in women's clothing or as they call them on 4chan- traps
also

She tells me that she has to "act like a lady on the first date" and that she can't guarantee she'll be ladylike next time I see her.

Are you a Lolita?: Actually, I’m a “Goth”. If that means I favor dark colored clothing, corsets, suits… etc. I like Victorian, 1950’s pinup and Gothic Lolita or Elegant Lolita type styles.

Nyte wrote:

I found her blog at http://dasbeautifulbeast.tumblr.com/

Note that she says she is engaged in the latest post which is dated April 2012.  For someone that told me she was engaged when she was 20 and lost her fiancee around the same time, seems odds that she still says that and immediately went back and started dating people.

I also did notice a ring on her left ring finger one time on Skype video chat.  In person, she had moved the ring to her right finger.  I never inquired as to the purpose of that ring.