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krazed wrote:

ghettoperson wrote:

Uh, thoughts/advice on the first date whatever? Should I call her like twice between now and then even though I never do? My friend said that he asked his girlfriend on the first date for a kiss ("at the right moment"), to which she accepted. Most of all, how should I bring up my friend to her? Should I straight up ask if she likes him? How do I handle this with my friend? Anyone?

3. Fuck your friend, if he's not moving fast enough you're allowed to step in. It's every man for himself. Sort of.

indeed, he hasn't done anything to advance it so he loses.

Unless they're actually in a relationship, the rules for two friends pursuing the same girl are simple:

1. Do not deliberately cockblock eachother, hinder or sabotage the other's efforts
2. Do not be restrained in your own efforts either

That way it remains fair. If it was me I'd also tell my friend I am after the same girl, to prevent hindsight accusations, but it isn't absolutely necessary. If your friend backstabs, fat chance the girl will hold it against him if she finds out, and there's always swords and pistols. I've been there more often than I would've liked. Sometimes it worked out for me, sometimes it didn't, but never with any regrets.

My friend (female) was once chasing a guy, while another guy was chasing her. She didn't know that at the time so that guy told her the guy she was chasing was gay (which he wasn't). Needless to say, that didn't win her over, especially when she did find out.

Little BaBy JESUS wrote:

it all depends on what sort of person you friend is and how they broke up. I fucked a friends ex once (they'd been separated a few weeks) and I admitted to him the next day and he was cool with it (he was banging someone else anyway)...
so it could be bad... but it could be nothing.

If I broke up with my girl and didn't care anymore, I wouldn't care. If I did still care, I'd probably be happy that she went off with one of my mates rather than some random douche.

siihb

ig wrote:

been talkin to this chick for the past couple weeks, and im starting to like her, i think. i know shes into me more than im into her, so i dont really know how to go about this. we have a lot in common, and shes def not your avg college girl/slut/party girl. still hasnt let me hit it after a week or 2, even though weve only hung out 3 times, which is actually kinda a good thing since im not into sluts. ive never really wanted a gf, but i mean how long can i go being lame and single? i dont really know what im trying to get out of this post, so i guess just throw up some opinions on how i should play this

You sound like a gay.

then don't. i married at 28, and haven't regretted it. my brothers, who married @ 21 & 20, are both divorced.

the only reason i am married, is i found the right one.

SamTheMan wrote:

my sisters 21 and shes getting married soon, should i tell her to call it off?

ask her one question - is this the bloke she wants to grow old with? y/n

if yes, then yes

if no, g t f o

Lai wrote:

krazed wrote:

ghettoperson wrote:

3. Fuck your friend, if he's not moving fast enough you're allowed to step in. It's every man for himself. Sort of.

indeed, he hasn't done anything to advance it so he loses.

Unless they're actually in a relationship, the rules for two friends pursuing the same girl are simple:

1. Do not deliberately cockblock eachother, hinder or sabotage the other's efforts
2. Do not be restrained in your own efforts either

That way it remains fair. If it was me I'd also tell my friend I am after the same girl, to prevent hindsight accusations, but it isn't absolutely necessary. If your friend backstabs, fat chance the girl will hold it against him if she finds out, and there's always swords and pistols. I've been there more often than I would've liked. Sometimes it worked out for me, sometimes it didn't, but never with any regrets.

My friend (female) was once chasing a guy, while another guy was chasing her. She didn't know that at the time so that guy told her the guy she was chasing was gay (which he wasn't). Needless to say, that didn't win her over, especially when she did find out.

Little BaBy JESUS wrote:

it all depends on what sort of person you friend is and how they broke up. I fucked a friends ex once (they'd been separated a few weeks) and I admitted to him the next day and he was cool with it (he was banging someone else anyway)...
so it could be bad... but it could be nothing.

If I broke up with my girl and didn't care anymore, I wouldn't care. If I did still care, I'd probably be happy that she went off with one of my mates rather than some random douche.

Well a friend needs to ask if he wants to date his buddy's ex. It's a matter of trust. But either way it's not a good thing because when you all hang out it brings the wrong memories.

/rant 1

Was about to ask this girl out and then during the conversation I found out she had kid.  Fuck.  That's the third girl in a row with a kid.  What the hell do women now-a-days have kids with the first drop of sperm that meets their lips?  Gee wiz.

/rant 0

ghettoperson wrote:

How old was she?

24, 25, 29

Harmor wrote:

/rant 1

Was about to ask this girl out and then during the conversation I found out she had kid.  Fuck.  That's the third girl in a row with a kid.  What the hell do women now-a-days have kids with the first drop of sperm that meets their lips?  Gee wiz.

/rant 0

Aren't you like 35? You'd be lucky to find a woman who's not even married. Most girls are getting kids at like 26ish now.

Right,.. this one is not terribly important, but it got me puzzled. Mostly thinking out loud below:

Spend half an evening chatting to a girl at a party. Absolutely great party it was actually, but I left early because I had to get up for a conference the next day at 6:00. Exchanged Facebook details with several people before I left (I knew no-one prior to the party).

Fast forward several months. Notice girl on campus on several occasions, no signs of her even remembering me, and frankly I had no real interest in the girl other than platonic interest. We got along great, but I guess I had just friend-zoned her if you like, and thus I couldn't be bothered.

Fast forward to the end of the year. Bump into girl in rather confined space. Seems rather rude not even to say hi, so I say hi. Girl does remember me, where I'm from, my occupation etc. End up chatting again and I help girl out with some vital assignment. I accompany said girl across town, then have to leave early again to meet a deadline (seriously, I am usually quite easy with deadlines, smarttalk my way past them and would have ignored said deadline if it wasn't thís important). I was thinking of throwing a party before leaving the country and suggest that girl, if still around, comes too. Girl is happy too and reminds me that we are on Facebook.

Party is not going to happen and I'm still leaving the country, so absolutely no point there. However, I can't remember any updates from her in ages so check out Facebook in curiosity. She isn't there,.. at least not anymore. Now I never unfriend people unless they're complete cunts, because its rude. That means she must have unfriended me ages ago. Makes sense as I wasn't very engaging I guess, yet she brought up that we were on it. That doesn't make much sense to me. What do you guys think? Sloppy PR blunder on the girl's side?

Spoiler (highlight to read):
Prolly just refriending her for the sake of it. Just find this rather odd.

True, but if you don't care, why would you?

Lai wrote:

True, but if you don't care, why would you?

shes just not that into you. or she would have remembered you and not delete you.