The BF2s girl-problems thread

2010-07-03 06:03:09

#5226

Archer: rapes face; +161|6430|Canuckistan

Lai wrote:
I think both of you are waaaaaaaaay past that. You don't need a question that might lead to a date, you need a question for a date. Don't call it a date if that's not your style. Personally I hate fixed determinations. Just ask her to go somewhere nice, preferably not the movies actually. You seem to know her quite long/well so you should be able to think of something more 'tailored' to the two of you. You can add that it would be just the two of you if you want to make sure. If she doesn't get thát,.. I'll report you for dating an infant XD

So I just ask her to go to <place> outright without warning? How do I even imply that it would just be the two of us? We're always around friends. In what manner would I ask that wouldn't look weird/offensive in regards to my cocky self? Are you sure complimenting (and immediately following up with my invitation) her when she's staring me down wouldn't work in my favor due to petty flattery?

P.S. I'm 16, does that change anything? ><
Also lmao, only I would cockblock myself. Gah.

Uzique, I don't understand.. "getting on with it" sounds pretty vague tbh lol

thanks guys.

Last edited by Archer (2010-07-03 06:31:23)

2010-07-03 06:12:23

#5227

Uzique: dasein.; +2,865|6477

"getting on with it" means the best way to interact with girls and develop/maintain/solve relationships is to actually go out and get stuck in them. you can hypothetically talk about this or this and that then this etc. the best guide in relationships is your own personal intuition and your ability at judging situations on-the-spot as they develop. similarly, your best strength in picking up and developing a relationship is your inter-personal skills with the girl... which aren't going to be developed by talking about the girl or your problems endlessly on the internet. this thread is good as a total last-resort; it's good when you're exasperated or frustrated to the point of no-end and need a "now what?" moment. but the 'grassroots' parts of relationships cannot be taught.

Last edited by Uzique (2010-07-03 06:14:19)

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2010-07-03 06:37:01

#5228

Lai: Member; +186|6157

Archer wrote:
Lai wrote:
I think both of you are waaaaaaaaay past that. You don't need a question that might lead to a date, you need a question for a date. Don't call it a date if that's not your style. Personally I hate fixed determinations. Just ask her to go somewhere nice, preferably not the movies actually. You seem to know her quite long/well so you should be able to think of something more 'tailored' to the two of you. You can add that it would be just the two of you if you want to make sure. If she doesn't get thát,.. I'll report you for dating an infant XD
So I just ask her to go to <place> outright without warning? How do I even imply that it would just be the two of us? We're always around friends. In what manner would I ask that wouldn't look weird/offensive in regards to my cocky self? Are you sure complimenting (and immediately following up with my invitation) her when she's staring me down wouldn't work in my favor due to petty flattery?

P.S. I'm 16, does that change anything? ><
Also lmao, only I would cockblock myself. Gah.

Uzique, I don't understand.. "getting on with it" sounds pretty vague tbh lol

thanks guys.

No being 16 changes nothing.

But pfooooooo,.. of course I can't be sure petty flattery doesn't work, but from your story I got that it's not your style and generally speaking, trying to be something/someone you're not is not gonna work in your advantage.

And yes, outright without warning would be the best way. You actually want it to be a bit weird/offensive, that is how you imply it is not just for with a group of friends. Other than that you don't imply anything. If she doesn't get it, you just say it. Like: "we could just go together" or something along that line.

2010-07-03 10:13:21

#5229

Archer: rapes face; +161|6430|Canuckistan

Alright, after talking it over with my mate it turns out she said "I wasn't expecting that. O_o" to "Sure" after a lot of awkward "Ummmms". (Keep in mind that this on the way to a really long rollercoaster climb.) I don't really know what to take from this, they're still going out to dinner and I'm just kind of left on the sidelines what's going on. Should I still legitimately ask her out? :S

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2010-07-03 10:21:04

#5230

Lai: Member; +186|6157

Hmmm,..you got yourself a nice one there

I'd still say you've a fair chance. By the sound of it she is just being polite. However, I wouldn't ask her out untill a bit after their date. It's rather rude to jump in between, and it's not a game of darts were each player has his turn.

2010-07-03 10:45:37

#5231

=NHB=Shadow: hi; +322|6372|California

Just do it.

2010-07-03 11:21:00

#5232

Gooners: Wiki Contributor; +2,700|6638

brown parents ftw?

2010-07-03 11:58:13

#5233

krazed: Admiral of the Bathtub; +619|6786|Great Brown North

challeng your friend to a duel

a duel with pool noodles (since you're too young to have pistols)

2010-07-03 12:56:37

#5234

SEREMAKER: BABYMAKIN EXPERT √; +2,187|6574|Mountains of NC

both drop drawers .... whos got the biggest junk ........... wins

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2010-07-03 13:38:30

#5235

Archer: rapes face; +161|6430|Canuckistan

Meh, screw it. I don't get to see her until the end of this month and things are complicated enough already. Not counting on her to embrace and fawn over me when I do. We'll see what happens.

2010-07-03 13:39:50

#5236

FFLink: There is.; +1,380|6697|Devon, England

Why don't you IRC anymore? I loved your racism.

2010-07-04 01:27:37

#5237

..teddy..jimmy: Member; +1,393|6655

Just man up and ask her out bud...I can't tell you the countless times I wish I asked a girl out, didn't and regretted it. The worst that can happen is the awkward situation that might arise if she rejects you but at least you know where you stand and can get on with your love life rather than faffing about.

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2010-07-04 02:20:39

#5238

Jaekus: I'm the matchstick that you'll never lose; +957|5185|Sydney

I went to the bus last night and a girl got there at the same time as I. She was pretty cute and we checked out the timetable together and started to chat, then the bus came. We sat at opposite seats and I wondered how I could get her name or number without seeming like a weirdo, then her stop came and she looked a little flushed, gave me a smile and said "have a good night" and got off the bus. All I know is she must live near me (I heard her walking down the street across the road from my house when I walked out the front door, her calf high boots clacking on the footpath) and she goes to uni, probably the one also near me.

I regret not taking the chance but I might see her again...

2010-07-04 04:02:58

#5239

Zimmer: Un Moderador; +1,688|6762|Scotland

Jaekus wrote:
I went to the bus last night and a girl got there at the same time as I. She was pretty cute and we checked out the timetable together and started to chat, then the bus came. We sat at opposite seats and I wondered how I could get her name or number without seeming like a weirdo, then her stop came and she looked a little flushed, gave me a smile and said "have a good night" and got off the bus. All I know is she must live near me (I heard her walking down the street across the road from my house when I walked out the front door, her calf high boots clacking on the footpath) and she goes to uni, probably the one also near me.

I regret not taking the chance but I might see her again...

You're a tool.

Just go up to her and say "I know this is a bit forward, but could I get your number?" or "Now we've spoken a bit, I'd like your number". You got to be confident in these situations, even if you're shitting it inside. If you act casual about it all, then she'll like that and gladly give it to you. The "shy" move also works, but it entirely depends on the girl then.

Or, "Hey, you seem like a really nice girl, can I get your number?". It's not hard, and if you think there could be something there, don't even hesitate in doing it. The only reason you shouldn't is if she's with her boyfriend... something which I learnt the hard way. Still, not my fault as she was the one staring at me lulz.

2010-07-04 04:03:55

#5240

Jaekus: I'm the matchstick that you'll never lose; +957|5185|Sydney

I've been out of the game for a while, but yeah I'll do it next time.

2010-07-04 04:10:50

#5241

Zimmer: Un Moderador; +1,688|6762|Scotland

Jaekus wrote:
I've been out of the game for a while, but yeah I'll do it next time.

The one that has never failed is "Hi, what's your name?".

I've used "Hey, I'm sorry but you're two absolutely stunning girls, can I get your numbers?" and that's never failed. Always been better in groups, but works equally well with one girl.

2010-07-04 04:13:01

#5242

Jaekus: I'm the matchstick that you'll never lose; +957|5185|Sydney

Ahh you're making me regret it even more!

2010-07-04 04:16:24

#5243

Ioan92: Member; +337|5728

Zimmer wrote:
Jaekus wrote:
I've been out of the game for a while, but yeah I'll do it next time.
The one that has never failed is "Hi, what's your name?".

I've used "Hey, I'm sorry but you're two absolutely stunning girls, can I get your numbers?" and that's never failed. Always been better in groups, but works equally well with one girl.

HAH!, if you knew what opportunity I missed lately you would kill yourself.

So me and her talking on net, always super friendly to me, fuck, she even likes BC2... Or I think. I ask her wassup, she super bored, I am too, I could of asked her out, but NOOOOOOOOOO

Instead we played chess together.

iFail

2010-07-04 04:22:24

#5244

Zimmer: Un Moderador; +1,688|6762|Scotland

Ioan92 wrote:
Zimmer wrote:
Jaekus wrote:
I've been out of the game for a while, but yeah I'll do it next time.
The one that has never failed is "Hi, what's your name?".

I've used "Hey, I'm sorry but you're two absolutely stunning girls, can I get your numbers?" and that's never failed. Always been better in groups, but works equally well with one girl.
HAH!, if you knew what opportunity I missed lately you would kill yourself.

So me and her talking on net, always super friendly to me, fuck, she even likes BC2... Or I think. I ask her wassup, she super bored, I am too, I could of asked her out, but NOOOOOOOOOO

Instead we played chess together.

iFail

You can come back for that and ask her some other time, but when you physically meet a girl and don't know if you're going to see her again, you're kinda royally fucked. See example: Jaekus.

2010-07-04 04:25:32

#5245

Jaekus: I'm the matchstick that you'll never lose; +957|5185|Sydney

2010-07-04 04:26:53

#5246

PrivateVendetta: I DEMAND XMAS THEME; +704|6197|Roma

Yeah Jaekus, you really fucked up.

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2010-07-04 04:41:31

#5247

Jaekus: I'm the matchstick that you'll never lose; +957|5185|Sydney

Jeez dude, I know!

2010-07-04 05:00:58

#5248

Adams_BJ: Russian warship, go fuck yourself; +2,053|6629|Little Bentcock

yeah, jeez jaekus

2010-07-04 05:03:26

#5249

Jaekus: I'm the matchstick that you'll never lose; +957|5185|Sydney

Pretty sure she lives in my area, she was walking past my house to the bus stop 50 metres down the road, and she said she goes to uni where my flatmate also studies. I might ask her if she knows of anyone in the area who goes to uni who fits her description. I missed the boat and I'm pissed at myself.

2010-07-04 05:08:58

#5250

Adams_BJ: Russian warship, go fuck yourself; +2,053|6629|Little Bentcock

hopefully she'll walk past again

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