BF2S Forums What do i say to my mom

AussieReaper wrote:

You'll know what to say when you see her.

another friend told me this also

Burwhale wrote:

So sorry Mitch.
Tell her you love her and that she was a great mum. Tell her that you couldnt have a better mother.
Again, So sorry to hear about this.
Take care mate.

this sad news for you, Mitch
I would be really depressed and sadness if I was in your position.
I think what moms appreciate from their sons is that they have made everything to make you happy and tell how precious she is for you.

Everything that could be said has been said here. Good luck to you, Mitch. Got a prayer from me.

Best of luck in this situation, Mitch. I can only imagine how hard this must be on you.

Just make sure you're there for her and tell her anything you want to have said.

MItch, that's fucking awful, I'm so sorry to hear that. No one should have to be put through something like this with their parents when they're so young. As most people have said, I really couldn't tell you what to say, I guess you'll just figure it out when you're there. Just spend as much time as possible with her.

I spent most of the day there yesterday, when i first walked into the room and saw her i instantly wanted to break down. She looked as if she aged by a few decades. I almost didn't recognise her. She has moments of clarity that last about 5 seconds, but most of her time is awake, but confused/dreamy.

What i did learn however, is that right now its a Utrack infection thats causing her to be in this condition, not the cancer yet. So if they have some luck, and can get rid of the infection, they may be able to get more time. Right now the confusion and haze is being caused by amonia levels in her brain (effects of cancer not worth getting into) so hopefully the medicine they're giving her will remove that, and help her come back to reality.

Yesterday i couldn't compose myself but today is easier.

Just be there.

No need to say anything, no need for prepared speeches or goodbyes. Just be there.

Fuck.

I have no idea, the only people I've lost were my Grandad, I was pretty young, so I didn't see him, and my Gran, I was told after she died.

I have no idea. Try to keep her happy. Perhaps don't say goodbye, say you'll see her soon, depends on what she/you believe tbh.

Just do all you can to make sure her last days are filled with happiness.

Mitch wrote:

January 7th, 2010. At about 9:08 PM. My mom passed away. Myself, her brother, sister, and husband where around her, talking to her, holding her hand. Telling her she's so loved, and that she's the best.

I held strong when i needed to. Something kept me strong in the final moments when i had to be. The other 3 were crying but i just kept calm and talked to her in a strong calm voice. Im glad i could do this.

I just hope its true what i've read, that the brain floods with endorphins right before death. I hope thats true, and i hope it caused her to feel happiness. As big of an atheist as i am, i don't believe there's a heaven, but i sure hope there's a heaven. I would love to be wrong.

I'm very sorry for your loss Mitch. I hope you deal with it well. I know it's not easy, bereavement, but you stay strong and get through it.

“One of the hardest things in life is having words in your heart that you can't utter.” - James Earl Jones