cpt.fass1 wrote:
Yeah but I really like drunk me.. Drunk me gets the girls interested where sober me loses them.. Drunk me is always having fun, sober me watches TV. Drunk me if really really funny, sober me hates everyone..
Should I just become a drunk?
there are alternatives to drinking that improve self confidence.
+ try joining toastmasters international (group that encourages public speaking). this helps you to break the ice and start up conversations with anyone.
+ work out like a mad man. gaining some muscle mass can help improve your confidence level and is attractive to many ladies.
+ talk to a therapist. maybe your insecurities can be overcome by talking them out with someone in confidence
drinking in moderation is ok but if you need it to be 'fun' or use it as a 'crutch' then it is a slippery slope that can lead to addiction. cool drunk guy is fun for about 10 mins but after a while it can get very annoying and you may end up alienating some good people. not to mention the detrimental physical aspects of heavy drinking (belly, that alcohol smell your body gives off even the next day after showering, liver problems, etc). my view is don't use drinking as a way to be 'fun'. in long run, you are asking for trouble. the real you is much more interesting to people.
overall, try to find things that are making you feel somewhat insecure. try to overcome these fears by confronting them head on. be headstrong and resolute that you will break through those personal barriers. on a personal note, i was very afraid of heights until i tried climbing Mt. Shasta in CA (at 14k feet). after a while, you realize you aren't gonna die and you overcome the fear. now, i can walk around on the roof no problem, etc. you will overcome it - just confront it and be strong
good luck to you!
