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I thought about that but the problem is i can't work and make any money while i stay there. A normal salary for a worker therm is 15 dollar a month.
Therefore i would need to save up at least 20 000 dollars in the bank to have a at least decent life for us there. it would probably take me two years to save up that amount of money so unfortunately that is not an option.

Talk to her a lot via something like Skype, so you can still see each other. And I'm not saying it won't work for you, but I know a number of people that have been in the same situation (well, without the crazy Cuban laws thing) and it's never worked, ever.

that's great man

Metal-Eater-GR wrote:

As ghetto quoted above,get skype,or download MSN.

My experience of the Cuban internet, and the expensiveness to ordinary Cubans thereof, makes the idea a complete non-runner. I used to go out with a Panamanian girl and we only got to see each other a few times a year - it was tough, and it eventually ended because of my frustration. You're going to need to be incredibly strong-minded to make this work, the best bet is moving there. I've a buddy who's going out with a girl from India and they seem to be going strong so it can work. My girlfriend right now is Canadian but thankfully she lives and works in Ireland. She's in Canada right now for Christmas and we use Skype, MSN and international phone cards to keep in touch. A webcam really makes a difference in a long distance relationship but, as I said, I don't think that's a runner in Cuba.

Last edited by CameronPoe (2008-01-12 15:15:36)

My fiancée is studying in the US, so I can sympathise with your situation. We still manage to spend a quarter of every year together, though. Typically I use my five weeks of vacation plus the free week over the holidays to spend about a month and a half in the US, three weeks in spring and three weeks during the holidays, and she spends a month and a few weeks here in Denmark when she's out over the summer, and that works just fine for us.

I don't know how your financial situation is, but it has never really felt terribly expensive to me. I just have to have a low key month after getting the tickets, and that's all of the economic woes I have.

There's nothing that tests commitment like a long distance relationship, and nothing that reaffirms affection like meeting up every few months as opposed to a few times a week or more, but it still does require that you see eachother at least two or three times a year. Long distance relationships only work if you have certain dates to look forward to, and certain goals to work towards, as the status quo in a relationship like that inherently sucks, and isn't something you want to sit around enjoying.

D6717C wrote:

Isn't Castro about to kick the bucket? You think that will make a difference?

Nope.

Skype/msn/any other communication service.

-konfusion

how about looking into less legal methods?

m3thod wrote:

how about looking into less legal methods?

That's what we have been trying for the past two years and it's quite difficult.

One option is to try and bribe somebody at the immigrations office, but since most people working there are military and not the least convinced communists, it's hard. We tried so many times that we need to lay low for some time or the government might take actions against her. For example prolonging the waiting period with god knows how many years and we can't risk that.

Another option is to try to get her to Florida with boat, but that costs like 10 000 dollars and is very risky. Which means at the moment we need to wait and see what opportunities comes up.

Edit: And the thing is that even if i manage to smuggle her out of cuba and get her to Sweden without applying for the permanent visa at the Swedish embassy in Havana. she will still be a illegal alien in Sweden with no rights to healthe care, work or anything.

Last edited by klassekock (2008-01-16 08:07:37)

Tough one.

I'm in a similar situation but we've decided it is better for her to move to live with me so I'm working my ass off trying to get the "nest" ready.  We talk on the phone almost daily (I have awesome LD with my telco) so at least we have that.

It is very hard but if you both keep the result in mind it makes the tough times much easier.  For myself I know that once my wife is here I'll forget all about the time it took to get us to that moment.

Besides, real love can withstand the wait easy.  There is a romantic part to you moving to live with her until she can leave but is that really practical?