Gonna park my wall of text here so maybe someone else can feel better about their problems:
Good friend of mine broke up with his GF 7 months ago because he wanted to go out more after a 6-7 year relationship. In the end he just gets drunk with some other friends on weekends and even on weekdays.
So, since i kinda stopped "drinking till coma" years ago i see most of them less now (coma is a bit exaggerated). And instead i often visit a good female friend of ours (ex-gf and me) and we have a coffee/beer together and talk.
Two weeks ago i fell in love with said ex-GF, life is hell since then. So i told her last weekend that i fell in love with her and she texted me back that she'd like to be friends with her ex and she wouldn't want to destroy my friendship to him.
And somehow i don't care, it seems he only comes over for a coffee when no one else has time or whatever so fuck that.
Invited her for a coffee to my place the next day to talk and she told me some things.
Her ex told her very proud how he likes to be single which tbfh sounds like "u suck im better off without ya" and he said if she engages with someone he knows he would find a non-verbal solution.
Hes going to a gym very often and is a fuckn egomaniac but it doesn't scare me if he really has the balls to punch me, and i told her that id rather live without him then her.
And after asking if she feels anythin for me, she told me that she isnt ready for a new relationship as long as this isnt cleared or somethin and her head wouldn't allow it to feel anything then friendship for some1 new.
That was 4days ago so im going to ask her on weekend if she finally gives up on trying to be friends with her ex gf idiot and just hope i don't end up in friend-zone.
So in conclusion: FML
Good friend of mine broke up with his GF 7 months ago because he wanted to go out more after a 6-7 year relationship. In the end he just gets drunk with some other friends on weekends and even on weekdays.
So, since i kinda stopped "drinking till coma" years ago i see most of them less now (coma is a bit exaggerated). And instead i often visit a good female friend of ours (ex-gf and me) and we have a coffee/beer together and talk.
Two weeks ago i fell in love with said ex-GF, life is hell since then. So i told her last weekend that i fell in love with her and she texted me back that she'd like to be friends with her ex and she wouldn't want to destroy my friendship to him.
And somehow i don't care, it seems he only comes over for a coffee when no one else has time or whatever so fuck that.
Invited her for a coffee to my place the next day to talk and she told me some things.
Her ex told her very proud how he likes to be single which tbfh sounds like "u suck im better off without ya" and he said if she engages with someone he knows he would find a non-verbal solution.
Hes going to a gym very often and is a fuckn egomaniac but it doesn't scare me if he really has the balls to punch me, and i told her that id rather live without him then her.
And after asking if she feels anythin for me, she told me that she isnt ready for a new relationship as long as this isnt cleared or somethin and her head wouldn't allow it to feel anything then friendship for some1 new.
That was 4days ago so im going to ask her on weekend if she finally gives up on trying to be friends with her ex gf idiot and just hope i don't end up in friend-zone.
So in conclusion: FML