This is because he would rather you take her to prom than some other guy who won't have the same respect for the girl that you do I took my best mates girlfriend (who was also one of my best mates) to prom.Bevo wrote:
I wouldn't say it happens in all cases. One of my friends is dating a guy I used to play baseball with - we text each other sometimes when we're bored, just casual blah blah blah. He doesn't mind at all - infact, he asked me to take her to prom, since he was 5 hours away at college. It's kind of a mutual trust thing, and it doesn't always exist.
Yer. These are true friends.JakAttaK wrote:
This is because he would rather you take her to prom than some other guy who won't have the same respect for the girl that you do I took my best mates girlfriend (who was also one of my best mates) to prom.Bevo wrote:
I wouldn't say it happens in all cases. One of my friends is dating a guy I used to play baseball with - we text each other sometimes when we're bored, just casual blah blah blah. He doesn't mind at all - infact, he asked me to take her to prom, since he was 5 hours away at college. It's kind of a mutual trust thing, and it doesn't always exist.
(I didn't actually end up taking her, she had plans with her friends all going "single" together)
@ Lai: Is this the same one you were talking about earlier? It was a good read. I can't say I have any opinions or advice because I would have no basis. If it becomes an issue, drop it like it's hot.
No, Most definitely not!!!Bevo wrote:
@ Lai: Is this the same one you were talking about earlier?
If this would apply to the one I was talking about earlier, I wouldn't have had a problem in the first place. This girl has been a close friend for years, there is never the slightest awkwardness between us. With the girl I talked about earlier, everything tends to be awkward. That's the point I guess, I have no problems at all in maintaining (very close) platonic friendly relationships with women, just this particular case,..Lai wrote:
Neither of us has ever shown any interest in the other, not when the other was available nor when the other was taken.
I have another problem this time it concerns me.
My girlfriends cousin just moved to town a few weeks ago. Her and my girlfriend have been arguing and fighting and what not since she moved here. Anyway I didnt know about my girlfriends cousin (lets call her jane) until last night. Last night she added me on facebook and we started talking. We talked on facebook till 4 in the fucking morning about random shit. I enjoyed it to say the least. Before we went to bed we decided that we were going to hang out today so we could meet eachother. We did and just basically walked around talking. I never knew this girl existed till last night and now I am friends with her because we started a random convo on facebook. Here is the problem. My girlfriend is very jealous type and she doesn't know that I hung out with jane today or talked to her last night. And the thing is I actually really like jane. We seem to have lots in common and I just feel comfortable around her. Its hard to explain. I could see myself actually doing the dirty with this girl all night long. I have been thinking lately about breaking things off with my girlfriend and exploring the fish tank abit. Should I keep seeing jane and find out how it goes or stop seeing her?
My girlfriends cousin just moved to town a few weeks ago. Her and my girlfriend have been arguing and fighting and what not since she moved here. Anyway I didnt know about my girlfriends cousin (lets call her jane) until last night. Last night she added me on facebook and we started talking. We talked on facebook till 4 in the fucking morning about random shit. I enjoyed it to say the least. Before we went to bed we decided that we were going to hang out today so we could meet eachother. We did and just basically walked around talking. I never knew this girl existed till last night and now I am friends with her because we started a random convo on facebook. Here is the problem. My girlfriend is very jealous type and she doesn't know that I hung out with jane today or talked to her last night. And the thing is I actually really like jane. We seem to have lots in common and I just feel comfortable around her. Its hard to explain. I could see myself actually doing the dirty with this girl all night long. I have been thinking lately about breaking things off with my girlfriend and exploring the fish tank abit. Should I keep seeing jane and find out how it goes or stop seeing her?
I don't think you can have feelings for someone that (let's say it) you don't really know. And you have a gf that probably loves you etc. I think you should take time to think about your girlfriend first. Try to think if you really love her, what are the good and bad points about her. Then take a decision based on that. Not based on what jane looks like or on what jane can do in bed...trex1210 wrote:
I have another problem this time it concerns me.
My girlfriends cousin just moved to town a few weeks ago. Her and my girlfriend have been arguing and fighting and what not since she moved here. Anyway I didnt know about my girlfriends cousin (lets call her jane) until last night. Last night she added me on facebook and we started talking. We talked on facebook till 4 in the fucking morning about random shit. I enjoyed it to say the least. Before we went to bed we decided that we were going to hang out today so we could meet eachother. We did and just basically walked around talking. I never knew this girl existed till last night and now I am friends with her because we started a random convo on facebook. Here is the problem. My girlfriend is very jealous type and she doesn't know that I hung out with jane today or talked to her last night. And the thing is I actually really like jane. We seem to have lots in common and I just feel comfortable around her. Its hard to explain. I could see myself actually doing the dirty with this girl all night long. I have been thinking lately about breaking things off with my girlfriend and exploring the fish tank abit. Should I keep seeing jane and find out how it goes or stop seeing her?
Let's put it this way, if you had a girlfriend would you want other guys constantly texting her and being with her?Zoom! wrote:
I know what you mean, it's happened to me before. I won't say it directly to her but I'll just stop texting her as much. He said it to me today which is why I kinda feel bad. I mean usually I wouldn't stop because I knew her first or whatever and I really like her as a freind but then again bros before hoes. I'll probably just drag him aside tomorrow and ask him jokingly what he really thinks and hell probably say 'nothing i was just asking' or whatever but it'll mean he knows that I care how he feels. Anyway adios
(it's a catch-22, this question. If you say no then you admit that you probably shouldn't text her as much, if you say yes your'e probably lying because most guys are some what jealous/territorial like that).
Realized something big yesterday. I thought she started avoiding me, but always was pleased when I talked to her.
I'm the one avoiding her actually, lol! When I realized this I just like went all out, I suddenly stopped being shy, went to her again, she smiled again
I'm the one avoiding her actually, lol! When I realized this I just like went all out, I suddenly stopped being shy, went to her again, she smiled again
so my ex-girlfriend (that i live with) thinks i have started sleeping with other girls. i havent.
she won't talk to me and things in the house between me and her are civil-yet-icy. it sucks ive lost her as a best friend when i know im innocent.
i dont have a chance to protest or explain myself because a) she doesn't want to know, she's too self-decided and b) i don't want to disrupt any of my other housemates with drama or serious conversations/confrontations. i really don't know what to do-- you may all think it's slightly pathetic to feel the need to explain and apologise to an ex-girlfriend for something you haven't even done, but i'm really quite gutted to lose her as a best-friend - because until she had this impression, we were getting along amazingly just as friends; still in love, but fine without our formal relationship.
the entire situation has a certain hypocrisy because when she hangs out with other guys, it's of course completely innocent and without any emotional subtext. as soon as i get some other friends (irrelevant to me of whether they are female or male) and spend time with them, or go to them for support and deep-talks, she thinks i have rushedly forgotten about her/our relationship and have found new love. i really havent.
thoughts, oh wise and always supportive bf2s?
she won't talk to me and things in the house between me and her are civil-yet-icy. it sucks ive lost her as a best friend when i know im innocent.
i dont have a chance to protest or explain myself because a) she doesn't want to know, she's too self-decided and b) i don't want to disrupt any of my other housemates with drama or serious conversations/confrontations. i really don't know what to do-- you may all think it's slightly pathetic to feel the need to explain and apologise to an ex-girlfriend for something you haven't even done, but i'm really quite gutted to lose her as a best-friend - because until she had this impression, we were getting along amazingly just as friends; still in love, but fine without our formal relationship.
the entire situation has a certain hypocrisy because when she hangs out with other guys, it's of course completely innocent and without any emotional subtext. as soon as i get some other friends (irrelevant to me of whether they are female or male) and spend time with them, or go to them for support and deep-talks, she thinks i have rushedly forgotten about her/our relationship and have found new love. i really havent.
thoughts, oh wise and always supportive bf2s?
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Just punch her. And stop drinking.Uzique wrote:
so my ex-girlfriend (that i live with) thinks i have started sleeping with other girls. i havent.
she won't talk to me and things in the house between me and her are civil-yet-icy. it sucks ive lost her as a best friend when i know im innocent.
i dont have a chance to protest or explain myself because a) she doesn't want to know, she's too self-decided and b) i don't want to disrupt any of my other housemates with drama or serious conversations/confrontations. i really don't know what to do-- you may all think it's slightly pathetic to feel the need to explain and apologise to an ex-girlfriend for something you haven't even done, but i'm really quite gutted to lose her as a best-friend - because until she had this impression, we were getting along amazingly just as friends; still in love, but fine without our formal relationship.
the entire situation has a certain hypocrisy because when she hangs out with other guys, it's of course completely innocent and without any emotional subtext. as soon as i get some other friends (irrelevant to me of whether they are female or male) and spend time with them, or go to them for support and deep-talks, she thinks i have rushedly forgotten about her/our relationship and have found new love. i really havent.
thoughts, oh wise and always supportive bf2s?
so you are certain she doesnt want to get back with you? the kinda behaviour she is displaying indicates to me that she wants to be with you still.Uzique wrote:
so my ex-girlfriend (that i live with) thinks i have started sleeping with other girls. i havent.
she won't talk to me and things in the house between me and her are civil-yet-icy. it sucks ive lost her as a best friend when i know im innocent.
i dont have a chance to protest or explain myself because a) she doesn't want to know, she's too self-decided and b) i don't want to disrupt any of my other housemates with drama or serious conversations/confrontations. i really don't know what to do-- you may all think it's slightly pathetic to feel the need to explain and apologise to an ex-girlfriend for something you haven't even done, but i'm really quite gutted to lose her as a best-friend - because until she had this impression, we were getting along amazingly just as friends; still in love, but fine without our formal relationship.
the entire situation has a certain hypocrisy because when she hangs out with other guys, it's of course completely innocent and without any emotional subtext. as soon as i get some other friends (irrelevant to me of whether they are female or male) and spend time with them, or go to them for support and deep-talks, she thinks i have rushedly forgotten about her/our relationship and have found new love. i really havent.
thoughts, oh wise and always supportive bf2s?
who broke up with who btw?
we are were still in love with each other, post-breakup. it makes sense that if she has the impression ive found someone else, so soon after our parting, that she would be upset and angry. i dont think it necessarily means she wants to be back with me at all, because i know for a fact that she just doesnt want a relationship - full stop - in her life at the moment. that doesn't bother me though; i dealt with that, i coped, i did my own thing and completely respected her wishes. i dealt with everything perfectly. that's why im so frustrated now that ive been made into an enemy for something i haven't done, without any chance to explain the actual facts. it kinda sucks (and hurts, /emocry) that she doesn't trust me enough after the 8-9 months we were together to know i wouldnt go and do something stupid and shit like that to her/us.
and camm: i'll stop drinking when... err, you stop claiming benefits. jeez this trolling thing is tiring.
and camm: i'll stop drinking when... err, you stop claiming benefits. jeez this trolling thing is tiring.
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Got a job man But srs, from what you told me the other night, it's too much man!Uzique wrote:
we are
and camm: i'll stop drinking when... err, you stop claiming benefits. jeez this trolling thing is tiring.
i actually think, whatever you do in this situation, isnt going to change anything. it's clearly all in her head, perhaps best if you just take stock of the fact you havent done anything and maybe in time she'll come to realise it.Uzique wrote:
we are were still in love with each other, post-breakup. it makes sense that if she has the impression ive found someone else, so soon after our parting, that she would be upset and angry. i dont think it necessarily means she wants to be back with me at all, because i know for a fact that she just doesnt want a relationship - full stop - in her life at the moment. that doesn't bother me though; i dealt with that, i coped, i did my own thing and completely respected her wishes. i dealt with everything perfectly. that's why im so frustrated now that ive been made into an enemy for something i haven't done, without any chance to explain the actual facts. it kinda sucks (and hurts, /emocry) that she doesn't trust me enough after the 8-9 months we were together to know i wouldnt go and do something stupid and shit like that to her/us.
and camm: i'll stop drinking when... err, you stop claiming benefits. jeez this trolling thing is tiring.
seems youre damned if you do, damned if you dont.
considering how damn good ive been for her these last few weeks- making every change necessary, showing no upset or complaint, to then be separated from and indicted with this 'damned if you do, damned if you don't' situation, all i have to say is...
FANTASTICO
what a shitty fucking hand to be dealt!
FANTASTICO
what a shitty fucking hand to be dealt!
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Just blank her as much as possible, if she's alienating you by being a bitch, and assuming things like this, then alienate her. Show her how it feels to be treated the way you are.Uzique wrote:
considering how damn good ive been for her these last few weeks- making every change necessary, showing no upset or complaint, to then be separated from and indicted with this 'damned if you do, damned if you don't' situation, all i have to say is...
FANTASTICO
what a shitty fucking hand to be dealt!
You really haven't been fucking around with other chicks? Come on man, even I don't believe you on that one. What's it to her anyway.
i'm sure you posted you shagged some milf bird whilst back in chelt
Blackbelts are just whitebelts who have never quit.
im talking about the post-summer getting back together business. she went and did her own thing all summer and i did mine. she said she didnt care about that, and i believe her, cause i dont particularly care what she got up to each and every weekend when she was out clubbing the same as me. we both moved on and put that episode behind us, instantly. since we got back together and gave things another go, we finished amicably and agreeably (i wont go into the personal private business) and were getting on as really good best-friends. it was actually pleasant; i was actually kinda happy and settled with the idea of losing her. it's frustrating when you've been so true and so committed to someone and then you're accused of something near-adultery. i haven't done it. ive pretty openly (whether that is right or wrong) spoke about all of my escapades on here before... and im serious: for the last 2 months or so, ive been flawless, and ive really been trying hard to maintain that and to do the best for everyone.
two days ago i stopped my 3-bottles-of-wine-a-day escapism strategy. it wasnt working too well for my mind or my body. but now im sober and facing the unfair predicament, solutions still arent coming easily. give me some more wise, sagacious advice, you bunch of old blokes!
two days ago i stopped my 3-bottles-of-wine-a-day escapism strategy. it wasnt working too well for my mind or my body. but now im sober and facing the unfair predicament, solutions still arent coming easily. give me some more wise, sagacious advice, you bunch of old blokes!
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Well you can't change a woman's mind. Only she can do that. If she knows you did. You did it. Whether you did or not. Just go with the flow.
Last edited by Blade4509 (2009-10-24 12:46:00)
"Raise the flag high! Let the degenerates know who comes to claim their lives this day!"
that sounds like the sort of approach to women that only a bitter 45 year old with 3 ex-wives could talk about.
still, i like it.
still, i like it.
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I've got no girl-problems, for once
Relationship is great
Mates are great
Families are great
Sex is great
Love is great
Yep, I'm great.
Night night <3 xxx
Relationship is great
Mates are great
Families are great
Sex is great
Love is great
Yep, I'm great.
Night night <3 xxx
So I fucked up.
Last night I had a bit to much to drink and while I was browsing bf2s I started talking to this girl on msn. I believe I posted about her in this thread a couple days ago. Anyway, I was saying stuff like "you should replace my girlfriend, lol jk" and "I like you alot". Just general shit like that. Well the thing is I save all my convos I have on msn and I totally forgot about it. So my girlfriend was browsing through and she found that convo. She started freaking out and crying and shit. We aren't breaking up but she is still very upset and I do not know what to do to fix it. Any ideas?
Last night I had a bit to much to drink and while I was browsing bf2s I started talking to this girl on msn. I believe I posted about her in this thread a couple days ago. Anyway, I was saying stuff like "you should replace my girlfriend, lol jk" and "I like you alot". Just general shit like that. Well the thing is I save all my convos I have on msn and I totally forgot about it. So my girlfriend was browsing through and she found that convo. She started freaking out and crying and shit. We aren't breaking up but she is still very upset and I do not know what to do to fix it. Any ideas?
quit drinking. i saw your other post - it's sounds like girl problems are the least of your problems, right now.
It was the first time I drank in a week. And it was because we had a few ppl over. I am not an alcoholicburnzz wrote:
quit drinking. i saw your other post - it's sounds like girl problems are the least of your problems, right now.
grow up and dont treat your girlfriend like shit?trex1210 wrote:
So I fucked up.
Last night I had a bit to much to drink and while I was browsing bf2s I started talking to this girl on msn. I believe I posted about her in this thread a couple days ago. Anyway, I was saying stuff like "you should replace my girlfriend, lol jk" and "I like you alot". Just general shit like that. Well the thing is I save all my convos I have on msn and I totally forgot about it. So my girlfriend was browsing through and she found that convo. She started freaking out and crying and shit. We aren't breaking up but she is still very upset and I do not know what to do to fix it. Any ideas?
to be honest i had an experience myself a while back where someone that supposedly 'loved' me got drunk and made similar drunken 'mistakes'- slips in her emotions and caring, etc. if you really care about your current girlfriend, you wont act like a dick, whether or not you have the beerhaze clouding your mind. you upset her, there's nothing more you can do than to apologize really very sincerely and to prove that you're worth sticking with.
@burnz: i have stopped drinking now. 2 days ago i vomited blood. not to mention that maintaining the constant drunken state, as well as the drunken shopping trips and spontaneous decisions to eat-out have cost me a LOT of money in the last 2 weeks.
Last edited by Uzique (2009-10-24 14:10:09)
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