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If I were you, I would try not using the computer for a week.  Force yourself to do something constructive -- build a model, go for a bike ride, read some books, etc...  Just do something that will stimulate your mind and body.  If you can do that for a week and not default to wasting time in front of the computer/TV/console, you'll probably feel better.

As for not knowing your career path, don't worry about that.  Most people in college don't have a career path selected.  Just expand your horizons and try something new!

Thanks guys..
I appreciate it

Last edited by Noobpatty (2008-07-21 11:28:32)

Noobpatty wrote:

Okay, so basically I wasn't sure what to make the thread name...I just want to well...chat, so to speak..although I do have a few questions and...yeah...

     I guess I made this thread out of my unhappiness. Well...I'm not sure where to start so I guess I'll put this out there. I'm not sure what I want to do in life. I don't have any goals or major inspirations...I like things I like and I'm not major about anything. I'm 15 and soon will be starting my Sophomore year of high school. I don't have a career path chosen. I remember hearing not to put down others' dreams because those without them will never accomplish much. I completely feel like this. I feel like because I have no inspiration or ultimate goals I'm going to be a failure at life...will I be? Ever since my freshman year ended all I've done all summer is wasted my life away on my pc and 360. I'm totally unactive and eat unhealthily and fear I'm just going to become some fat slob who focuses his life around his pathetic career that he didn't want to do and then coming home to play his pc everynight just like I've been doing all summer, and I know it's not what I want to do, being in front of this monitor all the time isn't all that fun but I do it anyway. Right now I'm kinda brain dead...stayed up too late again...any thoughts are appreciated. I'm not entirely sure why I made this post...maybe it was just for me to notice subconciously what's going on.
Even if you don't have much constructive to say, say it. Thanks.

GG, you sound like my son.

Well son, I've told you this at least a hundred fucking times this summer already turn that damn computer and xbox 360 off and go outside!

Go play with the family dog.
Go for a bike ride.
I bought you a membership to the gym - GO!
Also stop eating in your room. I am sick of the garbage, crumbs, stains, and so on. I've told you a thousand times - no eating in your room, especially that garbage you eat. It's just empty calories. It will make you fat, give you zits and that couldn't possibly help you with your self esteem.

Hypothetically speaking of course if you were my son I'd be giving you a hard time about your voluntarily submitted-to isolation. You know that's what they do to the hardest hardened criminals in prison - when they need to punish them? So stop with this voluntarily submitted-to self inflicted punishment. I am only giving you hard time because I care (hypothetically speaking of course if you were my son).

Last edited by topal63 (2008-07-21 11:40:33)

Man im telling you once you get a job and a vehicle and start driving you wont have time for a computer. It's just a phase more kids are going through. Trust me.

Roc18 wrote:

read a book lol. Sounds like you have alot of free time, if you have freinds call them up and do something like chill at the mall or their house or play sports with them. If you want to do things alone then yes try to occupy yourself for a whole day reading books or building plane models or community service or working for charity or planting trees if you want to get away from the tv/computer, all which aren't practical for 15 year old today tbh.

Maybe doing things that stimulate the mind aren't practical for you, but not everyone thinks reading a book or building a model on a rainy day is a waste of time.

Roc18 wrote:

Well that's my opinion on it, i dont see many 15 year olds today doing charity or reading a book for fun. I'm not saying that some don't like reading or community service or that type of stuff, but it doesnt seem like something most teens would like to spend their free time doing.I was saying he should do stuff he likes to do for fun with other people instead of being by himself at home infront of the computer if he's not satisfied with that.

That's true.  Though, I don't know where you think I mentioned community service.

Recognising you have a problem is a good thing.  You know you need to change. 

Listen to the comments above, these people are helping you too look in the right direction but ultimately is YOU that has to walk down that path.  Don't worry about career just yet.  I was going to go down the Biochemistry Toxicology route until i decided to do computing instead at the last minute and now work as an extremely well paid IT Consultant.

Focus on making friends, meeting girls, having fun, getting fit, playing sports and dont worry over playing some computer games once in a while....after all its fun isn't it?!

Last edited by m3thod (2008-07-21 12:25:59)

Happiness comes from inside, don't look for it outside of yourself or you will never find it. Do what makes you happy. Work hard now so you don't have to later in life. Buy a house as soon as you can.

Thoughts that might be useful to you.

m3thod wrote:

Sorry that's rubbish.  Happiness is derived with connecting and creating relationships with people...

i wouldnt put my happiness in the hands of others or depend on relationships to feel good, i feel you should be able to be alone and still be happy. but whatever works for ya.

lifting weights at 15 is absolutely not going to screw you up.  go for it.  focus more on form and the weight will come.  you will see progress and this will motivate you in many ways.  if you were 12, i'd say no to weights but 15 is totally fine.  work out with powerlifter guys to learn proper form and you'll get a good solid base.  later when you are older, try and get into more refined lifting to cut-up and your whole physique will change fast.  you CAN look great without drugs.  fact.  just takes desire and discipline.

join some sports in school.  wrestling is a really great sport but if you aren't into that, then try track instead.  nothing beats watching girls running.  throw shotput or jav or discus if you don't like to run.  i did pole vault and threw shot.  spent time in between events watching the girls.  it's great.  some kids have issues with jocks but honestly if you show up and try you'd be suprised that you become part of the 'team' really easily.

if you like computers alot, then focus on 'how' they work.  this might open up into job opportunities working at pc repair shops or even in retail sales.  eg:  i sold car stereos, AV equipment, etc as a HS student.  once i started studying engineering, i could explain how they worked to customers better - hence making me more sales and more money.

talk to a guidance counselor in school to see if they have certain aptitude tests or placement tests to see what you might be really good at.  this might help point you in right direction for study.  i guess when you are a junior, the ASVAB test (for armed forces) might be another avenue for you.  again, guidance counselor at school would be best able to help you here.

once you turn 16, get a job fast.  you can learn alot just by working.  you will learn what you like and hate in a job.  eg:  i worked as a HVAC installer in summer to help pay my way through college.  i liked the people at work - it was a good crew.  however, crawling around 150F attics and moving 750 pound boilers was not for me.  some people like that sort of thing - good for them - not for me.  you will discover this for yourself.

talk to your parents.  see what they have to say.  communication is a great thing.  i know young people probably hate the thought of talking with their parents since they feel so alienated and/or different.  trust me - a good relationship with parents goes a long way.  plus, later when you are older, you might have regrets.  i know i do.  now i call my parents probably 2 times a week.  i live on the other side of US and miss them alot.  growing up - i saw them every day.  i miss that - you may too.

teenage years are never easy and once they are done, you have the rest of your life to look forward to.  try many things while you are young.  if you screw up, dust yourself off and spring back.  don't let people get you down either.  like others mentioned above, be happy with yourself FIRST, then share that with others.  if someone is bringing you down, don't hang with them - it will limit you.  confidence (not cockyness) is key.

most importantly, good luck!

Last edited by CaptainSpaulding71 (2008-07-21 13:37:37)

Join a sports team at school, you'll meet friends, girls, have fun, and expose yourselves to new and exciting things. 99% of people don't know what they want to do when they are 15, so don't worry about it.

The key is finding something you love to do, that way you'll have the passion to push yourself through hardships in order to achieve fiscal and personal success.

Finally, keep your head up. It's not the end of the world, even though it may feel like that sometimes.

m3thod wrote:

A12345 wrote:

m3thod wrote:

Sorry that's rubbish.  Happiness is derived with connecting and creating relationships with people...

i wouldnt put my happiness in the hands of others or depend on relationships to feel good, i feel you should be able to be alone and still be happy. but whatever works for ya.

Enjoy your life of masturbation.