How old are you? I remember girls being really hesitant themselves and not wanting to say they do or do not like you because they weren't sure if it was their place to or not. This was back in the teens/early 20's. After that they start to grow up and be at least forward enough that unless you're an idiot you KNOW they have those kinds of feelings (or plain ol' tell you) which makes things easier if some girl appears on the fence when you first are talking to her.
the "touch barrier"? i'm pretty sure such a thing only exists if you're a kindergarten teacher. there is no such thing as a touch barrier. stop inventing difficulties.
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Well it's sure nice to know that it changes eventually, I'm tired of that kind of gameplaying, it's just not necessary at all.
And there's a little under 8 days left now till I'm 20
And there's a little under 8 days left now till I'm 20
Touch barrier is what all the pickup artist community calls it when you have to do the touching to judge how far you can take things or subtly get a girl in the mood or whatever and the barrier part of the word I think means two things: barrier to progressing to more physical and enjoyable activities and also personal space like a Kindergarten rule would call it.Uzique wrote:
the "touch barrier"? i'm pretty sure such a thing only exists if you're a kindergarten teacher. there is no such thing as a touch barrier. stop inventing difficulties.
I've never heard of a touch barrier
dont listen to anything the "pickup artist community" says. anything they say is either nonsense or common sense.
And I've read a fair bit of that pick up stuff.
what is the "pickup artist community"? is this some north american thing? dude just rub your finger all over her little wet moist clitty-bitties and that touch barrier will evaporate quicker than the arizona morning condensation on the hood of the dodge charger you intend to eventually screw her on in a routine of superhuman acrobatic feat.
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very north american
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mystery_(pickup_artist)
he reminds me of Ville Valo for some reason @_@
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mystery_(pickup_artist)
he reminds me of Ville Valo for some reason @_@
Well regardless, it does kind of seem like something that matters, I mean if you can't touch a girl, how are you supposed to progress to kissing or sex or anything without verbally asking(which I don't mind and it's what got me my first kiss but people say it's a turn off for girls)?
Or maybe it's something else I'm not understanding
Or maybe it's something else I'm not understanding
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lmao what the fuck! this guy looks like criss angel. only in north america would someone like this be a qualified mack daddy. oh sweet fucking jesus.
bwahaha"cat-string theory," i.e. keeping a woman engaged just enough to hold her attention
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what you are misunderstanding is in putting such a huge emphasis on physical touching. okay sure there's a fine line between some innocent physical contact and sexual assault, but the fact is that if you are close and good friends with the female, she's not going to freak out because you gave her a tickle or brushed against her or something. just don't do anything weird like start stroking and sniffing her dreadlocks._j5689_ wrote:
Well regardless, it does kind of seem like something that matters, I mean if you can't touch a girl, how are you supposed to progress to kissing or sex or anything without verbally asking(which I don't mind and what got me my first kiss but people say it's a turn off for girls)?
Or maybe it's something else I'm not understanding
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How would you touch a guy, or a family member, or someone you just met?_j5689_ wrote:
Well regardless, it does kind of seem like something that matters, I mean if you can't touch a girl, how are you supposed to progress to kissing or sex or anything without verbally asking(which I don't mind and it's what got me my first kiss but people say it's a turn off for girls)?
Or maybe it's something else I'm not understanding
You're too busy thinking about leading towards intimacy, when really you should just make it a normal thing that everyone does with everyone, and go from there.
yeah stop thinking that physical contact is an entry-level 'move' to sex, or some sort of rape signal. people touch every day in a myriad number of unsexy ways.
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also stop taking any sort of advice from a guy that looks like this.
immediately.
at once.
no, really, stop that.
immediately.
at once.
no, really, stop that.
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j, do you hug girls hello/goodbye (ones you know a bit anyway)?
also:
dont take advice from a bunch of random people on a forum that originated to further discuss a video game outside of the game itself who all have different opinions on how girls/life should be approached.
do your own thing. you'll learn from your mistakes and grow from them.
dont take advice from a bunch of random people on a forum that originated to further discuss a video game outside of the game itself who all have different opinions on how girls/life should be approached.
do your own thing. you'll learn from your mistakes and grow from them.
Maybe it's just me but I simply wouldn't touch anyone I'd just met unless they initiated whatever it was like a handshake or a hug or if I was told to. Not sure if that's normal or not but it's just how I am. I never initiate touching, it's the socially safe thing to do as far as I can tell but it may be more important to people than I think
Only if they initiate it, I always saw the hugging girls hello/goodbye thing as douchebaggy if they don't offer. One of my friends who's known for forcing himself onto girls is the first thing that comes to mind, it just seems overly intimate and uninvited when he does it and every time I think of it I just swear I never want to come off that way, girls regularly tell me how creepy they think he is.Hurricane2k9 wrote:
j, do you hug girls hello/goodbye (ones you know a bit anyway)?
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lol, people make picking up a girl seem like rocket science.Hurricane2k9 wrote:
very north american
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mystery_(pickup_artist)
he reminds me of Ville Valo for some reason @_@
If you're waiting for people to initiate all forms of contact with you then you're just going to have to wait for a girl to want to pick you up.
I very often wonder if that's a better plan than worrying myself about trying to learn and understand everything that I'm already behind withJaekus wrote:
If you're waiting for people to initiate all forms of contact with you then you're just going to have to wait for a girl to want to pick you up.
Is it not normal to just wait for other people to initiate contact?
"fortune favors the bold"
also, if everyone waited then nobody would ever meet anyone.
also, if everyone waited then nobody would ever meet anyone.
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do you watch scrubs?
I used to all the time cuz it was all that was on.
Your life, your choice. Just be prepared to wait for maybe a kiss every other year or so._j5689_ wrote:
I very often wonder if that's a better plan than worrying myself about trying to learn and understand everything that I'm already behind withJaekus wrote:
If you're waiting for people to initiate all forms of contact with you then you're just going to have to wait for a girl to want to pick you up.
Is it not normal to just wait for other people to initiate contact?