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One of the most attractive things to a woman is confidence. I'm sorry to say but it seems to me you lack that atm. Also, going back to "just being friends" is extremely hard.

Jaekus wrote:

Kmar wrote:

One of the most attractive things to a woman is confidence. I'm sorry to say but it seems to me you lack that atm. Also, going back to "just being friends" is extremely hard.

This, though I've gone back to "just being friends" before.

Your whole attitude is putting pussy on a pedestal, which isn't going to get you any pussy unless the chick you're chasing has a pretty low self esteem.

this x500

girls want somebody who's confident and got swag.  it's attractive.  instead of chasing women, you should just try to become a better person/man.  work out, study more, develop new/old hobbies, have good hygiene, get clothes that you like and fit you, etc.  once you get that going you'll simply feel better about yourself and the ladies will come

It's also important to note there is a difference between confidence and arrogance.. which would come off as if you have something to prove.

Kmar wrote:

One of the most attractive things to a woman is confidence. I'm sorry to say but it seems to me you lack that atm. Also, going back to "just being friends" is extremely hard.

It would take some success to be confident about this stuff, all I have is that first kiss that I asked her for, nothing else.  I'm too logical of a guy for this stuff, it's why I overanalyze it just to figure things out, I can't do something if I think there's a good chance it will fail and the more and worse failures I get, the more logic would have me believe it's likely to fail which affects my confidence.  I can't make moves on emotions or gut feelings alone, they've always worked against me and embarrassed me, it's the same thing that still happens to Warman, he comes off as a jackass to everybody here because he allows his emotional impulses to get the best of him and he just doesn't have enough social intellect(or a learned trial-and-error based logic in place of it) to understand what's going on or what he's doing wrong by not knowing what he's talking about when he says things and then pretends to be an expert on it and assumes he can get away with that.  I just don't trust instincts unless I'm not sober and this works great for most of life but girls of course are all about emotions

HaiBai wrote:

Jaekus wrote:

Kmar wrote:

One of the most attractive things to a woman is confidence. I'm sorry to say but it seems to me you lack that atm. Also, going back to "just being friends" is extremely hard.

This, though I've gone back to "just being friends" before.

Your whole attitude is putting pussy on a pedestal, which isn't going to get you any pussy unless the chick you're chasing has a pretty low self esteem.

this x500

girls want somebody who's confident and got swag.  it's attractive.  instead of chasing women, you should just try to become a better person/man.  work out, study more, develop new/old hobbies, have good hygiene, get clothes that you like and fit you, etc.  once you get that going you'll simply feel better about yourself and the ladies will come

Yeah, I guess that's what I've been wanting to do anyway, to just not worry about it for a few years if possible and just build my own little independent empire

I really wish I could figure it out just once as-is like most of my peers have, I'm about to be 20 in April and I've got the experience of a 13 year old.

Treat them like a girl who works at a swingbox. Don't ask if you can touch, just fucking touch. Take charge of that bitch.

_j5689_ wrote:

Kmar wrote:

One of the most attractive things to a woman is confidence. I'm sorry to say but it seems to me you lack that atm. Also, going back to "just being friends" is extremely hard.

It would take some success to be confident about this stuff, all I have is that first kiss that I asked her for, nothing else.  I'm too logical of a guy for this stuff, it's why I overanalyze it just to figure things out, I can't do something if I think there's a good chance it will fail and the more and worse failures I get, the more logic would have me believe it's likely to fail which affects my confidence.  I can't make moves on emotions or gut feelings alone, they've always worked against me and embarrassed me, it's the same thing that still happens to Warman, he comes off as a jackass to everybody here because he allows his emotional impulses to get the best of him and he just doesn't have enough social intellect(or a learned trial-and-error based logic in place of it) to understand what's going on or what he's doing wrong by not knowing what he's talking about when he says things and then pretends to be an expert on it and assumes he can get away with that.  I just don't trust instincts unless I'm not sober and this works great for most of life but girls of course are all about emotions

HaiBai wrote:

Jaekus wrote:

This, though I've gone back to "just being friends" before.

Your whole attitude is putting pussy on a pedestal, which isn't going to get you any pussy unless the chick you're chasing has a pretty low self esteem.

this x500

girls want somebody who's confident and got swag.  it's attractive.  instead of chasing women, you should just try to become a better person/man.  work out, study more, develop new/old hobbies, have good hygiene, get clothes that you like and fit you, etc.  once you get that going you'll simply feel better about yourself and the ladies will come

Yeah, I guess that's what I've been wanting to do anyway, to just not worry about it for a few years if possible and just build my own little independent empire

I really wish I could figure it out just once as-is like most of my peers have, I'm about to be 20 in April and I've got the experience of a 13 year old.

you dont need previous experience to build confidence, its all in your head. Go talk to every girl that catches your eye with the mindset of 'im gonna get this birds number, and if not ill get the next one', and every single time you'll be fine. If you get blown off, so what, go for the next one. If it goes on and you don't pick up that night, worry about the next time. With enough misses you are GOING to get a hit, I guarantee it.

Cybargs wrote:

HaiBai wrote:

_j5689_ wrote:

Kmar wrote:

One of the most attractive things to a woman is confidence. I'm sorry to say but it seems to me you lack that atm. Also, going back to "just being friends" is extremely hard.

It would take some success to be confident about this stuff, all I have is that first kiss that I asked her for, nothing else.  I'm too logical of a guy for this stuff, it's why I overanalyze it just to figure things out, I can't do something if I think there's a good chance it will fail and the more and worse failures I get, the more logic would have me believe it's likely to fail which affects my confidence.  I can't make moves on emotions or gut feelings alone, they've always worked against me and embarrassed me, it's the same thing that still happens to Warman, he comes off as a jackass to everybody here because he allows his emotional impulses to get the best of him and he just doesn't have enough social intellect(or a learned trial-and-error based logic in place of it) to understand what's going on or what he's doing wrong by not knowing what he's talking about when he says things and then pretends to be an expert on it and assumes he can get away with that.  I just don't trust instincts unless I'm not sober and this works great for most of life but girls of course are all about emotions


Yeah, I guess that's what I've been wanting to do anyway, to just not worry about it for a few years if possible and just build my own little independent empire

I really wish I could figure it out just once as-is like most of my peers have, I'm about to be 20 in April and I've got the experience of a 13 year old.

meh, relax dude.  lots of kids don't get their first fuckuntil they're 16-18.  everyone's social skills develop at different times

think you got a typo

that's not a typo.  you'd be surprised.  sure, it's a minority, but it's still at least 25%

Kmar wrote:

It doesn't necessarily take a history of success to implant confidence, though it certainly helps. It takes you believing in yourself. Think positively.

Precisely.

Make all the other elements of your life you want to be good, great. Then you'll just feel good about life in general and have something to offer.

The less you stress and analyse this kind of stuff and the more you focus on yourself and what you want out of life the more attractive you'll appear to girls. People a naturally drawn to others who are pursuing their goals and making their dreams a reality.

tl;dr - just do what makes you feel good and fulfilled, you'll naturally start to radiant more confidence.

Last edited by Jaekus (2012-02-02 02:04:48)

pirana6 wrote:

I don't miss being a teenager

Jaekus wrote:

Cybargs wrote:

Jaekus wrote:

lol. My girlfriend smiles waaaaaay more than I do and we're a great match.

Honestly, there probably is some correlation but first and foremost comes mindset/shared values/compatible personalities/mutual attraction well before any of that other stuff.

and how well you do in bed

I always do well in bed, just ask my girlfriend

She just doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

pirana6 wrote:

Whoever  wrote this has clearly never been mates with a girl. They stress and just as much goes thru their head as it does for us. To both sides it seems like the other is playing games

Ilocano wrote:

The earlier you get used to rejection, the easier it'll be to get some.  1 out of a 100 is better than 0 out of 0.

not really