mikkel wrote:
What I accused you of doing was dismissing the commitment in relationships that don't adhere to your idea of how a relationship should be. You keep saying that you're justified in saying "ditto," and you also keep failing to show just where I'm supposed to have dismissed the commitment in any kind of relationship. I realise that it's because can't. Repeating the accusation ad nauseam doesn't make it any more right.
mikkel wrote:
FEOS wrote:
If you have an "agreement" then you aren't in a "committed" relationship.
It's pretty dense to dismiss the emotional commitment between two people merely because their take on sex differs from yours.
This is what I said "Ditto" to.
You referred to me as "dense" because my take on sex differs from yours. I didn't dismiss the emotional commitment between two people. Hence my statement that "you were wrong". At no point did I dismiss anything.
If you are having sex with someone with with whom you have an "emotional commitment," how are they any different--during the act--than the random person with whom you have no "emotional commitment?" The answer, of course, is they aren't. That means you have no real relationship with the first person if you have truly de-linked the emotional and the physical--during the physical act, the one you have an "emotional commitment" to is identical to a random stranger. Thus the "physical prop" remark.
If you say, "but the difference is that I have an 'emotional commitment' to the first person" then you have linked the emotional and the physical, because the two people/relationships are now different, making the physical act different between the two
because of the emotional commitment you have with the first.
Thus, my point. I'm not dismissing anything. It's intrinsic to my argument.
It is
you who was being dismissive, and thus why I said "ditto".
mikkel wrote:
You replied to a post of mine, arguing against the contents of that post, authored by me. This is ridiculous even for you, FEOS.
This is ridiculous even for you, mikkel...which is really scraping the bottom of the barrel.
I replied to the OP. You replied to my reply to the OP. I replied to your reply to my reply to the OP. It all relates back to the OP, which the content of my original reply was based on, to which you were responding, to which I was responding. And you still say the OP isn't relevant?
Geez, mik. It's not all about you...