http://www.time.com/time/magazine/artic … 39,00.html
Link is to an Time magazine article I read today about people having trouble with children they adopted from Russia.
I'm just curious.
Link is to an Time magazine article I read today about people having trouble with children they adopted from Russia.
Apparently problems like these with adopted children from Russia are common. The article makes mention of Chinese adoption which is as common as Russian though the Chinese government provides much more information on their children.Around the dinner table that night, as on most other nights, the easy flow of the Massis' conversation obscured the painful challenges confronting them. Shain, the eldest son, has been diagnosed with a severe fetal alcohol spectrum disorder. Adopted at age 6, he is now a 16-year-old ninth-grader at a special-needs school. He cannot tell time on an analog clock, and his words are tinged with a speech impediment Marianne believes is a result of his inability to hear much as a small child. Shortly after Shain arrived in the U.S., a doctor discovered an impenetrable buildup of wax in his ears that had to be removed surgically while he was under general anesthesia. Shain also steals money from Marianne and has punched holes in walls. "When he goes into a meltdown, you have to leave him alone," she says. (See more about adoption.)
Ilia, the smallest of the Massi boys, is startlingly outgoing. His slight stature and rosy cheeks make him look younger than his age, 13, and the trauma he suffered during his early childhood seems long behind him until he brings it up unprompted: "Do you know about my old mother?" He has described in graphic detail how she hanged herself in front of him when he was 4.
Roman, also 13, is the quiet one, with blue eyes that look as though they could cut glass. He was adopted from an orphanage in southwestern Russia in 2004 by another New Jersey couple, who relinquished their parental rights to the Massis after just a few months. The couple was disturbed by Roman's wild behavior and the lack of affection he showed them. When he first arrived in the Massi home, he hated being touched. "He would turn his back to you and back into a hug — and only with me and my husband," Marianne remembers.
There are two DST regularsI'm not going to name which but most of you guys know with children who are adopted from China. My question is to them, if they care to answer or anyone else for whatever reason: Has your children ever shown any sort of behavior problems? Did you at one point consider a Russian child but backed off because of the horror stories? Do you know anyone with Russian children who have problems like these?Contrast the information typically available about Russian orphans with that of orphans from China. Sara Lang, an adoption-agency professional based in Delaware who specializes in China, began working in the field after adopting two biological sisters from Russia in 2000. "We've had as much as 10 pages on children from China — blood tests, urine tests, growth reports. With my own children, we got half a page on each one. We didn't know anything about their birth parents or reason for abandonment. We had no medical test results, no psychological information, no developmental information. We had nothing."
I'm just curious.
