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FloppY_ wrote:

It's the fact that I'm destined beeing "average" for the rest of my life that makes me give up without trying...

That's my worst fear.

Anyway, I think you should break your habit of sitting in front of the computer all day long. I didn't do nearly as well as I could have or should have in high school (I graduated with a 3.49, or a B+/A- average), and one of the main reasons for that was that I spent way too much time playing BF2 or browsing the internet instead of getting my work done. You need to start somewhere; step one is getting off the computer and step two is getting a job, no matter what it is.

Failing that, be a monk.

Honestly, quit your bitching and grow the fuck up. Have some god damn courage, get off your lard ass, and go explore whats out there for you. Your not gonna find it by sitting in front of your computer jerking your weiner 8 times a day.

Your being like a chick. Doing stupid shit to get attention. Your on the inter-web man, sac up.

o and quit your bitching.

You're young, its doesn't get any better as you get older. Get out there, have sex, drink some beer, go to Amsterdam smoke up. Now is the time when you can do all the stupid stuff and enjoy it.

Now this might seem like dumb advice but if you're not a self motivator here's what you need to do.
1. take a piece of paper and make two lists. list all the things you like to do and list all the things that you currently are doing that you don't like to do. Then make a point of doing what ever it is that you like. I would point out that if you a relatively inactive, like sitting in front of a TV or computer, that you don't pick that one. Do the stuff that involves getting outside and being active with other people.

2. when you get up in the morning, get some tea or coffee and sit down with a piece of paper and think of stuff you need to do that day. Then pick the easiest one on the list, do it, and put that accomplishment in the win column. then pick the next easiest. And make sure you do something off of your fun list.

I know its stupid stuff, but nothing sucks more that inactivity caused by apathy. you sit there and do nothing and because you do nothing you get down and so you do nothing. just get out of the house and do shit. The lists should help you because if you can't think of something you want to do or have to do, just look at the list and it will tell you what to do. I'm sure once you get moving you'll start to feel better. there's nothing worse than the feeling that you get at the end of the day when you realize that you really didn't do anything... I get that feeling on days when I'm at home sick watching TV all day, it makes you feel mentally sick.

AND its sounds like you lack confidence too. There is a little secret to having confidence, confidence is 99% bull shit, its purely a preception that you put forward to other people. if you act meek, ask questions meekly or hessitate in answering then you look like you lack confidence. If you act boldly, answer questions directly, think about what you want to say first then say it with authority you will appear to be full of confidence. You could be full of shit, but people will think you have confidence, and how people preceive you affects how they interact with you. Life is easier if people think you're confident.

Try those things and its a start... have fun you're young..... but seriously get laid, but don't get into a relationship you're obviously not ready for that and someone will just dominate your meek persona.

now dont get all pissy, mods....


suck it up ffs.  imagine being some kid in africa or having no parents or a home to go to.  imagine being handicapped.  quit the QQ pity party.

Just curious but can somebody tell me what's so wrong with being average? From what I've heard working an average job, raising average kids and having a couple of average hobbies with your average mates and having an average wife and going on average holidays to visit your other average friends and relations is quite rewarding. Not that I know from experience...

Has anyone actually mentioned what he needs to do? He needs to turn off the computer and find himself a girlfriend. Once he gets serious about life and has some direction he'll be fine. Military works well for this too.

JohnG@lt wrote:

Has anyone actually mentioned what he needs to do? He needs to turn off the computer and find himself a girlfriend. Once he gets serious about life and has some direction he'll be fine. Military works well for this too.

You joined the military to find a girl friend?

Also, don't assume the path you pick today will be the path you're on forever.
Stuff can change, a lot, just do your best with whatever you're doing now.

Dude, I'm 20 next month and I have absolutely no idea what I want to do with my life, it's perfectly natural. My girlfriend's mum likes to reassure me that she never found out what she wanted to do until she was 40.

11 Bravo wrote:

CammRobb wrote:

Dude, I'm 20 next month and I have absolutely no idea what I want to do with my life, it's perfectly natural. My girlfriend's mum likes to reassure me that she never found out what she wanted to do until she was 40.

thats sad

No, it's normal. Lot's of people start working, hate what they do, and end up going into a second career down the road. Sure, they take a financial hit but it's more important to most people to actually enjoy the work they do.

One of my gf's fathers friends (there really needs to be a better way to say that in English btw ) gave up his job on Wall Street at the age of 45 and decided to become a carpenter. He'd bought an old farm house in the Hamptons, did all the work himself in fixing it up and decided that he really enjoyed working with his hands. Now he does mega dollar renovations. His house is a work of art. Old salvaged floors. Hand built furniture etc.

I still recommend making delicious cheese. I bought a loaf of semolina bread yesterday, sliced up some granny smith apple and made bruschetta with the apple, danish bleu cheese and honey. Yum.

Last edited by JohnG@lt (2010-05-05 06:59:11)

FloppY_ wrote:

It's the fact that I'm destined beeing "average" for the rest of my life that makes me give up without trying...

Almost everyone is average in almost all aspects of their lives.
Live's not a computer game with highscore tables and "achievements".

How about you volunteer for the ambulance or fire brigade?
That'll give you something to do several hours per week and get some insight into other things you may like to pursue.

I read that you can choose to work for the Redningsberedskabet instead of the mandatory military service.
If you already have done the latter, I guess you can still volunteer.

How about foreign aid work?
That'll keep you occupied for a long time.

Dilbert_X wrote:

JohnG@lt wrote:

I still recommend making delicious cheese. I bought a loaf of semolina bread yesterday, sliced up some granny smith apple and made bruschetta with the apple, danish bleu cheese and honey. Yum.

And you wonder why you're fat.

I'm not fat, I'm big boned