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Thanks all, you're all actual legends.

And if it doesn't work out, well at least I can get pissed in style and then hang myself originally using the uplifting force of several helium balloons.

Oh and I'll wrap those red-heart fairy lights around my asphyxiating penis as I dangle, naked, solitary and alone.

Either way then really, it's going to be a good outcome.

Ok so i've got one of my own

Ok so this chick is pretty obviously coming onto me. She pretty hot, nice enough. However I don't really "feel" anything at all for her. (apart from her being hot haha) So, should I go ahead and flirt with her etc and see where it goes. Or not bother since I don't really like her more than a (hot) friend.

Little BaBy JESUS wrote:

Ok so i've got one of my own

Ok so this chick is pretty obviously coming onto me. She pretty hot, nice enough. However I don't really "feel" anything at all for her. (apart from her being hot haha) So, should I go ahead and flirt with her etc and see where it goes. Or not bother since I don't really like her more than a (hot) friend.

Do you have anything to lose?

Metal-Eater-GR wrote:

Little BaBy JESUS wrote:

Ok so i've got one of my own

Ok so this chick is pretty obviously coming onto me. She pretty hot, nice enough. However I don't really "feel" anything at all for her. (apart from her being hot haha) So, should I go ahead and flirt with her etc and see where it goes. Or not bother since I don't really like her more than a (hot) friend.

Do you have anything to lose?

I guess there's obviously something in terms of his relationship with the girl's friend. Integrity and trust can be easily lost if you flirt with a girl and a friend sees. If you think it'll kick off with the other girl, don't go there. At the end of the day - I'd never date a girl that was obviously coming on to both me and my friend (Take the term obviously loosely) because I'd feel inadequate. Most girls are like this and around your age it's much harder for a girl to have a positive image of herself and actually be self confident enough to allow for you to flirt/be attracted to both of them.

Hakei wrote:

Metal-Eater-GR wrote:

Little BaBy JESUS wrote:

Ok so i've got one of my own

Ok so this chick is pretty obviously coming onto me. She pretty hot, nice enough. However I don't really "feel" anything at all for her. (apart from her being hot haha) So, should I go ahead and flirt with her etc and see where it goes. Or not bother since I don't really like her more than a (hot) friend.

Do you have anything to lose?

I guess there's obviously something in terms of his relationship with the girl's friend. Integrity and trust can be easily lost if you flirt with a girl and a friend sees. If you think it'll kick off with the other girl, don't go there. At the end of the day - I'd never date a girl that was obviously coming on to both me and my friend (Take the term obviously loosely) because I'd feel inadequate. Most girls are like this and around your age it's much harder for a girl to have a positive image of herself and actually be self confident enough to allow for you to flirt/be attracted to both of them.

Sorry I may have mis worded. Shes not coming onto me and a friend. I see her as a friend. We naturally get on and flirt alittle, but I really don't have any feelings for her. (but it'd be nice to break my bit-of-a dry spell)

krazed wrote:

go for it

Uzique wrote:

So yeah, I'm fucking smooth.

Picked her up from the train station, walked back home with her, talking nicely all the way - it felt fresh again, revitalised, somehow different...

Got in, sat down on the sofa and had a nice snuggle, she was completely unawares that I had done anything, of course.

Had a smirk on my face, feeling confident by this point, led her up to her room on the top floor... she was gobsmacked, teary, overwhelmed.

And I'm back on the poon.

God, being in love rules.

This shitty experience has had the bonus benefit of realising that loads of you guys here are actually sound blokes and pretty awesome guys. Thanks a lot for all your replies and for generally being cool and considerate towards a regular poster that often doesn't amount or contribute to a great deal more than telling you all how (supposedly) shit you are. Have a new-found respect for Bf2s now. I owe you all a pint!

Good man. Glad it worked out.

Uzique wrote:

So yeah, I'm fucking smooth.

Picked her up from the train station, walked back home with her, talking nicely all the way - it felt fresh again, revitalised, somehow different...

Got in, sat down on the sofa and had a nice snuggle, she was completely unawares that I had done anything, of course.

Had a smirk on my face, feeling confident by this point, led her up to her room on the top floor... she was gobsmacked, teary, overwhelmed.

And I'm back on the poon.

God, being in love rules.

This shitty experience has had the bonus benefit of realising that loads of you guys here are actually sound blokes and pretty awesome guys. Thanks a lot for all your replies and for generally being cool and considerate towards a regular poster that often doesn't amount or contribute to a great deal more than telling you all how (supposedly) shit you are. Have a new-found respect for Bf2s now. I owe you all a pint!

we love you too <3

glad everything worked out

Nice one uzi! You were able to play it cool and I know how hard that is.

I envy you...I miss my ex and haven't spoken to her since I left to avoid falling in the friends zone. I also had a massive argument with her before so we didn't leave eachother on the best of terms

I've hooked up with other girls but I can't get over her and all I want to do is pick up the phone, give her a call but I fear she's moved on and won't give a shit...meh

..teddy..jimmy wrote:

Nice one uzi! You were able to play it cool and I know how hard that is.

I envy you...I miss my ex and haven't spoken to her since I left to avoid falling in the friends zone. I also had a massive argument with her before so we didn't leave eachother on the best of terms

I've hooked up with other girls but I can't get over her and all I want to do is pick up the phone, give her a call but I fear she's moved on and won't give a shit...meh

Tell her straight man, girls are even more nostalgic and long-lastingly sensitive about love and all the special stars and sparkles than blokes. Chances are, if you're still feeling raw and hurt from the bad break-up, so is she, deep down underneath all her pretentions of 'moving on' and enjoying life now. Give her a call, apologise sincerely for the way things went, maybe even risk that ultimate step of telling her how you feel now. As everyone else here says, what do you have to lose yourself, Teds? You're without her now - you're unhappy. You get things off your mind and be frank and honest with someone that was, in essence, your best-friend and confidential partner anyway, and at the very worst you'll still be without her but will be happy because the air is clear. Win/win. I know hwo you feel about hooking up with girls meaninglessly for lust-driven nights and playful games... it's fun, for about a week, then the art of the chase gets stale.

Tonight I dine in Lesbos!

I've been owned twice now, first time was pure ownage when I was 16. Second time was more of me being silly, but still owned in the long term.

Ah well at least you can sit back and lol at it all afterwards

..teddy..jimmy wrote:

Uzique wrote:

..teddy..jimmy wrote:

Nice one uzi! You were able to play it cool and I know how hard that is.

I envy you...I miss my ex and haven't spoken to her since I left to avoid falling in the friends zone. I also had a massive argument with her before so we didn't leave eachother on the best of terms

I've hooked up with other girls but I can't get over her and all I want to do is pick up the phone, give her a call but I fear she's moved on and won't give a shit...meh

Tell her straight man, girls are even more nostalgic and long-lastingly sensitive about love and all the special stars and sparkles than blokes. Chances are, if you're still feeling raw and hurt from the bad break-up, so is she, deep down underneath all her pretentions of 'moving on' and enjoying life now. Give her a call, apologise sincerely for the way things went, maybe even risk that ultimate step of telling her how you feel now. As everyone else here says, what do you have to lose yourself, Teds? You're without her now - you're unhappy. You get things off your mind and be frank and honest with someone that was, in essence, your best-friend and confidential partner anyway, and at the very worst you'll still be without her but will be happy because the air is clear. Win/win. I know hwo you feel about hooking up with girls meaninglessly for lust-driven nights and playful games... it's fun, for about a week, then the art of the chase gets stale.

Tonight I dine in Lesbos!

Will probably give her a call but the most annoying thing is I'm heading to Salcombe tomorrow but I leave a day before she gets there. She'll be there for a month, there will be other guys, she's good looking...unfortunately I've got to be realistic. Gahhhh! I was planning on just not talking to her for 3 months, showing up during freshers and let the sparks fly again...bad strategy?

It's a viable strategy but there ain't nothing to say it will make you happy... Fresher's Week is good fun but it's just a game, really.

If you meant anything to her then she won't have any meaningful relation with other guys, even if she is a fiiine dish. If she does, then let that be a judgement of sorts, I guess. Just because you can't physically see her and hang out with her, doesn't mean you can't clear the air and put your cards on the table, anyway. Better to know than to torture yourself with doubt and pessimism, like I have been doing for the last week!

Last edited by Uzique (2009-07-23 13:27:04)