Dear bf2s,
Some whiney ginger prick keeps emailing, texting and Facebook messaging (private ones, not wall posts) my girlfriend telling her how much he "misses her" as well as mixed other emo comments such as "i can't do this without you, i miss us" rather constantly. Before she came to University they were quite good friends, but met from rather different social groups and as such ended up doing things together as a duo rather than in larger-group scenarios. She assures me that nothing happened and she never had any feelings, and of course I trust my woman- after all, if she was attracted to him and wanted to try something, she had years to do it. What I don't trust is this guy. Now, I know that drifting apart from friends and moving on from the home->Uni divide is 'hard' and all that sentimental living-in-the-past bollocks, but what do you make of him? She rarely sees him anymore because of geographical differences, and mainly the fact that she actually
has moved on, but he's still incessantly messaging and trying to claw something back. This makes me wonder... does he want something more? Or is he just actually mourning an old-friendship in the most extreme, exaggerated and strangely-emotional way? Of course as a territorial bloke this constant male pen-writer makes me feel slightly curious, but I don't want to step-in and pass any judgement in an area that is ultimately her and her friendships. However, from a 'guy perspective', I clearly have some suspicions and distrust.
So, my question is bf2s, do you think this constantly annoying whino has crossed the line, as such? Is it time for me to step in and say to her, stop messaging him back, or be more straight and tell him that things have moved on and he's going to have to deal with it? It's a sensitive place because I recognise that it's all her prerogative and dealings, but really it is starting to get to the point where I just want to go up to this guy myself and tell him to fucking jog on.
Last edited by Uzique (2009-06-22 19:07:02)
