Girl friend wants to take a break

2008-10-20 17:38:28

#1

TeamOrange: Don't be that guy; +84|6312

I know another girl thread *sigh*

My gf told me last night that she wasn't sure if i was a friend or a boyfriend, this happened because i went to college and the distance is hard for her. I go home as often as I can but I am involved with a sport which takes up most of my weekends. So last night we came to the conclusion that we would go on a break so she can think and have space from me, so that she can sort out her thoughts. I promised her that I won't contact her till thursday. I love her, she is a perfect match for me and I don't want it to end, yet because we had a good thing going. I just look forward to the next time I will be in contact with her, and that is good enough for me. My questions are: What should i do, is there away that you can think of that i can still win her back? Is it likely that we are going to end? And if we do end how should I treat her because i will still have strong feeling for her?

I know that people can't solve my issues because everyone/relationship is unique but I just want to hear your what you have done and stories.

2008-10-20 17:42:53

#2

Parker: isteal; +1,452|6395|The Gem Saloon

it is VERY likely that you two are going to end. not a certainty, but it will probably happen.

if you want my advice, i would start planning my future as a single person. that will save you the hardship when this does end for real...

a break to have some space from you?
brother, you are in college...some distance away. there isnt much more of a break or more space to be had...

i know it sucks to hear, but i think she has probably already made up her mind.

2008-10-20 17:47:03

#3

TeamOrange: Don't be that guy; +84|6312

What I mean by space is calling her/video chatting with her (which i do everyday), its also not that she has a problem with that, what sparked this was i didn't call her for 2 days, first i fell asleep at 930 (5 hour work out) and the next i was at a competition and my phone died and i didn't get home till 1am and she was asleep. And I would normally figure that she has made up her mind, just her friend (my best friend) told me she hasn't, she is confused. And i have been preparing for the worst

Last edited by TeamOrange (2008-10-20 17:49:54)

2008-10-20 17:48:47

#4

CoronadoSEAL: pics or it didn't happen; +207|6519|USA

i need pics before i make a recommendation as to whether you should try and get back together or not.

2008-10-20 17:51:26

#5

aimless: Member; +166|6126|Texas

It's over, move on, trust me.

2008-10-20 17:53:24

#6

Airburner_01: Da Funky Munky; +6|6781

CoronadoSEAL wrote:
i need pics before i make a recommendation as to whether you should try and get back together or not.

2008-10-20 17:54:16

#7

max: Vela Incident; +1,652|6568|NYC / Hamburg

aimless wrote:
It's over, move on, trust me.

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2008-10-20 17:56:18

#8

AussieReaper: ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°); +5,761|6154|what

If you love her, drop your sport.

2008-10-20 17:58:07

#9

TeamOrange: Don't be that guy; +84|6312

TheAussieReaper wrote:
If you love her, drop your sport.

She does the same sport, that's how we met. She would get more mad if I did.

2008-10-20 17:59:01

#10

Parker: isteal; +1,452|6395|The Gem Saloon

TheAussieReaper wrote:
If you love her, drop your sport.

this is horrible advice....i would not do this if i were you.

2008-10-20 18:00:05

#11

eskimo_sammyjoe: Did someone say tea?; +112|6236|S.A. Australia

TheAussieReaper wrote:
If you love her, drop your sport.

Don't drop your sport for her unless you really suck at it. I've dropped sports for similar reasons in the past and now I seriously regret it.

Serious Flex

2008-10-20 18:00:36

#12

AussieReaper: ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°); +5,761|6154|what

TeamOrange wrote:
TheAussieReaper wrote:
If you love her, drop your sport.
She does the same sport, that's how we met. She would get more mad if I did.

You said "I go home as often as I can but I am involved with a sport which takes up most of my weekends."

So, are you spending most of your weekends with her, or playing sport?

Both drop it and be together, or end the relationship yourself, before she does.

2008-10-20 18:01:57

#13

TeamOrange: Don't be that guy; +84|6312

TheAussieReaper wrote:
TeamOrange wrote:
TheAussieReaper wrote:
If you love her, drop your sport.
She does the same sport, that's how we met. She would get more mad if I did.
You said "I go home as often as I can but I am involved with a sport which takes up most of my weekends."

So, are you spending most of your weekends with her, or playing sport?

Both drop it and be together, or end the relationship yourself, before she does.

The sport but regardless I wouldn't be able to go home every weekend cause financially i can't, so I will still be going home only once a month (which i do now).

Ya I'm not dropping it, I'm actually switching schools for a better opportunity/coach, I'm hoping to go pro or ability to be able to compete at the pro level.

Last edited by TeamOrange (2008-10-20 18:04:32)

2008-10-20 18:04:12

#14

eskimo_sammyjoe: Did someone say tea?; +112|6236|S.A. Australia

What is said sport by the way?

Serious Flex

2008-10-20 18:04:58

#15

TeamOrange: Don't be that guy; +84|6312

eskimo_sammyjoe wrote:
What is said sport by the way?

track and field

2008-10-20 18:06:21

#16

eskimo_sammyjoe: Did someone say tea?; +112|6236|S.A. Australia

Ooo yeah, dont drop that

Serious Flex

2008-10-20 18:06:34

#17

nukchebi0: Пушкин, наше всё; +387|6325|New Haven, CT

What events do you run?

2008-10-20 18:07:23

#18

TeamOrange: Don't be that guy; +84|6312

nukchebi0 wrote:
What events do you run?

Lets get back on topic, my sport isn't the issue here

check your pms

Last edited by TeamOrange (2008-10-20 18:08:33)

2008-10-20 18:11:22

#19

nukchebi0: Пушкин, наше всё; +387|6325|New Haven, CT

Got it.

2008-10-20 18:38:35

#20

justice: OctoPoster; +978|6742|OctoLand

Parker wrote:
it is VERY likely that you two are going to end. not a certainty, but it will probably happen.

if you want my advice, i would start planning my future as a single person. that will save you the hardship when this does end for real...

a break to have some space from you?
brother, you are in college...some distance away. there isnt much more of a break or more space to be had...

i know it sucks to hear, but i think she has probably already made up her mind.

Pretty much

I know fucking karate

2008-10-20 19:16:26

#21

rdx-fx: ...; +955|6592

When a young girl in her early 20's says she "needs her space", you are done with any boyfirend-girlfriend relationship. She is just having a hard time pulling the plug.

My advice:

Find a new girl to screw, stop calling the old one, and perhaps e-mail the old one at most once a week on a purely friendly basis.

Friends have their unique individual values and are worth keeping around.
Girlfriends .. meh.. very very rarely does one screw any better or worse than another.
Good friends are worth keeping around. A piece of ass is completely replaceable.

Besides.. DUDE! You're at College!
These are your prime-time tail chasing years. Enjoy it. It will likely never get better than these next 4 or 8 years.

Last edited by rdx-fx (2008-10-20 19:17:34)

2008-10-20 19:30:44

#22

FI-SCOTTY: Member; +16|6696|Scotland

rdx-fx wrote:
When a young girl in her early 20's says she "needs her space", you are done with any boyfirend-girlfriend relationship. She is just having a hard time pulling the plug.

My advice:

Find a new girl to screw, stop calling the old one, and perhaps e-mail the old one at most once a week on a purely friendly basis.

Friends have their unique individual values and are worth keeping around.
Girlfriends .. meh.. very very rarely does one screw any better or worse than another.
Good friends are worth keeping around. A piece of ass is completely replaceable.

Besides.. DUDE! You're at College!
These are your prime-time tail chasing years. Enjoy it. It will likely never get better than these next 4 or 8 years.

2008-10-20 19:32:27

#23

ATG: Banned; +5,233|6530|Global Command

Live your life first.
The world is full of willing women.

2008-10-20 19:33:06

#24

krazed: Admiral of the Bathtub; +619|6781|Great Brown North

well, to me "i want to take a break" means "i want to fool around with other people but not feel guilty about it later" that might just be me though

2008-10-20 20:05:34

#25

RoosterCantrell: Goodbye :); +399|6481|Somewhere else

rdx-fx wrote:
When a young girl in her early 20's says she "needs her space", you are done with any boyfirend-girlfriend relationship. She is just having a hard time pulling the plug.

My advice:

Find a new girl to screw, stop calling the old one, and perhaps e-mail the old one at most once a week on a purely friendly basis.

Friends have their unique individual values and are worth keeping around.
Girlfriends .. meh.. very very rarely does one screw any better or worse than another.
Good friends are worth keeping around. A piece of ass is completely replaceable.

Besides.. DUDE! You're at College!
These are your prime-time tail chasing years. Enjoy it. It will likely never get better than these next 4 or 8 years.

ATG wrote:
Live your life first.
The world is full of willing women.

Both good advice/ words of wisdom. It's pretty much over my friend. Don't hate her for it. Long distance relationships NEVER work. Your only chance to make it work is be closer together (one of you move to the other) which is probably impossible. If you want, remain friends.

Also, if you want to work on it, go for it. Just don't forget that your chances to fix this is next to impossible. Keep that in mind, brace yourself.

"other fish in the sea" and all that bullshit doesn't mean a thing if you lover her alot. One thing you should keep in mind if you are feeling down is that over time, everything will be o.k. Never forget that. That thought Helped me.

Think of all the little things she did that DID bother you, and think about a girl like her, only better. Then look for that girl.

and... DUDE! YOU. ARE. AT. COLLEGE. Keep in mind that if you did stick with this girl, your 50 year old future self would come hunting for you and beat the shit out of you for not fully using this opportunity for strange ass.

Remember, at very least keep in touch with her. I know a handful of people that hooked back up with long ago ex's. The odds of that are better than making a long distance relationship work.

The "time apart" saying is the largest, and last of the nails in the coffin. Brace yourself buddy. Buck up and imagine what that hot little blonde in your class looks like in nothing but a pair of lacy pink panties and no bra.

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