Rohirm wrote:
Alright, seeing that I was going to post a guide up about this kinda stuff, i guess i can post it here
So You’re looking for a date or a relationship
The actual difficult to this process is the introduction between you and said lady. Be casual and be cool. Your heart may be pumping fast, you may be trembling, but you must stay composed. You’re gonna need an icebreaker too. Compliments are a great icebreaker; comment on something you find nice, whether it be shoes or a hat. Don’t be too unusual either and don’t be an asshole and scream out “I like your knockers, wanna fuck?” That earns you a dumbfuck sticker and a kick to the groin. You deserved it anyway. Find something to talk about. If she is reading something like a newspaper relate to that. For example, point out recent headlines that were funny, random hilarious stuff and trivia (LOLcats is a good convo starter btw…Seriously), and if you have your laptop, the better. A good funny youtube video is a great icebreaker as well. If you are a University student, there is the simplest, most effective ice breaker…ask what they are majoring in. Comment on it nicely. It can do lots of good. Finally, and nonchalantly, ask if she would like to do something Specific (insert your idea here) sometime. She says yes or no. Yes=you win, No=you tried, good job!
No no no, never open with a compliment, that immediately portrays you as the same as every other guy that is trying to get her. Never start by asking her what she's studying, what her name is or what her job is. These are known as interview questions, they immediately signal to a girl on a subconcious level that you dont know her (which can make her slightly uncomfortable) as well as being the exact same boring questions that every normal guy asks when he tries to start talking to her! Remember its all about making yourself stand out!
However, yes your example does show when normal interview questions can work, when you already kinda know someone.
UAV recon is online…Signs she may be interested in You(or not)
Body language tells a lot of things about a person. Watch for subtle things on the approach or on a date. If she continually makes eye contact with you, smiles a lot, close in your personal space, you’ve got a bite. Good job.
Sadly though, some body language means that she isn’t. Avoiding eye contact is a key sign; she is also out of reach from you. Another one is to watch her eyes too. If she continually looks for exits you have a prob. She doesn’t want to go any further and wants to leave. Another unique sign is look where her toes are pointed. Sounds weird but true. If they are pointing towards you, she’s focusing on you. If she seems uncomfortable around you (antsy and pacing around) its also a bad sign or shes bored, which isn't good.
Conversations can be a 2 sided affair as well; If she isn’t very content on making conversation with you, it isn’t a bad sign yet. There might be something wrong so ask her. Be nice, be respectful. Don’t shoot your mouth off. The other more sinister side, I assume you all know.
Other signs can include:
She asks you, without prompting, what your name is, where you work, what you study or how old you are
You lean back and sh eleans toward you
Her legs aren't crossed (or crossed towards you), her body is angled towards you, and her arms arent crossed
She changes her opinion to match yours
You make a joke and the only one in the group that laughs is her
If you take her hand to lead her somewhere and she squeezes it, or if you let go n she holds on.
She says "I'm not sleeping with you" or "I'm not going home with you" before you've displayed any intent to do so.
She playfully touches you, like punches or slaps to the arm.
She ignores her friends when they want to contribute or leave.
You stop talking and make eye contact, she holds it for more than a second
You turn to talk to someone else and she waits for you to turn back
She displays subconcious actions of attraction e.g. lip licking, hair twirling, and pupil dilating
She grooms herself to display more skin to you, e.g. pushing hair behind ears, or adjusting clothing
Absent mindedly fondling objects, like her mobile phone, a strwar or jewellery
If you stop talking and she tries to restart the convo with a "so"
She mirrors your movements with a slight delay
So you lucky bastard, you got yourself a date
Firstly congratulations, you got through the hardest stage. Secondly, there are several rules to follow when on a date:
1. Always be yourself. Read above
2. Ensure that your date is fun…better yet original. A movie may be nice, but try something a little bit more one on one for example a picnic dinner at sunset (weather permitting)
3. Be a Gent
4. Communicate effectively and coherently
5. Negotiate; find out what she would like to do as well
6. Keep your care cup full. Nothing pisses off a chick more than not paying attention. Keep your eyes off the game and on her. It will pay off.
That’s all for now…I’ll keep adding sections and the like through edits. This is an early version btw, their will be revisions.
This section is good. especially points 2 and 4. You want to give her an exciting option for the next time you meet, so she is more likely to say yes. But avoid it being just the two of you, as I've already said, this creates a high pressure date situation. However there is a personal favourite of mine which is an instant date. During the conversation say something like "lets go get a coffee/drink/a bite to eat". I like this becuase by going to lots of different places with someone you've just met not only gives the impression that you are a fun and lively person to be around, but also it will feel like you've known each other longer than you actually have.
With number 4, you want to make sure you speak slowly and clearly so she can fully understand you, rushing what you say shows low self confidence and can make you both uncomfortable, as well as making her feel slihtly overwhelmed trying to keep up with what you say.
One last thing
Never ever get her number and then just leave it will signal to her straight away that everything you just did was to get her number