Well, welcome to another one of these threads, again.
I understand now why people post their own emotional shit on BF2S.
Well, I guess I should've grown up earlier and realize it earlier.
My life's been quite unstable lately. Peoples changing, everyone changes, I guess I should've thought about it earlier.
But since forums keep identities anonymous, let me explain.
This is only one small part.
In short:
Even though I once thought about eternal friendship and how good some people stay together, people change, all the time. My best friend got a boyfriend lately and not her first but this guy seems to have changed her life or something. As we all have to do our part, we need to appreciate and understand that have a partner but honestly, does that provide them the right to ditch their best friends all the time? I'm talking about in-school, classes, outside of school, hanging out, just taking a simple walk or having a chat. Absolutely everything.
But lets take a step back. Before they went out, (Just to clarify I am completely fine with her boyfriend, good friends, now) the guy was being a complete douchebag. You know how they try to act all cool and try to impress their girl by shoving you out of the way and being a dick? Well, it was exactly that, he punched me quite alot and harrased me like fuck but in the end of around 3 weeks, we were walking together and before we left, he gave me special eye contact which secretly implied an apologize. But during the time which he was a serious pain, i was uber pissed off, i was this close to just high tackling his neck and kicking his dick 10x but I didnt want shit to be so awakard so I didnt do anything in the end. But after the implied apology and some talks, we were cool, we see and talk to each other quite a bit and become good friends now.
But now, the problems with the girl. I told one of my friends that I've become completely invisible and inexistent. I am pretty much just about nothing to her now. She dosent talk to me much (at least, much less) she ditches me completely in and out of school, whatever were doing, even as simple as walking along the corridor, she would just speed off and rush off without bye or even a single word. I hate it when people take their friends for granted or something or prioritze thier friends. I think FRIENDS FOR SALE on facebook is just fucked up. It encourages more prioritizing of friends and more bitching and how 'i am more important to her than you are, hah in yo face niggah' kinda shit.
So ditching aside, she soon apologized for it but it seemed to do nothing. She meant the apology but it didnt do much to our friendship. Our relationships began to tear downhill as we had nothing to say or do with each other. Everything in this world seemed to happen as if I was non-existenet. She began to get bored of me and shit and stop caring about me at all.
But ok fine, she dosent care about me this week or talk to me. BUT HEY BOYFRIEND PROBLEMS, BANG your instantly the first person she talks to me. "OH MY GOD, I NEED URE HELP BALHBALHALAB", like seriously, is this why you talk to me? All ever cuz of ure boyfriend? Is there anything else you ever find me for? Or am I just your on call standy relationship therapist? Things started to piss me off.
As shit went down, things like those began to repeat. Situations became more awkward.
And today, I had 5 hours of sleep (more like 4 and a half) coz I was supposed to meet a bunch of friends in the theme park. So I'm all tired and shit but I want to go. Already like a half zombie, we have a good time in the theme park. Cool people, a fun time and very happy, no arguements or unhappy shit like that. I go back home with 2 other friends and I am absolutey dead along with them aswell. We were all so tired. My bestfriend calls me and asks me to hang out and I'm like I'm very tired though but I'll try. Theyre going to my friends house who lives extremely close to me so I'm like what if you go to his hosue first and I'll rest for a sec and washup and shit. I told them on the phone when I just left that I might not be able to coz I'm really tired, exhausted and broke. So she's like okay.
I get home and later the girls come. Theyre like, lets go to blahbla, but this place is quite far away from where I live and it takes me 2 entires to go abck and forth, I was already really tired, it was starting to get late and I had no money. So i explain to them that I just came back from the theme park, I'm absolutely out of energy, I dont have enought sleep and I have barely any money. She leaves on the bus without saying a single word while her other friend is still fine and were chatting. But my bestfriend begins to ignore me and leaves without saying anything at the bus station.
So I knew something was up. I called her and she didnt pick up.
I get home and rest and go on MSN later, we had a really long MSN conversation and it ended up quite bad and I ended up in tears for a minute or so before I got to calm myself down.
This is a summary of the convo:
She pretends to not get pissed off.
Its qiute obvious she is.
I ignore her at first because she blames me for saying that I was making excuses to not go and how i hated her and didnt care about her.
I explain to her that she is completely ignorant about everything I said on the fone when i was going home. Now she starts going like, OH SO YOUR OUT OF ENERGY EH? O YEA URE TIRED? YEA MY ASS. etc.etc.
Because in the past, we have known eahc other for so long, I always helped her out. So frankly, all this YOU DONT CARE ABOUT ME bullshit was completely proven wrong when I told her how I ALWAYS HELPED HER WITH EVEYR TROUBLE SHE HAD (quite alot of had to do with multiple boyfriend problems, quite frankly, if i didnt help her out and be there for her, she wouldnt have had such a good relationship with him)
I tell her to stop being so ignorant and think on my side for once, I AM NOT YOUR HANG OUT ANYTIME SLAVE (thats basically the massage behind all that I said) and I told her to think about my view for once. IM FUCKING EXHAUSTED I CAN BARELY WALK. I JUST WANNA SLEEP.
So later she says sorry and begins to go like " i dont think we should be so close. I dont even care about you now. I'm sorry about all the mistakes i've made before but i dont think we should be friends for a while. I'm selfish, greedy, i never think about you, i only ask you for my help and i dont even really care about you, youre too good to be my friend and i think you should (other girls name here, (i want to remain completely anonymous)) get them isntead to be your best friends. I have really bad qualitys blalhblah and she backstabbed me 3 times over a period of one hour to my other friends which I thought was just seriosuly mean.
I've probably never backstabbed her, ever, even in a serious arguement and yet over some small ass problem she said I'm a waste of time to talk to and that I'm contributing to her unnesscecary phone bills. At this point, I had the motivation to call a cab to her house and beat the shit out of her. But that was too unrealistic and we talked about this shit.
She was really negative abotu the whole situtaion and she said she was erally confused about everything and she didnt know what was troubling her.
Basically, the convo ended with "FUCK U JAMES, I DONT EVEN CARE ABOUT U NOW, SO FUCK OFF PLZZ, GREAT THAT UVE HELPED ME WITH SO MUCH SHIT BEFORE, BUT I HAVE TAKEN THEM FOR GRANTED AND I DONT NEED YOU ANYMORE. I HAS A BOYFRIEND SO FUX YOU, YOU DONT MEAN ANYTHING ANYMORE"
It really hurt me, considering that I've known her for so long. She apologized but the situation was still bad.
One of my friends told me that I should seriously just get new friends. I asked my friend if 'Our time was over', which she agreed to and I guess I've learnt now that people can be serious bitches. Best friends when they are but when they wanna screw you over, they can easily do it...
Note: I'm a guy and this best friend is a girl.
I ended up in tears for a minute or so, I just couldnt blieve how mean she was to me. After all the times weve had together, she talks to me like this, I am so dissapointed in a friend that I thought would last forever.
I understand now why people post their own emotional shit on BF2S.
Well, I guess I should've grown up earlier and realize it earlier.
My life's been quite unstable lately. Peoples changing, everyone changes, I guess I should've thought about it earlier.
But since forums keep identities anonymous, let me explain.
This is only one small part.
In short:
Even though I once thought about eternal friendship and how good some people stay together, people change, all the time. My best friend got a boyfriend lately and not her first but this guy seems to have changed her life or something. As we all have to do our part, we need to appreciate and understand that have a partner but honestly, does that provide them the right to ditch their best friends all the time? I'm talking about in-school, classes, outside of school, hanging out, just taking a simple walk or having a chat. Absolutely everything.
But lets take a step back. Before they went out, (Just to clarify I am completely fine with her boyfriend, good friends, now) the guy was being a complete douchebag. You know how they try to act all cool and try to impress their girl by shoving you out of the way and being a dick? Well, it was exactly that, he punched me quite alot and harrased me like fuck but in the end of around 3 weeks, we were walking together and before we left, he gave me special eye contact which secretly implied an apologize. But during the time which he was a serious pain, i was uber pissed off, i was this close to just high tackling his neck and kicking his dick 10x but I didnt want shit to be so awakard so I didnt do anything in the end. But after the implied apology and some talks, we were cool, we see and talk to each other quite a bit and become good friends now.
But now, the problems with the girl. I told one of my friends that I've become completely invisible and inexistent. I am pretty much just about nothing to her now. She dosent talk to me much (at least, much less) she ditches me completely in and out of school, whatever were doing, even as simple as walking along the corridor, she would just speed off and rush off without bye or even a single word. I hate it when people take their friends for granted or something or prioritze thier friends. I think FRIENDS FOR SALE on facebook is just fucked up. It encourages more prioritizing of friends and more bitching and how 'i am more important to her than you are, hah in yo face niggah' kinda shit.
So ditching aside, she soon apologized for it but it seemed to do nothing. She meant the apology but it didnt do much to our friendship. Our relationships began to tear downhill as we had nothing to say or do with each other. Everything in this world seemed to happen as if I was non-existenet. She began to get bored of me and shit and stop caring about me at all.
But ok fine, she dosent care about me this week or talk to me. BUT HEY BOYFRIEND PROBLEMS, BANG your instantly the first person she talks to me. "OH MY GOD, I NEED URE HELP BALHBALHALAB", like seriously, is this why you talk to me? All ever cuz of ure boyfriend? Is there anything else you ever find me for? Or am I just your on call standy relationship therapist? Things started to piss me off.
As shit went down, things like those began to repeat. Situations became more awkward.
And today, I had 5 hours of sleep (more like 4 and a half) coz I was supposed to meet a bunch of friends in the theme park. So I'm all tired and shit but I want to go. Already like a half zombie, we have a good time in the theme park. Cool people, a fun time and very happy, no arguements or unhappy shit like that. I go back home with 2 other friends and I am absolutey dead along with them aswell. We were all so tired. My bestfriend calls me and asks me to hang out and I'm like I'm very tired though but I'll try. Theyre going to my friends house who lives extremely close to me so I'm like what if you go to his hosue first and I'll rest for a sec and washup and shit. I told them on the phone when I just left that I might not be able to coz I'm really tired, exhausted and broke. So she's like okay.
I get home and later the girls come. Theyre like, lets go to blahbla, but this place is quite far away from where I live and it takes me 2 entires to go abck and forth, I was already really tired, it was starting to get late and I had no money. So i explain to them that I just came back from the theme park, I'm absolutely out of energy, I dont have enought sleep and I have barely any money. She leaves on the bus without saying a single word while her other friend is still fine and were chatting. But my bestfriend begins to ignore me and leaves without saying anything at the bus station.
So I knew something was up. I called her and she didnt pick up.
I get home and rest and go on MSN later, we had a really long MSN conversation and it ended up quite bad and I ended up in tears for a minute or so before I got to calm myself down.
This is a summary of the convo:
She pretends to not get pissed off.
Its qiute obvious she is.
I ignore her at first because she blames me for saying that I was making excuses to not go and how i hated her and didnt care about her.
I explain to her that she is completely ignorant about everything I said on the fone when i was going home. Now she starts going like, OH SO YOUR OUT OF ENERGY EH? O YEA URE TIRED? YEA MY ASS. etc.etc.
Because in the past, we have known eahc other for so long, I always helped her out. So frankly, all this YOU DONT CARE ABOUT ME bullshit was completely proven wrong when I told her how I ALWAYS HELPED HER WITH EVEYR TROUBLE SHE HAD (quite alot of had to do with multiple boyfriend problems, quite frankly, if i didnt help her out and be there for her, she wouldnt have had such a good relationship with him)
I tell her to stop being so ignorant and think on my side for once, I AM NOT YOUR HANG OUT ANYTIME SLAVE (thats basically the massage behind all that I said) and I told her to think about my view for once. IM FUCKING EXHAUSTED I CAN BARELY WALK. I JUST WANNA SLEEP.
So later she says sorry and begins to go like " i dont think we should be so close. I dont even care about you now. I'm sorry about all the mistakes i've made before but i dont think we should be friends for a while. I'm selfish, greedy, i never think about you, i only ask you for my help and i dont even really care about you, youre too good to be my friend and i think you should (other girls name here, (i want to remain completely anonymous)) get them isntead to be your best friends. I have really bad qualitys blalhblah and she backstabbed me 3 times over a period of one hour to my other friends which I thought was just seriosuly mean.
I've probably never backstabbed her, ever, even in a serious arguement and yet over some small ass problem she said I'm a waste of time to talk to and that I'm contributing to her unnesscecary phone bills. At this point, I had the motivation to call a cab to her house and beat the shit out of her. But that was too unrealistic and we talked about this shit.
She was really negative abotu the whole situtaion and she said she was erally confused about everything and she didnt know what was troubling her.
Basically, the convo ended with "FUCK U JAMES, I DONT EVEN CARE ABOUT U NOW, SO FUCK OFF PLZZ, GREAT THAT UVE HELPED ME WITH SO MUCH SHIT BEFORE, BUT I HAVE TAKEN THEM FOR GRANTED AND I DONT NEED YOU ANYMORE. I HAS A BOYFRIEND SO FUX YOU, YOU DONT MEAN ANYTHING ANYMORE"
It really hurt me, considering that I've known her for so long. She apologized but the situation was still bad.
One of my friends told me that I should seriously just get new friends. I asked my friend if 'Our time was over', which she agreed to and I guess I've learnt now that people can be serious bitches. Best friends when they are but when they wanna screw you over, they can easily do it...
Note: I'm a guy and this best friend is a girl.
I ended up in tears for a minute or so, I just couldnt blieve how mean she was to me. After all the times weve had together, she talks to me like this, I am so dissapointed in a friend that I thought would last forever.
