Tough call. You have to be able to trust herafter this, whuich is very hard. If you can't trust her after this, there's your answer.
DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT be all lovey and forgive and say, "i love you too much to throw it away now" THAT is an open notice that you will probably forgive if it happens again.
Me personally, i'd fucking dump her ass, fast quick ,and qwithout emotion, but that's me.
If you want to keep it going, the best thing would be to tell her that:
you can forgive her, and it won't be a weapon in which you'd throw it in her face in a fight. But you cannot forget it, ever. If she cheats again, she can be damn sure that her shit will be on the lawn when she shows up. She has ruined all trust, SHE FUCKED UP, the situation is in YOUR HANDS. Any bitchy comments from her on this sitautioon is immediate termination of relationship. She can still be herself, and has every right to do as she pleases in this relationship. But if she wants it to work, she WILL have to EARN trust back, and owes that to you for this betrayal. <-that doesnt sound like forgiveness, but I say it's reaosnable. You did forgive her for cheating, but there is no way you can really trust her for now.
Do not be kind about this, do not be mean. Be very stern and to the point. don't get angry or raise your voice, that gets no where. Search within yourself. Love easily blinds reason and common sense. So far, making it work, from an outsiders point of view, is not unreasonable.
After this though, she should realise that hanging out with him over there, doesn't work, and that's no longer gonna happen.
You also have to make sure that you actually can forgive her. Plus, this is alot of bullshit to bring into a fresh relationship. In a couple of months old relationship, usually the people are too busy enjoying a fresh relationaship to cheat. THIS fact is very odd.
Alot to wiegh in.
Also sounds like she still has feelings for her boyfriend a bit. Confront her with that. Tell her it isn't gonna work until she sorts her own feelings out. SHE too has to be sure.
DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT be all lovey and forgive and say, "i love you too much to throw it away now" THAT is an open notice that you will probably forgive if it happens again.
Me personally, i'd fucking dump her ass, fast quick ,and qwithout emotion, but that's me.
If you want to keep it going, the best thing would be to tell her that:
you can forgive her, and it won't be a weapon in which you'd throw it in her face in a fight. But you cannot forget it, ever. If she cheats again, she can be damn sure that her shit will be on the lawn when she shows up. She has ruined all trust, SHE FUCKED UP, the situation is in YOUR HANDS. Any bitchy comments from her on this sitautioon is immediate termination of relationship. She can still be herself, and has every right to do as she pleases in this relationship. But if she wants it to work, she WILL have to EARN trust back, and owes that to you for this betrayal. <-that doesnt sound like forgiveness, but I say it's reaosnable. You did forgive her for cheating, but there is no way you can really trust her for now.
Do not be kind about this, do not be mean. Be very stern and to the point. don't get angry or raise your voice, that gets no where. Search within yourself. Love easily blinds reason and common sense. So far, making it work, from an outsiders point of view, is not unreasonable.
After this though, she should realise that hanging out with him over there, doesn't work, and that's no longer gonna happen.
You also have to make sure that you actually can forgive her. Plus, this is alot of bullshit to bring into a fresh relationship. In a couple of months old relationship, usually the people are too busy enjoying a fresh relationaship to cheat. THIS fact is very odd.
Alot to wiegh in.
Also sounds like she still has feelings for her boyfriend a bit. Confront her with that. Tell her it isn't gonna work until she sorts her own feelings out. SHE too has to be sure.
