Arg.. women.. HELP ME

2007-12-25 00:06:05

#76

LT.Victim: Member; +1,175|6777|British Columbia, Canada

bennisboy wrote:
progress?

Eh.. kinda, I've been hanging out with her alot lately, just got back from her house..

The other night we went snowboarding together..

While we were on the Ski Lift she said she wanted to get really drunk together, so drunk that she couldn't remember anything..

I asked her why, she said so she couldn't feel guilty about anything.. I told her that I didn't want to do anything that would make her cheat on her boyfriend. It's BS you want to do it sober, you just want to use it as an excuse, and she agreed.. and as asshole-ish as that may sound, it actually made some progress...

We went back to my house after boarding and watched a movie.. A good male friend of mine also came with us snowboarding and to my house after, me and her were cuddling on the couch and stuff until he drove her home..

My friend starting talking with her about his ex-girlfriend and the situation between me and the girl I'm trying to get with.. They talk for a little while after they get to her house..

He told me a bunch of stuff, some of the more interesting things are like, shes went in to kiss me like 10 times already, then realized what she was doing and stopped in her tracks, which is true, we've came so close to making out many times, but I don't want her to cheat on her boyfriend.., she also said how she just wanted to be cuddling or w/e with me into the rest of the night, in which he said, "you still can".. So he told her to call me and say what she told him.. Unlucky for me, I accidentally left my cellphone in his car. 13 missed calls later, and she gives up... Kinda shitty for me, because it really could have made some progress..

So ya, thats about it, her boyfriend gets back on Saturday, so hopefully by then she'll have somewhat made up her mind about who she wants to be with.. she also said, that when she is alone with me, she doesn't think about her boyfriend, but then when she is alone by herself, she thinks about him and me equally..

2007-12-25 00:17:42

#77

gene_pool: Banned; +519|6835|Gold coast, Aus.

^sounds like you don't need help and you're doing fine by yourself.

2007-12-25 00:25:47

#78

CanadianLoser: Meow :3 :3; +1,148|6722

LT.Victim wrote:
she also said, that when she is alone with me, she doesn't think about her boyfriend, but then when she is alone by herself, she thinks about him and me equally..

i was almost garunteed that she would break up with her boyfriend and go out with you until i saw that. but still im like 99% sure you will end up with her within 1-2 weeks MAX. so just keep playing it cool, dont let her cheat on her boyfriend, be cool about it and you will be fine..

good luck man

2007-12-25 05:42:58

#79

samfink: Member; +31|6769

it depends on what she's thinking. after all, if she's thinking of her B/f as a jerk, then the b/f will have a nasty welcome-home present ( her breaking up with him) but if not, heaven only knows. my guess would be she's confused, so keep up whatever you're doing, and soon she'll be yours. I agree though, DO NOT ENCOURAGE HER TO CHEAT ON HER BOYFRIEND. why? well, what if things were reversed? you wouldn't want her cheating on you, so don't encourage her to cheat on him

2007-12-25 14:54:01

#80

LT.Victim: Member; +1,175|6777|British Columbia, Canada

samfink wrote:
I agree though, DO NOT ENCOURAGE HER TO CHEAT ON HER BOYFRIEND. why? well, what if things were reversed? you wouldn't want her cheating on you, so don't encourage her to cheat on him

I know what you mean, I don't want to her to cheat on her current BF... but damn.. is it ever tempting.. Its like torture..

2007-12-25 17:19:55

#81

nukchebi0: Пушкин, наше всё; +387|6538|New Haven, CT

Cheating makes you a scumbag. Remember that when you are tempted.

2007-12-25 23:18:16

#82

LT.Victim: Member; +1,175|6777|British Columbia, Canada

Oh Jebus.. Here comes the dreaded "talk"..

I really don't know what to say.. I just diced up bit and pieces of what I wrote here and sent it too her..

I was at her house when we started talking about it, but I had to leave..

2007-12-25 23:19:59

#83

ig: This topic seems to have no actual posts; +1,199|6736

LT.Victim wrote:
Oh Jebus.. Here comes the dreaded "talk"..

I really don't know what to say.. I just diced up bit and pieces of what I wrote here and sent it too her..

I was at her house when we started talking about it, but I had to leave..

gl. be strong.

2007-12-25 23:20:37

#84

CanadianLoser: Meow :3 :3; +1,148|6722

good luck it wont be bad, just think of the outcome

2007-12-25 23:30:07

#85

LT.Victim: Member; +1,175|6777|British Columbia, Canada

I sent her a Message 12 Texts long, and apparently they are all out of order.. so shes going to have fun reading through all of them trying to find it out...

I would phone her, but I have a feeling it would just end in silence or someone crying..

2007-12-25 23:33:19

#86

CanadianLoser: Meow :3 :3; +1,148|6722

lol txting ftw. i had a huge argument with my ex while we were still going out on txt messages. then i called her just to say i broke up with her. lol it was weird, but i didnt want to have the rep that i broke up over a txt message.

2007-12-25 23:41:15

#87

LT.Victim: Member; +1,175|6777|British Columbia, Canada

Canadianloser wrote:
lol txting ftw. i had a huge argument with my ex while we were still going out on txt messages. then i called her just to say i broke up with her. lol it was weird, but i didnt want to have the rep that i broke up over a txt message.

Ya..

Anyways. here is what she wrote back to me..

"Its just really hard cause i'm pretty sure i loeve both of you and i don't want to loose either, which sounds really selfish but I didn't know I could have the same feelings for 2 guys.."

So its pretty much came down to a me vs him situation.. which is good and bad at the same time..

2007-12-25 23:48:21

#88

CanadianLoser: Meow :3 :3; +1,148|6722

$500 for a straight up murder

$2500 to make it look like an accident

srsly tho, you'll obviously win the 'battle'. just have some kind of contest, like a j-10 dogfight on bf2 on wake

2007-12-25 23:55:23

#89

LT.Victim: Member; +1,175|6777|British Columbia, Canada

anyways.. some more of our text convo..

I told her that when her boyfriend gets back from mexico is this going to continue, or are you going tell Scott? (her BF)

she responded by saying "I don't want what ever we have to go away"

I responded by saying "Niether do I, but we can't just keep doing this, someone is just going to get hurt in the long run."

She said "But then I can't just hit Scott with this when he comes back.."

I told her "But you also can't just keep it from him either, it's not right, I know you need time, and I'm willing to give you that, Its just how long?"

She just responded by saying " I think we should take a step back.. and wait till scott gets back. then I'll have to talk to him and see what happens, but I still like to be your friend for now if thats ok.."

...Fuck what do I say?

Last edited by LT.Victim (2007-12-25 23:59:23)

2007-12-26 00:00:15

#90

CanadianLoser: Meow :3 :3; +1,148|6722

well played my good sir. 5 bucks u get her in the long run

2007-12-26 00:04:00

#91

LT.Victim: Member; +1,175|6777|British Columbia, Canada

Canadianloser wrote:
well played my good sir. 5 bucks u get her in the long run

I know I probably will too, but it breaks my heart to think that I won't..

2007-12-26 00:05:58

#92

CanadianLoser: Meow :3 :3; +1,148|6722

LT.Victim wrote:
Canadianloser wrote:
well played my good sir. 5 bucks u get her in the long run
I know I probably will too, but it breaks my heart to think that I won't..

i think she likes you more, its just the fact shes going out with the other guy that keeps u 'even'. if u were dating her i dont think it would be the same situation, and she would think of you more when she is alone compared to thinking of u both equally, if you will.

2007-12-26 00:11:22

#93

LT.Victim: Member; +1,175|6777|British Columbia, Canada

Canadianloser wrote:
LT.Victim wrote:
Canadianloser wrote:
well played my good sir. 5 bucks u get her in the long run
I know I probably will too, but it breaks my heart to think that I won't..
i think she likes you more, its just the fact shes going out with the other guy that keeps u 'even'. if u were dating her i dont think it would be the same situation, and she would think of you more when she is alone compared to thinking of u both equally, if you will.

I know what you mean, and it's probably right, I guess well just have to ride it out the new few days until he gets back.. and then its a rollercoaster from there..

2007-12-26 00:12:22

#94

Havok: Nymphomaniac Treatment Specialist; +302|6889|Florida, United States

I had a nearly identical situation as the one you're in right now, except I didn't get as far as you have before I found out the girl I knew was a bitch. Be careful. If she does break up with her boyfriend to date you, what makes you think she won't cheat on you too? I don't want to play the hope-killer, but just keep this thought in the back of your head.

2007-12-26 00:12:36

#95

tthf: Member 5307; +210|6971|06-01

LT.Victim wrote:
anyways.. some more of our text convo..

I told her that when her boyfriend gets back from mexico is this going to continue, or are you going tell Scott? (her BF)

she responded by saying "I don't want what ever we have to go away"

I responded by saying "Niether do I, but we can't just keep doing this, someone is just going to get hurt in the long run."

She said "But then I can't just hit Scott with this when he comes back.."

I told her "But you also can't just keep it from him either, it's not right, I know you need time, and I'm willing to give you that, Its just how long?"

She just responded by saying " I think we should take a step back.. and wait till scott gets back. then I'll have to talk to him and see what happens, but I still like to be your friend for now if thats ok.."

...Fuck what do I say?

she sounds like she is being honest with you. appreciate that. she must be really be torn. don't force the issue...... yet. give her some time to explore if her relationship with scott is over in her heart.
but that being said, don't be the guy she sees when scott is not around either. when he gets back you should back out TOTALLY. phone calls are ok i suppose.

2007-12-26 00:30:08

#96

LT.Victim: Member; +1,175|6777|British Columbia, Canada

And... "But how long will you love me for, is it worth it to throw what I have with scott away?"

2007-12-26 00:32:26

#97

LT.Victim: Member; +1,175|6777|British Columbia, Canada

Havok wrote:
what makes you think she won't cheat on you too? I don't want to play the hope-killer, but just keep this thought in the back of your head.

Because she hasn't cheated on her current BF...

2007-12-26 00:36:49

#98

tthf: Member 5307; +210|6971|06-01

dont mean to be mean but.... if she sleeps with her bf when he gets back, then its probably not worth trying anymore...
just my opinion.

2007-12-26 00:40:43

#99

LT.Victim: Member; +1,175|6777|British Columbia, Canada

tthf wrote:
don't mean to be mean but.... if she sleeps with her bf when he gets back, then its probably not worth trying anymore...
just my opinion.

Ya I know... Hopefully she at least talks to him about the situation before they make there way into the bedroom, because right now, he is completely oblivious to this whole thing..

2007-12-26 00:51:04

#100

Eboreus: Member of Foamy's Card Cult; +46|6861

I read all this and dunno why (usually I avoid those kind of topics... must be the Christmas-mood:P) but I feel urged to leave a comment to

The way it looks to me, you will get her in the long run. If her current BF gets a hold of this story (and I guess he will at sometime) it would be interesting to see his reaction. Maybe he's going to end it anyway because he cant handle it. Technically she's already cheating on him anyway because she has feelings for you (yeah cheating is not always about sex IMO).
Either way I wouldn't push it too far, before he returns. Otherwise it'll look like you are trying to convince her to leave him, while he's not even in town. You'd kinda be the bad boy then.

And as for the question how long you will love her - just tell her that you have been patient for ages, waiting for her and that you'd be a fool to throw it away after a short time. If you both put effort in the relationship it will be a good one

oh and (not to be mean but) don't get your hopes too high, about her not having sex with him after his return. She will try to make everything look as normal as possible. So she might not deny him and he's prolly going to ask her / try it. But I guess that will make it only worse for her, because she'll feel guilty towards you.

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