LT.Victim wrote:
So here's whats happening.. its a long read, and I've contemplated on whether or not I should post this or not... so if you don't want to read it, or you don't have any advice for me, that's fine..
There's this girl that I'm in love with that goes to my school.. We've dated in the past (2 years ago) when I didn't really know her that well and it was kind of awkward between us so I ended it... We are good friends now and lately over the past couple of months since schools started I've been hanging out with her more and more, going to the movies together, chilling with her late into the night etc.. I really like this girl, I don't just want to fuck her.. even though I can't say that I don't, I could care less about the sex as long as I could be with her. It sounds really corny but I haven't felt this strongly for a girl in a long time, if not ever. It no longer feels awkward between us like it did before and I could really see myself being with this girl. I'm fairly certain she feels the same way about me too, the only problem is.. she has a boyfriend. It seems kind of strange, because if I was him, I would be pissed off that I was spending so much time with her. She even leaned in as if she was going to kiss me with her boyfriend in the car 10 m away before she realized what she was doing and snapped out of it, which both of our friends made fun of her for doing. Her boyfriend is currently in Mexico and I've been hanging out with her practically every single night besides the nights that me or her have to work, last Friday and Saturday night I hung out with her until like 4 in the morning on both occasions.. I want her to break up with her boyfriend, but I don't want to be known as the asshole who made her, most likely because its going to cause a shitload of drama that I don't care for.
She really likes me, and I can tell by the way she acts around me especially when we are alone together, but I think she feels kind of guilty about it too. Like, I'll be at her house watching TV with her in her basement on her couch and she be practically laying on top of me, and whenever she hears someone start walking down the stairs she gets off of me, most likely because that person is going to say "WTF YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND" or something along that line..
I would talk to her and tell her the way I feel, but I have a feeling that that is going to make it awkward between us, and that's the last thing I need especially since we've both just gotten over that..
She still really loves her boyfriend, but she also likes me.. All of her and my friends keep making fun of us and tell us to just date already, and I have a feeling it's going to happen eventually but still.. I have no idea how I should go about this, I don't want to be the asshole that messed up shit between her current boyfriend, but I also don't want to be stuck in the dreaded "Friends Zone" (I'm kinda past that zone, but I'm stuck because I don't want her to cheat on her boyfriend)..
What should I do.. should I just tell her how I feel and hope that it doesn't make it awkward between us and that she feels the same way... or should I keep hanging out with her until hopefully her boyfriend gets jealous and dumps her.. Its happened before, but they just got back together.. Either way, how can I get with this chick without me feeling like an Asshole in the long run..
Just a little info, we are both 17, and her boyfriend doesn't get back till the 29th, so I have a week or so to think this whole thing over...
Inb4WhyAreYouAskingForRelationshipHelpOnBF2s..
Oh my god thats just weird, dunno if you saw my thread a while back but it was the EXACT same thing, I was just waiting for the bit where you said she had a bf in a different country, n you did. Except in my case he lives in Ireland.
I know you probably wont like what I have to say, but, I have to say it. It most likely wont lead anywhere and you will have your heart broken time and time again by her. This happened to me and she kept messin me around (I say messing, she wasnt doing it on purpose, she jus didnt know what she wanted n didnt ant the drama of breaking up with her bf) until after 2 years of it I told her "get out my life, I've had enough of you"
That believe or not actually helped me out, she broke up wit the bf, made some changes to how she acted and sent me a nine page (yes 9 page) letter apologising to me and asking me to forgive her. She wanted to come n visit me at uni n we're probly gonna see a lot of eachother over the hols, but I dont know if i still feel the same way about her. Thing is, I haven't been able to feel the same way bout a girl sice all the shit with her, I jus cant feel for a girl atm, which led to me passing up a fair few oppurtunities at uni this term.
So what I'm saying is, be prepared for your emotions to go on a roller coaster ride, to be very upset at times cos of her and that girls can really fuck with your head.
Hope you manage to get a different experience to me tho, no matter how similar our situations are