FFLink
There is.
+1,380|7116|Devon, England
I know alot of people here are in love, some happily married etc. I was just wanting to get your opinion on what you think "love" is. How you think love is achieved and how it is sustained.

It would be good to get some other people's thoughts on this for something...

cheers,
deeznutz1245
Connecticut: our chimps are stealin yo' faces.
+483|6917|Connecticut
When you realize that it is not that you would die for her, but rather you would die without her.
Malloy must go
SpawnKiller
#1 Karkand Whore
+14|6810
love     /lʌv/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[luhv] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation noun, verb, loved, lov·ing.
–noun 1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. 
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. 
3. sexual passion or desire. 
4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart. 
5. (used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love? 
6. a love affair; an intensely amorous incident; amour. 
7. sexual intercourse; copulation. 
8. (initial capital letter) a personification of sexual affection, as Eros or Cupid. 
9. affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one's neighbor. 
10. strong predilection, enthusiasm, or liking for anything: her love of books. 
11. the object or thing so liked: The theater was her great love. 
12. the benevolent affection of God for His creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to God. 
13. Chiefly Tennis. a score of zero; nothing. 
14. a word formerly used in communications to represent the letter L. 
–verb (used with object) 15. to have love or affection for: All her pupils love her. 
16. to have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (another person). 
17. to have a strong liking for; take great pleasure in: to love music. 
18. to need or require; benefit greatly from: Plants love sunlight. 
19. to embrace and kiss (someone), as a lover. 
20. to have sexual intercourse with. 
–verb (used without object) 21. to have love or affection for another person; be in love. 
—Verb phrase22. love up, to hug and cuddle: She loves him up every chance she gets. 
—Idioms23. for love, a. out of affection or liking; for pleasure. 
b. without compensation; gratuitously: He took care of the poor for love. 

24. for the love of, in consideration of; for the sake of: For the love of mercy, stop that noise. 
25. in love, infused with or feeling deep affection or passion: a youth always in love. 
26. in love with, feeling deep affection or passion for (a person, idea, occupation, etc.); enamored of: in love with the girl next door; in love with one's work. 
27. make love, a. to embrace and kiss as lovers. 
b. to engage in sexual activity. 

28. no love lost, dislike; animosity: There was no love lost between the two brothers.
SpawnKiller
#1 Karkand Whore
+14|6810
#1
Stingray24
Proud member of the vast right-wing conspiracy
+1,060|6870|The Land of Scott Walker
#1 it is.

Love is sustained by hard work.  It’s the decision to look out for the other person’s best interest and stay with them, every if you don’t like each other at times.  Passion, emotion, and physical intimacy are certainly by products of love and do their part to sustain love, but without the willingness to work at the relationship, love will disappear.

That “work” involves:
1.    Communication
2.    Willingness to compromise
3.    Willingness to deny personal desires or goals in favor of what other wants
4.    Honesty: telling the truth, even when it will get you in trouble – a relationship will crumble without trust

Last edited by Stingray24 (2006-12-26 14:15:22)

Penetrator
Certified Twat
+296|6933|Bournemouth, South England
LOVE is when "her indoors" stops moaning about the domestic tasks she is to undertake, and doesn't ask for any help when the Simpsons is on Sky One.
crimson_grunt
Shitty Disposition (apparently)
+214|7079|Teesside, UK

FFLink13 wrote:

how it is sustained?
In my experience a big part of it is Compromise.  You both have to be willing to make subtle changes to adapt to each others way of doing things and be accepting of the differences that you can't change.
Archer
rapes face
+161|6849|Canuckistan
You know the answer, yet you post an emo topic about it.

Noice.
justice
OctoPoster
+978|7166|OctoLand
I hate people who think emo has anything to do with love, don't go ruining love with that word. Love for me is when you can't stop thinking about that woman, weather you have anything in common or not, you can spend all the time in the world with her. You would do pretty much anything for her. She completes your life, you can't live without her.

/cheesy mode off.

Last edited by justice (2006-12-26 15:05:53)

I know fucking karate
Archer
rapes face
+161|6849|Canuckistan

justice wrote:

I hate people who think emo has anything to do with love, don't go ruining love with that word. Love for me is when you can't stop thinking about that woman, weather you have anything in common or not, you can spend all the time in the world with her. You would do pretty much anything for her. She completes your life, you can't live without her.

/cheesy mode off.
And it irritates me (I don't hate people for petty little things, I have no issues) that people actually post topics where they ask questions that they know the answer(s) to.
justice
OctoPoster
+978|7166|OctoLand
He just wants to know what other peoples views and thoughts, chill....
I know fucking karate
IRONCHEF
Member
+385|6916|Northern California
I once wrote in my scriptures, upon learning what I should be expecting in my future wife, "Love is a fruit [endowment or gift] from God to two people worthy of it."

To be worthy of that fruit, the two should be living chaste, virtuous lives, and be selflessly engaged in courtship.


After marriage, love is real work..nothing like the courting phase.  The obvious threat looming behind two newly weds is complacency.  Marriage is ordained of God so naturally Satan is determined to separate two loving individuals from their dedication, patience, love, and loyalty with one another.   Maintaining love after marriage requires "falling in love" over and over again and again.  So as you meet and court a young lady, pay attention to what it was that made you fall in love with her..and remember the formula for what caused it because you'll draw on it again and again.  This is how you avoid shallow relationships/marriage and keep from going after other women and having complete fidelity.

The basic attributes to maintain love are patience, loyalty, humor, communication (good and bad), and charity (service).  I excel and fail at these attributes regularly which makes for excellent relationship health.  The suckers that can't talk about problems, or let things build up before exploding, and people who just don't care enough about themselves or their spouses to say something..suck doo doo..and will end up unhappy and alone.  Be a man and do your part!

A practice my wife and I do sometimes (not nearly the once a week goal we made long ago) is what I call "Inventory."  On a sunday night before bed, we'll sit together and talk turkey.  We'll learn what we did good and what we did bad that week (period since last inventory).  We'll follow praise with loving criticisms and follow them up with goal making, and then a prayer to report to God our goals and seek his blessing as we achieve it.

Another small policy that helps make inventory useless or less important is to simply not go to bed mad.  If you go to bed mad, then you just lost a big chunk of your growth together..and you won't notice it right away, but it's there..and if you go to bed mad at each other enough...well, you can guess where that marriage will end up.

Last edited by IRONCHEF (2006-12-26 15:24:46)

King_County_Downy
shitfaced
+2,791|7022|Seattle

I can tell that it's true love 'cause I can feel it in my pants.
Sober enough to know what I'm doing, drunk enough to really enjoy doing it
aardfrith
Δ > x > ¥
+145|7217
A great writer once wrote "Love is a many splendoured thing."

Bollocks!  Love is a myth.
ATG
Banned
+5,233|6954|Global Command
Wow, great thread.
When I was young 16-22, I remember being heartsic and lonely. I banged a lot of girls, but never felt much of a connection. Around 23, I thought I knew what love was, and shacked up with some girls. I got two of them pregnant ( abortion is murder, deal with it,  and I am guilty X 2 ) before I was 24.
     About that time I got into rock climbing and that helped me achieve my goal of not hooking up with girls simply because they are eager, have a puss and a heartbeat. I struggled for a few years being single, living alone ( being miserable and lonely ) but becoming an accomplished climber, and more importantly, became familar with myself.

A good friend said the usual thing, and it's true, when you see the right girl, you'll feel it.

I met my wife, then a best friiends girlfriend when I was engaged to be married to this hard body nazi chick. We were shacking up, had our rings, but when my wife walked in the room all of that became meaningless.
I waited until she dumped him ( after returning from a climbing trip to Nepal ) until I kissed her, and then my fate was sealed.

She played in my band link to left for a few years before we started in with raisen the youngins'.

Maintaining love requires sacrifice and commitment, which comes easy if you are part of a team that you fit in. When the wheel gains spokes ( youngins' ) it gets easier, or harder, depending on your luck.

It helps, and my best advice would be,  to have a lot of sex. 
And yes, married sex is the best.
I have had at least as many girls as crimson_grunt has karma not meaning to brag, just pointing out a small measure of authority on the subject .

It helps if your wife is sexy as hell.
twiistaaa
Member
+87|7093|mexico

deeznutz1245 wrote:

When you realize that it is not that you would die for her, but rather you would die without her.
also found in obsessive people. and even if both partners felt that way who's to say they just aren't both crazy and were lucky enough to find someone who is as mad?
FFLink
There is.
+1,380|7116|Devon, England

Archer wrote:

You know the answer, yet you post an emo topic about it.

Noice.

justice wrote:

He just wants to know what other peoples views and thoughts, chill....
Thankyou.

I did post this to find out what others thought, yes. I found something that answered the doubts:

"To be brave means to feel without fear. Sympathy is to care about another persons's suffering. Sacrifice is to suffer for someone. Honouring is to accept another person with his/her mistakes. Trusting is to believe that another person cares. Understanding is to forgive. And loving is all that."

Thanks again all.

Last edited by FFLink13 (2006-12-27 07:23:51)

13rin
Member
+977|6904
Love is when she'll let you poop with the bathroom door open so you can see the TV.
I stood in line for four hours. They better give me a Wal-Mart gift card, or something.  - Rodney Booker, Job Fair attendee.
deeznutz1245
Connecticut: our chimps are stealin yo' faces.
+483|6917|Connecticut

twiistaaa wrote:

deeznutz1245 wrote:

When you realize that it is not that you would die for her, but rather you would die without her.
also found in obsessive people. and even if both partners felt that way who's to say they just aren't both crazy and were lucky enough to find someone who is as mad?
If something happened to my wife, my best friend, the mother of my child and my soul mate then I would certainly feel dead inside until the day I actually passed away. And if that makes me crazy then so be it. Love supersedes all other emotions my friend......including obsession.
Malloy must go
acidkiller187
Member
+123|7055

King_County_Downy wrote:

I can tell that it's true love 'cause I can feel it in my pants.
Tue words are rarely spoken.. Take notes on thee above quote:

Last edited by acidkiller187 (2006-12-27 11:22:10)

unnamednewbie13
Moderator
+2,072|7196|PNW

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/love

Been done, but I felt like giving the link.

Last edited by unnamednewbie13 (2006-12-27 11:24:20)

Turquoise
O Canada
+1,596|6830|North Carolina
"Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence." -- H.L. Mencken
Pw.Sultan
Member
+15|6903|NC

Stingray24 wrote:

Love is sustained by hard work.  It’s the decision to look out for the other person’s best interest and stay with them, every if you don’t like each other at times.  Passion, emotion, and physical intimacy are certainly by products of love and do their part to sustain love, but without the willingness to work at the relationship, love will disappear.

That “work” involves:
1.    Communication
2.    Willingness to compromise
3.    Willingness to deny personal desires or goals in favor of what other wants
4.    Honesty: telling the truth, even when it will get you in trouble – a relationship will crumble without trust
well said -- but you ask what is love? You can't really describe love, it just happens.
A-Unit64
King Medic......
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Commie Killer
Member
+192|6812

deeznutz1245 wrote:

When you realize that it is not that you would die for her, but rather you would die without her.
He wins.

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