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OrangeHound wrote:

Ender2309 wrote:

stuff

Here's the perspective.  Most of the people on here are going to give you teenage advice ... I'm one of the few on here who will perhaps help you understand your parents since (a) I've got four kids and (b) I am old enough to be your father.

You already know how to fight.  Everyone knows how to fight.  Fighting (hitting, screaming, passive aggressive, etc.) is one of the two immature ways that people deal with conflict ... the other one is running away from the problem.

Your parents are helping you to mature.

One of the hardest skills to learn in life is conflict resolution.  Yet, if you can learn how to resolve conflicts without fighting or running away, then you will be a powerful grown up.  Very powerful.

You will be a weak adult if you only know how to fight or run when there is conflict.



I'm simply saying to view this problem with your brother as an opportunity to develop an extremely valuable life skill.   Find a book or find a website that teaches you how to resolve conflicts using mature communication.   

the only problem is that this has been going on for over two years. two. its not really a conflict so much as he thinks he's earned the right to act like the dominant member of the house. and by dominant i mean he feels he has the right to act like an ass towards everybody. i don't know why, but my dad favors him and treats him like a goddamned prince. i just want the little shit to learn not to fuck with me. talking isn't going to do that, not after two years of bullshit.

Ender2309 wrote:

OrangeHound wrote:

Ender2309 wrote:

stuff

Here's the perspective.  Most of the people on here are going to give you teenage advice ... I'm one of the few on here who will perhaps help you understand your parents since (a) I've got four kids and (b) I am old enough to be your father.

You already know how to fight.  Everyone knows how to fight.  Fighting (hitting, screaming, passive aggressive, etc.) is one of the two immature ways that people deal with conflict ... the other one is running away from the problem.

Your parents are helping you to mature.

One of the hardest skills to learn in life is conflict resolution.  Yet, if you can learn how to resolve conflicts without fighting or running away, then you will be a powerful grown up.  Very powerful.

You will be a weak adult if you only know how to fight or run when there is conflict.



I'm simply saying to view this problem with your brother as an opportunity to develop an extremely valuable life skill.   Find a book or find a website that teaches you how to resolve conflicts using mature communication.   

the only problem is that this has been going on for over two years. two. its not really a conflict so much as he thinks he's earned the right to act like the dominant member of the house. and by dominant i mean he feels he has the right to act like an ass towards everybody. i don't know why, but my dad favors him and treats him like a goddamned prince. i just want the little shit to learn not to fuck with me. talking isn't going to do that, not after two years of bullshit.

Yes, I realize that some people are SO immature that there is nothing that will calm them. 

But I also have quite a bit of experience with conflict resolution, and I can tell you that if you are able to remain calm then you will gain an upper hand ... but, it takes a lot of experience in the more difficult cases to effect a change.

(BTW, I'm only suggesting that you use this as an opportunity to develop a skill for the future ... I don't know whether or not it will work in this particular situation).

Ender2309 wrote:

OrangeHound wrote:

Ender2309 wrote:

stuff

Here's the perspective.  Most of the people on here are going to give you teenage advice ... I'm one of the few on here who will perhaps help you understand your parents since (a) I've got four kids and (b) I am old enough to be your father.

You already know how to fight.  Everyone knows how to fight.  Fighting (hitting, screaming, passive aggressive, etc.) is one of the two immature ways that people deal with conflict ... the other one is running away from the problem.

Your parents are helping you to mature.

One of the hardest skills to learn in life is conflict resolution.  Yet, if you can learn how to resolve conflicts without fighting or running away, then you will be a powerful grown up.  Very powerful.

You will be a weak adult if you only know how to fight or run when there is conflict.



I'm simply saying to view this problem with your brother as an opportunity to develop an extremely valuable life skill.   Find a book or find a website that teaches you how to resolve conflicts using mature communication.   

the only problem is that this has been going on for over two years. two. its not really a conflict so much as he thinks he's earned the right to act like the dominant member of the house. and by dominant i mean he feels he has the right to act like an ass towards everybody. i don't know why, but my dad favors him and treats him like a goddamned prince. i just want the little shit to learn not to fuck with me. talking isn't going to do that, not after two years of bullshit.

TBH I never got in a fight while in school I just let it go. So I do have self control. But my brother is the same way dude I can handle the name calling twords me but when he starts disrespecting my mom thats when I get pissed. My dad favors him to so my mom tells me not to touch him or else my dad will get pissed at me. He knows this and takes full advantage of it and it really pisses me off.

Wow.  Try growing up in Africa or something.   Get over it.