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2006-12-23 21:43:21

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Ender2309: has joined the GOP; +470|7019|USA

so this girl i know is in a bit of a "rut."

her father was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis when she was two. he became unable to breath without a respirator a week ago, and when asked, said he wanted to taken off of it wensday. out of state family, however, did not want this so he was kept on. at my last update, he was expected to go by 2:00 PST yesterday.

she's a pretty sensitive person, and very religous, so i know this is hitting her pretty hard right now, especially with christmas just around the corner.

my problem is this: what the hell do i say to her? i feel pretty bad, which surpises me, as i have never met her father.

somebody help me!

2006-12-23 21:45:00

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usmarine2007: Banned; +374|6815|Columbus, Ohio

Give her space. Do not say a damn thing.

2006-12-23 21:47:10

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rocksrhot: Member; +8|6847

When it happens that he passes on, "Sorry for your loss". Until then just be around & let her raise the issue if she wants too.

Men do better at being a physical support rather than a verbal solution tank to their problems, IMHO.

2006-12-23 21:47:22

#4

Andoura: Got loooollllll ?; +853|7086|Montreal, Qc, Canada

usmarine2007 wrote:
Give her space. Do not say a damn thing.

2006-12-23 21:54:51

#5

arson: Member; +99|7084|New York

Dont say anything just be there for her to talk to. This is where your skills as a listener come into play.
Hopefully you can bring her some support in this difficult time.

2006-12-23 22:03:42

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Ender2309: has joined the GOP; +470|7019|USA

thanks guys. thats kinda what i was thinking, but i'm not very good at this stuff, and i wasnt sure.

2006-12-23 22:12:30

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Dressed In Decay: Member; +14|6985

I would say something along the lines of, I don't know what you're feeling right now or how hard this is for you, but I just want you to know that I'm here for you if you ever need to talk. I said that to a girl who's dad died last week, she said it was better than saying oh I'm sorry because no one knew what it was like.

2006-12-23 22:13:17

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Blehm98: conservative hatemonger; +150|6911|meh-land

get her a nice christmas present that shows you are sorry...

2006-12-23 22:16:19

#9

Yaocelotl: :D; +221|7098|Keyboard

Ender2309 wrote:
so this girl i know is in a bit of a "rut."

her father was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis when she was two. he became unable to breath without a respirator a week ago, and when asked, said he wanted to taken off of it wensday. out of state family, however, did not want this so he was kept on. at my last update, he was expected to go by 2:00 PST yesterday.

she's a pretty sensitive person, and very religous, so i know this is hitting her pretty hard right now, especially with christmas just around the corner.

my problem is this: what the hell do i say to her? i feel pretty bad, which surpises me, as i have never met her father.

somebody help me!

Yes, listen to her. Also, if she asks something that you don't have any clues off don't be an ass and STFU. At this point she's weak as a twig. So, if you can give her an honest, supportive and friendly hug to let her know that you are there for her. I dunno what else I can suggest to you. Ohh, yes, and be fucking patient with her. That's about it, I guess. Cheers.

2006-12-23 22:28:34

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djphetal: Go Ducks.; +346|6783|Oregon

isn't the battlefield community great???

now lets kill some bitches...

(bad timing?)

2006-12-24 13:50:41

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Elamdri: The New Johnnie Cochran; +134|7094|Peoria

I lost my father when I was fifteen, the most you can do is be there as a friend, but give the space at the beginning. After loosing someone, especially a parent, you just don't want to be around anyone. Watch for signs of depression and other serious issues, as I was suicidal for the time being.

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