BF2S Forums First World Problems

I know my next computer purchase is going to be a MacBook. My work MacBook won me over.

I now need to get used to using an iPhone.

I lost my Samsung Galaxy Pro headphones somewhere in my girlfriend house. Haven't seen it in a month. Bad.

My 'new' house is full of spiders. We have a daylight basement and just yesterday I went down to do stuff 3 times and each time found one on the floor or ceiling or whatever.
They're not dangerous but damn if it isn't annoying to carry them outside and yes I do that. Sue me for saving the spiders.

My last townhome didn't have any and before that was a 3rd floor apartment that didn't have any.

find a way to coexist with your arachnid pals. they take care of other bugs that are undoubtedly getting in too.

welcome to living in an actual biome, anyway. bang out your boots and shoes before use, even if it hasn't produced spiders the last hundred times. even if a bite won't kill you, do you really want spider guts on your socks?

How did you know what branch of service he was in? 🧐

Follow up: are you flattered or offended?

Come on...even a little flattered?

getting up at 3 am to dive into a rabbit hole on "wake timers" that i've never touched, because windows kept on cycling in and out of sleep every couple minutes, wasn't how i thought i'd start my day.

go to cmd to look at it. need to be in admin mode!!!
launch it again, in AdMiN mOdE

what the heck?

that doesn't help

i pop into power options and apply a disable on waketimers. still set on prompt, except now screen-off doesn't work at all. reenabled.

google-fu early in the morning just strong enough to find people with similar problems for whom nothing has helped, or people where this issue just comes and goes on its own. like me, earlier this year when i had this issue but ignored it until it went away on its own. now, it's probably too late to go back to sleep. i should have known this would become a Big Deal and just manually unplugged the monitor like any other seasoned windows user.

how long has microsoft been making operating systems now? why do i need to go do a bunch of linux crap in the command prompt as a part of the troubleshooting process? why are changes not reflected between that and the control panel ui?

even chatgpt popped up a bunch of wildly different approaches and gave me a wtf (not those words) on the gibberish. how enshittified search engines are these days, i felt like chatgpt was getting me closer to a solution with the provided input.

e: the last thing i want to see on the start menu is a bunch of web links taking me somewhere on microsoft edge. stop trying to make this happen. local results only, thanks, windows.

Last edited by unnamednewbie13 (2025-08-20 04:57:32)

ok so sitrep on the cat situation.

it has now been 3 months since we (i) bought this apartment and moved in. 'just the three of us'.

the cat has persistently misbehaved and stressed me out. i already accepted the notion of taking potentially quite debilitating antihistamines (strong pharma prescription dose, i mean) every day for the rest of anon, despite it's obvious effects on my work (i.e. intellect).

this weekend i suggested we take a long break together to a beach resort, on the peninsula south of tokyo (shizuoka). a beautiful spot in which to forget about the household foibles and enjoy one another's company.

and what happened? the cat – now sealed off in the far end of the apt in its own domain – began miaowing and scratching at the door at 4am. on a wednesday/thursday. at this point, i honestly estimate that 40% of every night in this apartment (which i paid for; her family don't have much money, but alack) has been disturbed by the cat.

we ignored the 4:00am disruption. next thing, it was 7:00am and the cat commenced again. this is considered a 'fair' window in our arrangement. she got up and left the bed to tend to the constantly miaowing cat. very early still, in my opinion, but i 'get it'; i am considerate. never mind that i slept like shit from 4–7 after the first scratching and biting and door-pawing performance. 7am is apparently a 'fair' time for the cat to commence miaowing constantly and demanding attention. i assent. but 4am?! also a regular feature ...

so i finally rose this morning at about 11am, actually. trying to catch up on lost hours. i walked into the kitchen to make my usual yoghurt and granola. she was sat with the cat on her lap, totally normal – joyous even – and asked me, 'how are you?' with a smile. and i said ... frankly, i've had no sleep whatsoever. your cat woke up me at 4am (it's now +3 months after moving in). i asked her, "what can we do to stop it miaowing so early?" i tried the reasonable act. she answered "maybe it's too hot in here [the front of the apartment by the bay window, where the cat has a cat tree and no fewer than 5 cat beds]". i replied "yes but when the cat had free roam of the entire apartment at night, including under the AC, it still came to our bedroom door at 4am and scratched and miaowed incessantly. so i don't think that's it".

at this pont i feel like making an ultimatum. but i never wanted to do that. it would crush her (and her overly attached mog). but i've paid like ... fucking ... £350k or something into this place ... plus another £1500 per month ... and i'm being woken up 3-4 times a night, arbitrarily, by a cat that gives me nothing?! the cat doesn't even acknowledge my existence when she's not in the house. it's clearly an intense, 1-on-1 dyad. i am not invited. yet i'm paying so much to furnish this place and make it 'home', while tbh, to be very fucking honest, every day this cat reminds me it's not 'my' home. i am a guest, a spectator, to their relationship.

i don't hate the cat. i pet it througout the day if i'm working at home. i give it treats. i interact with it. i have tried really hard to make it part of the 'new' home. but the basic fact is that this cat is not valid to live with ANYONE. even if it were a 2-bedroom apartment, advertised as a house share. no person on earth would tolerate paying top dollar to live in THIS dynamic. it's totally fucked.

i feel like i'm going insane, because we have been living together in 'our' apartment now for 3 months. we have several great days together, going to events, cooking dinner together, shopping for houseplants – whatever. the good feeling and amity between us is sky high. i think 'this is the woman i will marry next year'. and then ... AND THEN ... the cat just upsets the whole thing. total reset. back to monopoly board square one. major arguments, crying, raging, bickering. all the good feeling between us – squashed – because of a dumb, over-pampered, fucking animal. that makes me so sad and frustrated. am i just being unreasonable?!

i am allergic to this animal btw. prior to buying the apartment and moving in, i thought the main problem would be my immune system. a purely physiological problem. but i bought some strong prescription medication (who knows what long-term effects they have ...) in week 1. my physical complaints were nixxed. the actual, long-term, chronic problem is this cat's behaviour. it is literally destroying our relationship. and i have life-changing amounts of money invested in this jape.

FML

Last edited by uziq (2025-08-21 11:44:31)

that really sucks and is a tough spot to be put in.

most of my family cats were smoothly trainable off of the early morning meows. the ones who resisted were put outside for the night. i imagine a car, if you had one, would be impractical due to allergies.

maybe soundproof the cat's room so it can meow itself hoarse? white noise machine?

if it's attention it wants, and not food, training it to the schedule of an automatic feeder bowl may not help.

again(?) because i didn't want cat dirt and flea season parasites on or around my bed and where i keep my clothes, none of the recent cats were allowed in my room. like, at all. an open door might lead to one standing in the hallway, unsure of itself, which was quite funny and rewarded with attention or play. they stayed off counters and tables and pretty much stuck to their usual haunts. all various rescues and pound kitties.

while i don't know all about the animal's circumstances, a cat that was formerly allowed to do something, and now it isn't, can be difficult to retrain case-by-case. some condition could make things more difficult for various reasons. one family cat had hyperthyroidism, poor wretch.

tory*

at least if it was an actual child it'd reciprocate with time. but it's a fucking cat. if it was a dog you'd be able to train it far easier. time to put the fucker to sleep. up for adoption.

Last edited by Finray (2025-08-21 16:02:37)

A true first world problem. Almost 4 years ago  back when it was active I told the BF2sAU Discord that I was a dad. I forgot all about it. I thought Id check out that channel back in May and I saw I was the last person to send a message, and it was that one. No one congratulated me. I congratulated myself. Still no replies

I was so uncongratulated I may have killed the server. I don't care though I talk to those boys in other servers, they all know.

Samsung pushes new UI update -> phone reacts by constantly freezing, randomly resetting-> phone decides to factory reset itself -> locked out of numerous apps i can't remember passwords for.

Discord is the current frustration. Never had the discord desktop app. Registered with my phone number. Either my phone is blocking the SMS messages from discord, or someone managed to switch the phone number on my account. Discord won't help because the email I'm emailing from isn't registed to the account...no email is registered to the account. I asked discord support to acknowledge whether or not the recovery phone number is the same as the account - no answer. At this point I just want my account disabled so no one can access it if I can't.

sometimes you gotta ask yourself if you really want access to messages from 2002. marie kondo your digital life, too!

imo it's easier for people to sagely refer to sunk cost fallacy when it isn't their time or money. but if the cat doesn't switch households, you have however long this cat may have left living with it. is it like 5? so 15 years? 20? you could be getting grey hairs by the time the cat is gone, if you don't mac it first.

it's not an enviable position. i do say that most cats can be trained with the caveat that some cats also have impish elements to their personalities. can only recommend that you two keep scouring feline behavior stuff for ways to adjust the behavior of your particular shade of cat.

imo, the biggest obstacle to retraining a cat is other humans that give mixed messages.