Moreover, we didn't talk toxic reddit gamer stuff. If that had come up before, "ew, girls in my Battlefield, icky-poo!" I'd have already distanced myself. Conversations were really lots of nostalgia trips, exchanging music, casually spitballing titles back and forth that might not even be multiplayer. We'd wish one another or our respective families well when someone was ill or feeling down. Sometimes got photos during changes of seasons when local parks were looking scenic. All over and done now.
I'd wanted to make amends and write everything off, bygones and all that, but that doesn't seem likely to happen. A day later, they said they reread the convo and doubled down, I guess giving me the opportunity to recant if I wanted. I did not, and after some hours of deliberation I guess they scrubbed me from all their social medias. Very casual message left on one before removing and blocking, "almost forgot this!"
I recently found a link to something a few hours ago and one of the first thoughts I had was "oh, you know who might enjoy this … oh, right." I should probably just feel like "good riddance," and is probably silly to grouse about elsewhere, but after so long it's still a very sour feeling. Not entirely unexpected if I'm to be honest, there was always an element of eggshell even some of my other friends pointed out that I couldn't disagree with.
These other online friendships that started with gaming have been stable for at least as long. If it came up, we'd all find the greasy gamer stereotype a weird and awkward pox on the hobby and poke fun at it for its eccentricities and alienating factor. The last time any of us wanted a neon computer was when that was the style at the time (/grandpasimpson.gif). Nobody wants the blinding lightshow anymore. If anyone has Strong Manosphere Reddit-Gamerbro Opinions, I haven't heard them.
I've been doing this since the 90s. Most of the time back then and in the bulk of the (early) aughts, we'd just move on to different games or hobbies and fall out of contact on ICQ, YIM, MSN Messenger, or whatever. No hard feelings at all. If something like Steam were a thing back then, I'd probably still have some on my list.
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