Faithfulness in a relationship

2010-12-05 10:19:52

#1

Benzin: Member; +576|5991

Let me ask you guys this question (this was the result of a convo with a mate of mine the other night): can you have sex with another person while you're in a committed relationship and still be faithful? I.E.: you have absolutely ZERO romantic feelings for the person you are sleeping with (like a one night stand), you're just looking for a bit of quick sexual gratification. Is in in that case cheating? You're still emotionally faithful to the person you are with but for just one sliver of time you're unfaithful physically.

My friend says this is not cheating, I honestly can't make up my mind. Thought it would be an interesting topic, something non-political and non-religious for once.

2010-12-05 10:20:36

#2

tuckergustav: ...; +1,590|5906|...

cheating.

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2010-12-05 10:23:23

#3

Chou: Member; +737|6784

tuckergustav wrote:
cheating.

2010-12-05 10:23:24

#4

DUnlimited: got any popo lolo intersting?; +1,160|6456|cuntshitlake

Quite obviously cheating unless "permitted" by partner. What's there to discuss about? You've slept with another and feel bad about it and want us to support you?

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2010-12-05 10:25:45

#5

jsnipy: ...; +3,276|6515|...

Seriously, guest of honor. It is certainly not for everyone but it is possibly to incorporate another sexual partner in your relationship. It need to be discussed and rules understood. My wife and I don't consider this cheating.

2010-12-05 10:26:06

#6

Sturgeon: Member; +488|4934|Flintshire

Umm?

How can you see it as anything other than cheating on your partner?

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2010-12-05 10:48:49

#7

Jay: Bork! Bork! Bork!; +2,006|5351|London, England

CapnNismo wrote:
Let me ask you guys this question (this was the result of a convo with a mate of mine the other night): can you have sex with another person while you're in a committed relationship and still be faithful? I.E.: you have absolutely ZERO romantic feelings for the person you are sleeping with (like a one night stand), you're just looking for a bit of quick sexual gratification. Is in in that case cheating? You're still emotionally faithful to the person you are with but for just one sliver of time you're unfaithful physically.

My friend says this is not cheating, I honestly can't make up my mind. Thought it would be an interesting topic, something non-political and non-religious for once.

Absolutely cheating.

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2010-12-05 10:55:19

#8

mikkel: Member; +383|6594

It seems pretty straight-forward if you take a second to consider what being faithful actually is. If your actions abuse the faith that your spouse or significant other places in you to respect the terms of your relationship, then you're being unfaithful. If those terms explicitly permit you to have emotionally-detached sex with others, then you're good to go.

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2010-12-05 10:56:40

#9

FEOS: Bellicose Yankee Air Pirate; +1,182|6404|'Murka

Cheating. Full stop.

If you have an "agreement" then you aren't in a "committed" relationship.

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2010-12-05 10:58:14

#10

mikkel: Member; +383|6594

FEOS wrote:
If you have an "agreement" then you aren't in a "committed" relationship.

It's pretty dense to dismiss the emotional commitment between two people merely because their take on sex differs from yours.

2010-12-05 11:04:41

#11

presidentsheep: Back to the Fuhrer; +208|5954|Places 'n such

Chou wrote:
tuckergustav wrote:
cheating.

pretty much all human interaction with the opposite gender is based on sex... if you're in a relationship and start screwing other people its going to get complicated, no matter how many rules or whatever are in place.
In fact, having rules to start off with seems a crazy idea, rules and sex seems stupid.

Last edited by presidentsheep (2010-12-05 11:05:18)

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2010-12-05 11:05:52

#12

Superior Mind: (not macbeth); +1,755|6685

Unless you are fucking a random prostitute, it's hard to find someone whom you can have emotionless sex with. Unless such conditions are allowed by those in a relationship, then this would be cheating.

I believe it is possible to have extraneous sexual partners and still remain faithful to a partner, especially to a wife/wives.

Last edited by Superior Mind (2010-12-05 11:07:31)

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2010-12-05 11:06:29

#13

DrunkFace: Germans did 911; +427|6674|Disaster Free Zone

presidentsheep wrote:
Chou wrote:
tuckergustav wrote:
cheating.
pretty much all human interaction with the opposite gender is based on sex... if you're in a relationship and start screwing other people its going to get complicated, no matter how many rules or whatever are in place.
In fact, having rules to start off with seems a crazy idea, rules and sex seems stupid.

I am confused by this post.

Also, I lol at FEOS.

2010-12-05 11:06:39

#14

Hurricane2k9: Pendulous Sweaty Balls; +1,538|5694|College Park, MD

CapnNismo wrote:
Let me ask you guys this question (this was the result of a convo with a mate of mine the other night): can you have sex with another person while you're in a committed relationship and still be faithful? I.E.: you have absolutely ZERO romantic feelings for the person you are sleeping with (like a one night stand), you're just looking for a bit of quick sexual gratification. Is in in that case cheating? You're still emotionally faithful to the person you are with but for just one sliver of time you're unfaithful physically.

My friend says this is not cheating, I honestly can't make up my mind. Thought it would be an interesting topic, something non-political and non-religious for once.

Yes, that is cheating.

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2010-12-05 11:09:14

#15

mikkel: Member; +383|6594

presidentsheep wrote:
Chou wrote:
tuckergustav wrote:
cheating.
pretty much all human interaction with the opposite gender is based on sex... if you're in a relationship and start screwing other people its going to get complicated, no matter how many rules or whatever are in place.
In fact, having rules to start off with seems a crazy idea, rules and sex seems stupid.

So you're arguing for no restrictions on sex while in a relationship?

2010-12-05 11:09:19

#16

presidentsheep: Back to the Fuhrer; +208|5954|Places 'n such

DrunkFace wrote:
presidentsheep wrote:
Chou wrote:

pretty much all human interaction with the opposite gender is based on sex... if you're in a relationship and start screwing other people its going to get complicated, no matter how many rules or whatever are in place.
In fact, having rules to start off with seems a crazy idea, rules and sex seems stupid.
I am confused by this post.

Also, I lol at FEOS.

If you dont want rules about not sticking your dick in things, dont get into a relationship.

I'd type my pc specs out all fancy again but teh mods would remove it. Again.

2010-12-05 11:12:59

#17

Superior Mind: (not macbeth); +1,755|6685

presidentsheep wrote:
DrunkFace wrote:
presidentsheep wrote:

pretty much all human interaction with the opposite gender is based on sex... if you're in a relationship and start screwing other people its going to get complicated, no matter how many rules or whatever are in place.
In fact, having rules to start off with seems a crazy idea, rules and sex seems stupid.
I am confused by this post.

Also, I lol at FEOS.
If you dont want rules about not sticking your dick in things, dont get into a relationship.

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2010-12-05 11:19:32

#18

FEOS: Bellicose Yankee Air Pirate; +1,182|6404|'Murka

mikkel wrote:
FEOS wrote:
If you have an "agreement" then you aren't in a "committed" relationship.
It's pretty dense to dismiss the emotional commitment between two people merely because their take on sex differs from yours.

Ditto.

Some people link the physical and emotional aspects of the relationship inextricably. Thus, if you de-link them, you aren't in a "committed" relationship. It would seem you're just treating the other person as a physical prop at that point. Not exactly the thing "committed" relationships are made of, IMHBCO.

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
― Albert Einstein
Doing the popular thing is not always right. Doing the right thing is not always popular

2010-12-05 11:19:48

#19

Mekstizzle: WALKER; +3,611|6614|London, England

It's only cheating if you don't tell them about it.

2010-12-05 11:20:59

#20

FEOS: Bellicose Yankee Air Pirate; +1,182|6404|'Murka

Quick quiz: What's the amount of time the people posting here have been in what they deem to be "committed" relationships? How many of those "committed" relationships have you been in?

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
― Albert Einstein
Doing the popular thing is not always right. Doing the right thing is not always popular

2010-12-05 11:26:17

#21

mikkel: Member; +383|6594

FEOS wrote:
mikkel wrote:
FEOS wrote:
If you have an "agreement" then you aren't in a "committed" relationship.
It's pretty dense to dismiss the emotional commitment between two people merely because their take on sex differs from yours.
Ditto.

Some people link the physical and emotional aspects of the relationship inextricably. Thus, if you de-link them, you aren't in a "committed" relationship. It would seem you're just treating the other person as a physical prop at that point. Not exactly the thing "committed" relationships are made of, IMHBCO.

Ditto? Kindly point out how I'm dismissing anyone's commitment to their relationship.

Not only is it patently ridiculous for you to apply your own standards of morals and commitment to everyone, and judge accordingly, but it's without sense entirely to suggest that remaining emotionally committed in a relationship is tantamount to treating your significant other as a "physical prop." Unless you ignore the part about emotional commitment.

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2010-12-05 11:26:59

#22

Benzin: Member; +576|5991

DUnlimited wrote:
Quite obviously cheating unless "permitted" by partner. What's there to discuss about? You've slept with another and feel bad about it and want us to support you?

Read the story, chief. I never said anything about me cheating.

Found Mek's and mikkel's answers interesting, though. I'd likely agree with all of you, however, that it is cheating. Only in some special case (nothing really occurs to me at the moment) would it not be cheating.

2010-12-05 11:28:19

#23

Jay: Bork! Bork! Bork!; +2,006|5351|London, England

mikkel wrote:
It seems pretty straight-forward if you take a second to consider what being faithful actually is. If your actions abuse the faith that your spouse or significant other places in you to respect the terms of your relationship, then you're being unfaithful. If those terms explicitly permit you to have emotionally-detached sex with others, then you're good to go.

Emotionally-detached sex is an oxymoron.

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-Frederick Bastiat

2010-12-05 11:28:49

#24

presidentsheep: Back to the Fuhrer; +208|5954|Places 'n such

CapnNismo wrote:
DUnlimited wrote:
Quite obviously cheating unless "permitted" by partner. What's there to discuss about? You've slept with another and feel bad about it and want us to support you?
Read the story, chief. I never said anything about me cheating.

Found Mek's and mikkel's answers interesting, though. I'd likely agree with all of you, however, that it is cheating. Only in some special case (nothing really occurs to me at the moment) would it not be cheating.

rape doesnt count. seems to be about it.

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2010-12-05 11:29:53

#25

mikkel: Member; +383|6594

JohnG@lt wrote:
mikkel wrote:
It seems pretty straight-forward if you take a second to consider what being faithful actually is. If your actions abuse the faith that your spouse or significant other places in you to respect the terms of your relationship, then you're being unfaithful. If those terms explicitly permit you to have emotionally-detached sex with others, then you're good to go.
Emotionally-detached sex is an oxymoron.

More or less. I think it's fairly easy, however, to surmise what the OP means by emotional detachment.

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