Childish? Trying to remove the ability to speak to her in order to help myself is childish?Zimmer wrote:
Because it's childish. Get over her and move on. Hide her from your wall, but there is no need to delete her from facebook.Camm wrote:
Why?Zimmer wrote:
No. It's a stupid and cowardly move.
Man up and move on without needing to remove someone digitally. I have and so have many others.
You have that little self control that you cannot just NOT speak to her when she's on facebook?Camm wrote:
Childish? Trying to remove the ability to speak to her in order to help myself is childish?Zimmer wrote:
Because it's childish. Get over her and move on. Hide her from your wall, but there is no need to delete her from facebook.Camm wrote:
Why?
Man up and move on without needing to remove someone digitally. I have and so have many others.
No, I have little self control when it comes to it.Zimmer wrote:
You have that little self control that you cannot just NOT speak to her when she's on facebook?Camm wrote:
Childish? Trying to remove the ability to speak to her in order to help myself is childish?Zimmer wrote:
Because it's childish. Get over her and move on. Hide her from your wall, but there is no need to delete her from facebook.
Man up and move on without needing to remove someone digitally. I have and so have many others.
Sorry Zim, but I disagree here. I got rid of my ex and all of her slimy little friends after we broke up and I know exactly what Camm's feeling. I just recently got over the "hey, what's Angie doing" urge. There's no reason to keep her on his friends list because 1) they're not friends and 2) he's just gonna see her come up on his feed somehow or another and it's going to upset him.Zimmer wrote:
Because it's childish. Get over her and move on. Hide her from your wall, but there is no need to delete her from facebook.Camm wrote:
Why?Zimmer wrote:
No. It's a stupid and cowardly move.
Man up and move on without needing to remove someone digitally. I have and so have many others.
I think I'm gonna have to.Poseidon wrote:
Sorry Zim, but I disagree here. I got rid of my ex and all of her slimy little friends after we broke up and I know exactly what Camm's feeling. I just recently got over the "hey, what's Angie doing" urge. There's no reason to keep her on his friends list because 1) they're not friends and 2) he's just gonna see her come up on his feed somehow or another and it's going to upset him.Zimmer wrote:
Because it's childish. Get over her and move on. Hide her from your wall, but there is no need to delete her from facebook.Camm wrote:
Why?
Man up and move on without needing to remove someone digitally. I have and so have many others.
Delete her. I wouldn't go as far as to say Facebook block her but that's up to you. I did for a while and it worked.
You can disagree all you like, but it still shows how little control you have over yourself and how a small relationship (face it, it wasn't "marriage worthy") affects you in such a way. If you teach yourself to cope with such problems and cope with the emotional distress, you'll manage relationships and breakups much better in the future. If you take the easy way out and delete from something that really is MEANINGLESS, then you're never going to learn how to deal with loss. She still exists, acknowledge her existence and try and live a better life without being bitter about it.Poseidon wrote:
Sorry Zim, but I disagree here. I got rid of my ex and all of her slimy little friends after we broke up and I know exactly what Camm's feeling. I just recently got over the "hey, what's Angie doing" urge. There's no reason to keep her on his friends list because 1) they're not friends and 2) he's just gonna see her come up on his feed somehow or another and it's going to upset him.Zimmer wrote:
Because it's childish. Get over her and move on. Hide her from your wall, but there is no need to delete her from facebook.Camm wrote:
Why?
Man up and move on without needing to remove someone digitally. I have and so have many others.
Delete her. I wouldn't go as far as to say Facebook block her but that's up to you. I did for a while and it worked.
I don't understand your logic here... you condone breaking all contact with her through texting and in real life, but through Facebook in which he'll just see her and see tagged photos of her which will upset him and not help him through his healing process, he shouldn't delete her? I don't think he's not gonna realize she exists, she just won't be a part of his life anymore. I certainly know my ex exists. Hell, she goes to college 2 miles away from me in the East Village. Should I have to put up with seeing her on Facebook and all of the tagged photos of her drunk? Absolutely not. It's just a sour reminder of the past.Zimmer wrote:
You can disagree all you like, but it still shows how little control you have over yourself and how a small relationship (face it, it wasn't "marriage worthy") affects you in such a way. If you teach yourself to cope with such problems and cope with the emotional distress, you'll manage relationships and breakups much better in the future. If you take the easy way out and delete from something that really is MEANINGLESS, then you're never going to learn how to deal with loss. She still exists, acknowledge her existence and try and live a better life without being bitter about it.Poseidon wrote:
Sorry Zim, but I disagree here. I got rid of my ex and all of her slimy little friends after we broke up and I know exactly what Camm's feeling. I just recently got over the "hey, what's Angie doing" urge. There's no reason to keep her on his friends list because 1) they're not friends and 2) he's just gonna see her come up on his feed somehow or another and it's going to upset him.Zimmer wrote:
Because it's childish. Get over her and move on. Hide her from your wall, but there is no need to delete her from facebook.
Man up and move on without needing to remove someone digitally. I have and so have many others.
Delete her. I wouldn't go as far as to say Facebook block her but that's up to you. I did for a while and it worked.
Sure, break all contact physically and through texting and all that, but if she isn't actively popping up on fb to talk, then why do you have to go as far as deleting her? Just ignore her if she does.
I've been through the "should I delete her from my life" phases, and frankly I've always decided against it because it's a reminder of my past and how I coped with it. How I was better than she was and let it float away.
I just don't see the point. But your coping mechanisms are probably different to mine, and each to their own when it comes to emotional distress and how they manage it. So if you're desperately trying to argue against my point Camm, then delete her. It's your call in the end, and if you have a strong feeling towards that move, then do so. After all, you know how you cope best.
The problem is it wasn't MEANINGLESS. It was my first serious, serious relationship. I was ready to move in with her, settle down and see what happens. For her to turn around after a year and tell me she has commitment issues killed me. She moved out of her mums house into a flat with her friend. We had a massive talkument last night, I was in tears after explaining to Gooners everything that had happened recently, when she just said "I'm moving on".Zimmer wrote:
You can disagree all you like, but it still shows how little control you have over yourself and how a small relationship (face it, it wasn't "marriage worthy") affects you in such a way. If you teach yourself to cope with such problems and cope with the emotional distress, you'll manage relationships and breakups much better in the future. If you take the easy way out and delete from something that really is MEANINGLESS, then you're never going to learn how to deal with loss. She still exists, acknowledge her existence and try and live a better life without being bitter about it.Poseidon wrote:
Sorry Zim, but I disagree here. I got rid of my ex and all of her slimy little friends after we broke up and I know exactly what Camm's feeling. I just recently got over the "hey, what's Angie doing" urge. There's no reason to keep her on his friends list because 1) they're not friends and 2) he's just gonna see her come up on his feed somehow or another and it's going to upset him.Zimmer wrote:
Because it's childish. Get over her and move on. Hide her from your wall, but there is no need to delete her from facebook.
Man up and move on without needing to remove someone digitally. I have and so have many others.
Delete her. I wouldn't go as far as to say Facebook block her but that's up to you. I did for a while and it worked.
Sure, break all contact physically and through texting and all that, but if she isn't actively popping up on fb to talk, then why do you have to go as far as deleting her? Just ignore her if she does.
I've been through the "should I delete her from my life" phases, and frankly I've always decided against it because it's a reminder of my past and how I coped with it. How I was better than she was and let it float away.
I just don't see the point. But your coping mechanisms are probably different to mine, and each to their own when it comes to emotional distress and how they manage it. So if you're desperately trying to argue against my point Camm, then delete her. It's your call in the end, and if you have a strong feeling towards that move, then do so. After all, you know how you cope best.
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Dude. I've been there. In your exact situation. I know what it's like. I know the feeling of your heart just tearing itself into little pieces by just seeing her photo or smelling her perfume in the street.Camm wrote:
The problem is it wasn't MEANINGLESS. It was my first serious, serious relationship. I was ready to move in with her, settle down and see what happens. For her to turn around after a year and tell me she has commitment issues killed me. She moved out of her mums house into a flat with her friend. We had a massive talkument last night, I was in tears after explaining to Gooners everything that had happened recently, when she just said "I'm moving on".
Everything I do/think will somehow lead back to her in my mind. I can't stop thinking about her. We broke up 2 and a half months ago, yet I still feel the same way I did the night we broke up. A couple of weeks ago, she kissed a couple of boys on a night out, I actually felt as if she'd cheated on me. I was drunk in a club and kissed a fat girl, told her, because I thought she'd find the fact that this girl was HUGE funny, but she felt cheated on as well.
I don't get that if she feels like that, then why are we apart?
We slept together a couple of weeks ago, but she said to me she felt like she'd disrespected herself, which is fair enough. But she's not going to get into a relationship with anyone for a while, but she will sleep with guys, which is MORE disrespectful on herself.
I don't know... I'm just an emotional mess atm. She was basically snatched away from me, just as my life was getting good again.
PrivateVendetta wrote:
I've done it. Helped to not keep seeing her.
At least hide her shit IMO
Sgt. Matt Bennet 3rd hasn't lololUzique wrote:
everyone's had a first 'serious relationship'
man up and shut up
Tru fax. I don't even know what a "girl" is. That's why this thread bothers me because I have no idea what everyone's been talking about for 250 pages.Sturgeon wrote:
Sgt. Matt Bennet 3rd hasn't lololUzique wrote:
everyone's had a first 'serious relationship'
man up and shut up
That's fairly disgusting, well done.Sturgeon wrote:
My only female housemate moved out because we used to piss in the bath with the plug in so whoever broke first had to empty it if they wanted a shower/bath.
was on like 90mg of prednasone at the time i cant do anything right when iam on that shitZimmer wrote:
Your situation was totally different to his though. The natural progression of a couple is to be... turned on by each other. Clearly something went wrong.Sisco wrote:
Not necessarily. After my ex broke up with me, I had a casual sex relationship with a friend of mine. The first few night I couldn´t come now matter how long we fucked. Was good sex, too, just couldn´t finish, cause I got my head somewhere else.Zimmer wrote:
She must have been really really ugly for you to fake it. Or one of you (or both of you) were absolutely terrible at it. GG.
Never saw the need to fake it though. Being friends before might make things less tense probably.
