Start with "Hi, how are you today?" And then link it to what you chatted about on Facebook, whatever it was.Kez wrote:
how do I approach this girl, we talk on Facebook but then when I see her in class I rarely talk to her
Don't talk about guy stuff, F1, TF2 etc, talk about what Zim said, then talk about schoolwork and perhaps ask if she wants help studying or something. Keep it casual.Kez wrote:
Cheers Zim, will give it a go!
Get on IRC, dude, I spill all sorts of stuff like that daily It's good to release to random people, and IRC rules.henno13 wrote:
This isn't a request for advice. I just feel that this thread is a good place to let my feelings out since IRL, if I say mention something about girls, let's just say not a lot of people take me seriously.
I'm 15. I'm probably the youngest active user on the forum. I have to admit, I have never went out wih a girl, let alone had a relationship. Most relationships at my age, in my opinion, are a facade, just so that the participants say that they did go out with him/her, maybe a few kisses here and here and then they break it off a few weeks later. In my view, its a load of shit and it's made worse by the fact that a lot of people I know do it and that's why I have never bothered in trying to get at gf, at least in my school. This girl doesn't go to my school, we met at a summer camp sorta thing.
It all started around three years ago. I was checking my phone and I was only person in the room, then two girls walked in. One of them sat beside me and started to talk to me, while her friend insisted that she was flirting with me. Over the rest of the summer, we started to become friends and I started to develop a crush on her. For some reason, I half rememeber saying something to her about going out, but I don't think it really happened. Anyway, we went our seperate ways untill the next summer. I was planning to ask her out, then lets just say the shit really hit the fan. I broke my leg and I haven't seen her since. Last week, I decided to do a Facebook search for the lulz, oh and what do ya know? She came up on the top of the list. I added her, no problem, and I sent her a pm, you know, to catch up since I hadn't seen her in a while, but she never repiled. What makes me feel worse is that her Relationship status is set to 'In a Relationship." .
I feel that I have seriously fucked up, all the chances I could've taken but didn't take. But that's me just feeling sorry for myself, as I have been for the last few days. As I said at the start of the post, I'm not looking for advice, i'm just letting it out.
It probably wasn't the best idea to go out with someone you only saw once a year anyway..henno13 wrote:
This isn't a request for advice. I just feel that this thread is a good place to let my feelings out since IRL, if I say mention something about girls, let's just say not a lot of people take me seriously.
I'm 15. I'm probably the youngest active user on the forum. I have to admit, I have never went out wih a girl, let alone had a relationship. Most relationships at my age, in my opinion, are a facade, just so that the participants say that they did go out with him/her, maybe a few kisses here and here and then they break it off a few weeks later. In my view, its a load of shit and it's made worse by the fact that a lot of people I know do it and that's why I have never bothered in trying to get at gf, at least in my school. This girl doesn't go to my school, we met at a summer camp sorta thing.
It all started around three years ago. I was checking my phone and I was only person in the room, then two girls walked in. One of them sat beside me and started to talk to me, while her friend insisted that she was flirting with me. Over the rest of the summer, we started to become friends and I started to develop a crush on her. For some reason, I half rememeber saying something to her about going out, but I don't think it really happened. Anyway, we went our seperate ways untill the next summer. I was planning to ask her out, then lets just say the shit really hit the fan. I broke my leg and I haven't seen her since. Last week, I decided to do a Facebook search for the lulz, oh and what do ya know? She came up on the top of the list. I added her, no problem, and I sent her a pm, you know, to catch up since I hadn't seen her in a while, but she never repiled. What makes me feel worse is that her Relationship status is set to 'In a Relationship." .
I feel that I have seriously fucked up, all the chances I could've taken but didn't take. But that's me just feeling sorry for myself, as I have been for the last few days. As I said at the start of the post, I'm not looking for advice, i'm just letting it out.
I started dating girls in middle school but they never lasted for more then a few weeks at most anyways.Adams_BJ wrote:
It probably wasn't the best idea to go out with someone you only saw once a year anyway..henno13 wrote:
This isn't a request for advice. I just feel that this thread is a good place to let my feelings out since IRL, if I say mention something about girls, let's just say not a lot of people take me seriously.
I'm 15. I'm probably the youngest active user on the forum. I have to admit, I have never went out wih a girl, let alone had a relationship. Most relationships at my age, in my opinion, are a facade, just so that the participants say that they did go out with him/her, maybe a few kisses here and here and then they break it off a few weeks later. In my view, its a load of shit and it's made worse by the fact that a lot of people I know do it and that's why I have never bothered in trying to get at gf, at least in my school. This girl doesn't go to my school, we met at a summer camp sorta thing.
It all started around three years ago. I was checking my phone and I was only person in the room, then two girls walked in. One of them sat beside me and started to talk to me, while her friend insisted that she was flirting with me. Over the rest of the summer, we started to become friends and I started to develop a crush on her. For some reason, I half rememeber saying something to her about going out, but I don't think it really happened. Anyway, we went our seperate ways untill the next summer. I was planning to ask her out, then lets just say the shit really hit the fan. I broke my leg and I haven't seen her since. Last week, I decided to do a Facebook search for the lulz, oh and what do ya know? She came up on the top of the list. I added her, no problem, and I sent her a pm, you know, to catch up since I hadn't seen her in a while, but she never repiled. What makes me feel worse is that her Relationship status is set to 'In a Relationship." .
I feel that I have seriously fucked up, all the chances I could've taken but didn't take. But that's me just feeling sorry for myself, as I have been for the last few days. As I said at the start of the post, I'm not looking for advice, i'm just letting it out.
IMO all the little "relationships" that kids have are important. They set up the guidelines for more serious relationships later on, and they build confidence with females from an early age. I have been 'dating' girls since primary school, they only lasted for a few weeks, but I never found it hard to get new ones because each one built on my confidence level enough to get a new one.
Ahhhh, to think of all the chances I've blown. You'll get over it.henno13 wrote:
This isn't a request for advice. I just feel that this thread is a good place to let my feelings out since IRL, if I say mention something about girls, let's just say not a lot of people take me seriously.
I'm 15. I'm probably the youngest active user on the forum. I have to admit, I have never went out wih a girl, let alone had a relationship. Most relationships at my age, in my opinion, are a facade, just so that the participants say that they did go out with him/her, maybe a few kisses here and here and then they break it off a few weeks later. In my view, its a load of shit and it's made worse by the fact that a lot of people I know do it and that's why I have never bothered in trying to get at gf, at least in my school. This girl doesn't go to my school, we met at a summer camp sorta thing.
It all started around three years ago. I was checking my phone and I was only person in the room, then two girls walked in. One of them sat beside me and started to talk to me, while her friend insisted that she was flirting with me. Over the rest of the summer, we started to become friends and I started to develop a crush on her. For some reason, I half rememeber saying something to her about going out, but I don't think it really happened. Anyway, we went our seperate ways untill the next summer. I was planning to ask her out, then lets just say the shit really hit the fan. I broke my leg and I haven't seen her since. Last week, I decided to do a Facebook search for the lulz, oh and what do ya know? She came up on the top of the list. I added her, no problem, and I sent her a pm, you know, to catch up since I hadn't seen her in a while, but she never repiled. What makes me feel worse is that her Relationship status is set to 'In a Relationship." .
I feel that I have seriously fucked up, all the chances I could've taken but didn't take. But that's me just feeling sorry for myself, as I have been for the last few days. As I said at the start of the post, I'm not looking for advice, i'm just letting it out.
Very true. My first... girlfriends were, let's say, not the most clever or mature girls ever. It's all about experience.Adams_BJ wrote:
IMO all the little "relationships" that kids have are important. They set up the guidelines for more serious relationships later on, and they build confidence with females from an early age. I have been 'dating' girls since primary school, they only lasted for a few weeks, but I never found it hard to get new ones because each one built on my confidence level enough to get a new one.
Free ig.whaaaaaaaaaat wrote:
quit being such a fucking pussy. sorry for being harsh, but ffs man, get it together
Reckon? What so just straight up "Can I get your phone number?"KEN-JENNINGS wrote:
If you've been talking to her over FB chat for a few days why do you need a smooth way to get her number? Just be direct, save the Casanova smoothness for when you actually go out with her.
Even though I feel pretty confident about where it's going, it's still the... "Fear" of rejection...teddy..jimmy wrote:
say you'd like to do coffee during work break...ask for her number so you can see if she's free..or just ask her, what do you have to lose?
Yeah tried it, I went to class early today and she was already up there waiting, we got talking and stuff and then I walked down into town with her tooZimmer wrote:
Start with "Hi, how are you today?" And then link it to what you chatted about on Facebook, whatever it was.Kez wrote:
how do I approach this girl, we talk on Facebook but then when I see her in class I rarely talk to her
Always a decent start, because she'll realise you remember the conversations you have on the chat.