She seems unfazed by it, is this normal?
It's something you can't change, worrying about it isn't gonna do anything but raise her blood pressure. Is she really religious?
Nope not at all, it's just strange how she is kinda just taking it like she lost her purse or something.
People deal with things in different ways. I'm sorry this is happening to her.wah1188 wrote:
She seems unfazed by it, is this normal?
I stood in line for four hours. They better give me a Wal-Mart gift card, or something. - Rodney Booker, Job Fair attendee.
She sounds like a learned person, full of peace and wisdom.
One should not fret over what one cannot change.
My sympathies friend.
It sucks seeing loved ones decline.
One should not fret over what one cannot change.
My sympathies friend.
It sucks seeing loved ones decline.
I've known about it for a long time I took her to hospital today and they started speaking to her about needed a carer. All I can say it's starting to hit home and I'm thinking about dropping out of uni to look after her.
The fact that it is so gradual she is getting use to the worse conditions as time goes by. Like how you get a fish from the pet store in a bag full of water. You place the bag in the tank full of water at home so the fish does not die from shock from just dumping it into the tank.
Try to get assistance or perhaps part time in home care first. You can interview people to care for her in exchange for room and board. Have a camera rolling for safety.wah1188 wrote:
I've known about it for a long time I took her to hospital today and they started speaking to her about needed a carer. All I can say it's starting to hit home and I'm thinking about dropping out of uni to look after her.
People hear me bitch a lot about my struggling/failing business.
What they don't hear from me is that I basically broke the bank paying cash for chemo therapy treatments for my dad when he lost his insurance.
Don't think too hard. Just do what's right and sort out the rest later.
Be her eyes.
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My friend whos i nhis late 60's got some sort of rare infection and now he takes special drops, look into this it could be the answer.
Doctor told me there is nothing he can do apart from monitor her decline. The muscles that help her eyes focus are weakening or something soon everything will become a blur. They say she has only a year left at most before everything is just a blur.
My sis was losing her vision. Steroids (no not that type) helped her.
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My wife is legally blind with out he glasses/contacts on same as my dad
My vision is 250/225 without my contacts.
Don't, finish it with good grades, get a well paid job and you can care for her so much better. She still has time to adjust herself and her life to this as it is a gradual process and from what you are telling I would say she is one tough lady. I guess she would not want you to throw away your future, mothers are that way. Yeah, I know, money is not everything in this world, but when it comes to needing help at home it has its benefits to be able to pay for it.wah1188 wrote:
I'm thinking about dropping out of uni to look after her.
I'd advise sticking to school. Perhaps she can move closer if she needs the help, but she sounds like the coping type.
If I were to go blind, I'd be disappointed at the media I'd miss out on, but in time I'd be able to pick a cricket fart out of air conditioner noise and be smug about it.
If I were to go blind, I'd be disappointed at the media I'd miss out on, but in time I'd be able to pick a cricket fart out of air conditioner noise and be smug about it.
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Well best of the luck mate.
But see if anyone else might be able to help you taking care of her.
But see if anyone else might be able to help you taking care of her.
So there is no way of an infection?wah1188 wrote:
Doctor told me there is nothing he can do apart from monitor her decline. The muscles that help her eyes focus are weakening or something soon everything will become a blur. They say she has only a year left at most before everything is just a blur.
I hope your doctor is a specialist.
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Sorry to hear that Hearing this sort of thing really makes me want to get out and start seeing things because it can happen to all of us. Go with her to places she has always wanted to see, otherwise it'll be regretted for a long time
It sucks that she is going blind man
But yeah, some people just know that toy cant do shit against that and just take it...You could cry all you want it wont give you 20/20 so...Might as well accept it and learn to deal with it!
But yeah, some people just know that toy cant do shit against that and just take it...You could cry all you want it wont give you 20/20 so...Might as well accept it and learn to deal with it!
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Don't, finish it with good grades, get a well paid job and you can care for her so much better. She still has time to adjust herself and her life to this as it is a gradual process and from what you are telling I would say she is one tough lady. I guess she would not want you to throw away your future, mothers are that way. Yeah, I know, money is not everything in this world, but when it comes to needing help at home it has its benefits to be able to pay for it.wah1188 wrote:
I'm thinking about dropping out of uni to look after her.
Well...look at the bright side. She'll be able to hear, smell, taste and feel things better!
I thought that only works for people who are born without a sense. I really don't know what to expect in terms of how she is going to live her life. Got some letters through the post with useful numbers today though.Poseidon wrote:
Well...look at the bright side. She'll be able to hear, smell, taste and feel things better!
That's how I usually react to things. If I can change them, I look to see what I can do. If not, I accept it and move on. Though going blind is bigger then something I've ever had to deal with, and much credit goes to her for taking it well.
Best wishes.
Best wishes.
Living blind is much easier nowadays. Hell, people are learning how to use fucking SONAR. Naturally!wah1188 wrote:
I thought that only works for people who are born without a sense. I really don't know what to expect in terms of how she is going to live her life. Got some letters through the post with useful numbers today though.Poseidon wrote:
Well...look at the bright side. She'll be able to hear, smell, taste and feel things better!
And no. If one of your senses is cut off (and not like covering your eyes for 30 minutes...i'm talking blind or deaf) then the others become heightened. IIRC.
You have to rely on them more, so you learn to use them in new ways - kind of.Poseidon wrote:
And no. If one of your senses is cut off (and not like covering your eyes for 30 minutes...i'm talking blind or deaf) then the others become heightened. IIRC.
Your hearing does not get better, but your brain "listens" more closely, because it gets no other information.
The simplest example: Even a non-blind person can learn to read braille.