Ok, here is a pretty fucking sad story about a sad guy, but I wanna share it with you guys and hear your opinions.
Many will probably think I´m a loser after reading this, but fuck that, I wanna tell you how it can go after filling a fantasy.
You might remember the thread about my child, well, my relationship with that girl ended after my burnout last year in October.
I was feeling very down at that time but something happened a month later.
I had known this special girl since 2002 and we got along great.( I´m godfather to her sisters child and through her I got to know this special girl.)
We had feelings for each other already in 2003 and we almost started to date back then because of her lousy relationship with her boyfriend. But it got better and they continued and so did I with my life. I met another GF (my sons mother) and we dated until last October as said before...
Anyway, in November we met in a bar and started to talk and I said that I still had feelings for her, and she said that she felt the same way for me.
She had now dated with her boyfriend in 6 years and everything had fall ed apart. We started to meet drinking coffee and talking and noticed that we come along great! So she dumped her boyfriend and later on we silently started to date, 22.12.
We really have enjoyed everyday, we have the same humor, we do the same things and conversations worked well and teh seks was super.
The only problem was that she felt bad for leaving her old boyfriend every now and then, she almost freaked out and said that she can´t be with me etc, but after a couple of hours everything was fine again...
So, everything was getting better, and in February we were doing super, there was nothing wrong, everything seemed excellent.
We spend all our free time together, watching movies, going out, seeing people, making love and had rough seks all the times just like new pairs usually do... She said that this is what she had dreamt of, that this was her fantasy and I agreed, this was what I had wanted for so long...
On Saturday evening I got my both kids over to my place. She said that she would spend the night at hers because she needed sleep wich was true. And kiddies rising at 6.00 AM isn´t what you need right then. When she left she kissed me for 3 minutes and hoped for the next they to come so that we could see each other again. So did I.
So far this story has been only sunshine and lollipops, but now comes the part that I wish could be made undone more than the Birth of A. Hitler.
Later that evening she called me:
Me:Hi Honey!
She: Hi, how are you
Me:Missing you, blablahblah
She: Listen, I´m spending the night in my old boyfriend's house!
Me: Hwat???
She: I had some arguing with my parents and didn´t wanna stay there, so I called him and asked if it is OK if I stay at his place. He is out drinking with his buddy and will come home tomorrow.
Me: Okay!!!! (Fact is that she used to go there three times a week to feed her cats that she left at his place, she cannot keep them where she lives now. This is something that has been going on since they broke up and it worked fine, they just talked a bit or he wasn´t at home.
I never saw a problem with it cause they had separated and had nothing in common anymore.)
She: I´ll call you later before I´ll go to bed and we´ll talk more then!!!
Me: Okay, buh-bye!
She called me again on the evening about 10:00 PM
She said that it was so quiet there and she was thinking of coming back to my place.
I said that "Come, I´ll take care of the kids in the morning and you can sleep as long as you want..."
But then she said that she was too tired to drive so she decided to go to bed.
We wished each other goodnight and then she went to bed, I went choppering in Oman.
I went to sleep at 2.00 AM and the kids woke me up at 7.00..
At 12.00 she called and asked how I had it with the kids and if everything was all right.
She said that she would start driving to my place after a cigarette.
When she came here she sat down at the kitchen table and started to read some ads and her hands were shaking.
Me: What´s wrong, why are you shaking???
She: Let´s talk about it later, we are getting a friend of mine here in 10 minutes.
Me: I wanna know now now what´s wrong? Did he come home, did you fight???
She: He came home last night 4:00 PM, he was really drunk..
Me:WHAT HAPPENED???
She: I made a BIG mistake!!!
Me: What??? How big???
She: He came home, he came and laid down on my bed, then he started to make approaches, and suddenly we had sex..
Me: I´m gonna kill this sorry ass dickhead!!!
I picked up my shit and was putting my shoes on when she came and grabbed me and cried" No, don´t hurt him, It´s not just his fault, I could have rejected, but somehow I didn´t. If you do anything to him you lose me forever!!!"
"Ok, but I wanna hear everything about this and let´s see what we do.
So she explained the whole story. She regretted it so much and wished that she never would have spend the night there in the first place.
She didn´t expected him to come there and the whole sex thing had no point, she doesn´t love him anymore and she knows that there will never be anything between them. So there was no point. But she said that it must have been the old feelings that lead the situation to intercourse...
I forgave her, yap, that´s right. Because I love her more than anything and I am ready to do anything to get this working again.
It hurts so fucking much to know that that cocksucker banged her but I´m not a better person myself. I have done the exact same thing twice earlier in my life. Hell, probably many of you have!
But she has a hard time right now to forgive herself for what she did, and perhaps I´m fucking glad that she does that.
I mean, one doesn´t take ex-boyfriend cock while in a relationship. But I hope that she will forgive herself and continue the relationship with me. That is something I wish for more than anything right now.
After the conversation she grabbed her stuff and left. She is now at her place sorting her shit out. She said that she will tell me when she knows if she can continue this. She wants to, but the fact that she has to live with the "night at Jussi´s" the rest of our relationship could be hard for her.
I just hope that she gets over it but never does anything like that again....
So, What is your opinion?
Do I do the right thing trying to get this working because what we have is really special? (Now even more )
If it was just a mistake then I think that I can let it go, it will always be there, but it doesn´t have to make any harm.
And somehow I understand her, because I have done the same thing.
It feels Ok at the time, but immediately after you get angst.... It just happens.
If I would have been in the same situation I think I would have made the same thing, or maybe not? can´t say.
Or should i just do the "Ditch The Bitch" and regret it the rest of my life that I let the girl that had been my fantasy for a so long time go just for a mistake???
I fucking don´t know????
Have you had any kind of relative experiences, and if, what did you do???
Thanks for listening once again!!!
-Uber
Many will probably think I´m a loser after reading this, but fuck that, I wanna tell you how it can go after filling a fantasy.
You might remember the thread about my child, well, my relationship with that girl ended after my burnout last year in October.
I was feeling very down at that time but something happened a month later.
I had known this special girl since 2002 and we got along great.( I´m godfather to her sisters child and through her I got to know this special girl.)
We had feelings for each other already in 2003 and we almost started to date back then because of her lousy relationship with her boyfriend. But it got better and they continued and so did I with my life. I met another GF (my sons mother) and we dated until last October as said before...
Anyway, in November we met in a bar and started to talk and I said that I still had feelings for her, and she said that she felt the same way for me.
She had now dated with her boyfriend in 6 years and everything had fall ed apart. We started to meet drinking coffee and talking and noticed that we come along great! So she dumped her boyfriend and later on we silently started to date, 22.12.
We really have enjoyed everyday, we have the same humor, we do the same things and conversations worked well and teh seks was super.
The only problem was that she felt bad for leaving her old boyfriend every now and then, she almost freaked out and said that she can´t be with me etc, but after a couple of hours everything was fine again...
So, everything was getting better, and in February we were doing super, there was nothing wrong, everything seemed excellent.
We spend all our free time together, watching movies, going out, seeing people, making love and had rough seks all the times just like new pairs usually do... She said that this is what she had dreamt of, that this was her fantasy and I agreed, this was what I had wanted for so long...
On Saturday evening I got my both kids over to my place. She said that she would spend the night at hers because she needed sleep wich was true. And kiddies rising at 6.00 AM isn´t what you need right then. When she left she kissed me for 3 minutes and hoped for the next they to come so that we could see each other again. So did I.
So far this story has been only sunshine and lollipops, but now comes the part that I wish could be made undone more than the Birth of A. Hitler.
Later that evening she called me:
Me:Hi Honey!
She: Hi, how are you
Me:Missing you, blablahblah
She: Listen, I´m spending the night in my old boyfriend's house!
Me: Hwat???
She: I had some arguing with my parents and didn´t wanna stay there, so I called him and asked if it is OK if I stay at his place. He is out drinking with his buddy and will come home tomorrow.
Me: Okay!!!! (Fact is that she used to go there three times a week to feed her cats that she left at his place, she cannot keep them where she lives now. This is something that has been going on since they broke up and it worked fine, they just talked a bit or he wasn´t at home.
I never saw a problem with it cause they had separated and had nothing in common anymore.)
She: I´ll call you later before I´ll go to bed and we´ll talk more then!!!
Me: Okay, buh-bye!
She called me again on the evening about 10:00 PM
She said that it was so quiet there and she was thinking of coming back to my place.
I said that "Come, I´ll take care of the kids in the morning and you can sleep as long as you want..."
But then she said that she was too tired to drive so she decided to go to bed.
We wished each other goodnight and then she went to bed, I went choppering in Oman.
I went to sleep at 2.00 AM and the kids woke me up at 7.00..
At 12.00 she called and asked how I had it with the kids and if everything was all right.
She said that she would start driving to my place after a cigarette.
When she came here she sat down at the kitchen table and started to read some ads and her hands were shaking.
Me: What´s wrong, why are you shaking???
She: Let´s talk about it later, we are getting a friend of mine here in 10 minutes.
Me: I wanna know now now what´s wrong? Did he come home, did you fight???
She: He came home last night 4:00 PM, he was really drunk..
Me:WHAT HAPPENED???
She: I made a BIG mistake!!!
Me: What??? How big???
She: He came home, he came and laid down on my bed, then he started to make approaches, and suddenly we had sex..
Me: I´m gonna kill this sorry ass dickhead!!!
I picked up my shit and was putting my shoes on when she came and grabbed me and cried" No, don´t hurt him, It´s not just his fault, I could have rejected, but somehow I didn´t. If you do anything to him you lose me forever!!!"
"Ok, but I wanna hear everything about this and let´s see what we do.
So she explained the whole story. She regretted it so much and wished that she never would have spend the night there in the first place.
She didn´t expected him to come there and the whole sex thing had no point, she doesn´t love him anymore and she knows that there will never be anything between them. So there was no point. But she said that it must have been the old feelings that lead the situation to intercourse...
I forgave her, yap, that´s right. Because I love her more than anything and I am ready to do anything to get this working again.
It hurts so fucking much to know that that cocksucker banged her but I´m not a better person myself. I have done the exact same thing twice earlier in my life. Hell, probably many of you have!
But she has a hard time right now to forgive herself for what she did, and perhaps I´m fucking glad that she does that.
I mean, one doesn´t take ex-boyfriend cock while in a relationship. But I hope that she will forgive herself and continue the relationship with me. That is something I wish for more than anything right now.
After the conversation she grabbed her stuff and left. She is now at her place sorting her shit out. She said that she will tell me when she knows if she can continue this. She wants to, but the fact that she has to live with the "night at Jussi´s" the rest of our relationship could be hard for her.
I just hope that she gets over it but never does anything like that again....
So, What is your opinion?
Do I do the right thing trying to get this working because what we have is really special? (Now even more )
If it was just a mistake then I think that I can let it go, it will always be there, but it doesn´t have to make any harm.
And somehow I understand her, because I have done the same thing.
It feels Ok at the time, but immediately after you get angst.... It just happens.
If I would have been in the same situation I think I would have made the same thing, or maybe not? can´t say.
Or should i just do the "Ditch The Bitch" and regret it the rest of my life that I let the girl that had been my fantasy for a so long time go just for a mistake???
I fucking don´t know????
Have you had any kind of relative experiences, and if, what did you do???
Thanks for listening once again!!!
-Uber
