I'm really sorry to hear about that bud, just remember everything happens for a reason and some things are just out of your control. Any guy that is 20+ years old has been through what you are going through. It stresses me out to even think of it! I would feel the exact same way as you. You can't threaten her back with divorce to scare her because you are scared she may actually want to do it. And you can't tell her that guys look at porn without her thinking that she isn't attractive anymore and you need another woman to turn you on... Its a vicsious cycle...
If I were you I woudn't spend any more of your hard earned money on her than you have to... But if you feel like things are getting really bad between her, you need to start researching some stuff. You have to be VERY secretive about this but you may want to look into what a divorce would cost you and that kind of stuff... This may be bad advice, but don't be taken advantage of by her because she won't hesitate to take advantage of you. But like I said, you have to keep that kind of stuff a HUGE secret. You need to see how much child support will be, how much she would possibly get from your house, etc... I have also heard stories from ex-coworkers about how they said to their wife during a divorce "You can't have the car, the house, the boat, etc." And then the wife told her lawyer she wanted that stuff. Well, she ended up calling him and asking, "How I am suppose to pay for all of this stuff?" As in the loans payments. Fight back! You have to, women have far too much power in the court system these days. Haha, am I anti-woman or what.. LOL.
One of my favorite quotes is:
"You never know a woman until you've met her in court." That is so true. Granted I am only 23 years old, I have a feeling I won't be marrying anytime soon. Through all of the experiences I have been through, it would take the most amazing woman in the world for me to tie the knot... And even then I would get a prenup. Thats just the way it is for us these days... Especially in my generation. It sucks, but people just aren't satisfied with anything...
In the end, if she is ever stressing you out, just think about your kids. Think about how much you love them and how you should stay with her for the kids. When they turn 18 and move out, you move out too... Just keep making that money! Also, put a little on the side for yourself that she doesn't know about. That would be a smart idea.
If I were you I woudn't spend any more of your hard earned money on her than you have to... But if you feel like things are getting really bad between her, you need to start researching some stuff. You have to be VERY secretive about this but you may want to look into what a divorce would cost you and that kind of stuff... This may be bad advice, but don't be taken advantage of by her because she won't hesitate to take advantage of you. But like I said, you have to keep that kind of stuff a HUGE secret. You need to see how much child support will be, how much she would possibly get from your house, etc... I have also heard stories from ex-coworkers about how they said to their wife during a divorce "You can't have the car, the house, the boat, etc." And then the wife told her lawyer she wanted that stuff. Well, she ended up calling him and asking, "How I am suppose to pay for all of this stuff?" As in the loans payments. Fight back! You have to, women have far too much power in the court system these days. Haha, am I anti-woman or what.. LOL.
One of my favorite quotes is:
"You never know a woman until you've met her in court." That is so true. Granted I am only 23 years old, I have a feeling I won't be marrying anytime soon. Through all of the experiences I have been through, it would take the most amazing woman in the world for me to tie the knot... And even then I would get a prenup. Thats just the way it is for us these days... Especially in my generation. It sucks, but people just aren't satisfied with anything...
In the end, if she is ever stressing you out, just think about your kids. Think about how much you love them and how you should stay with her for the kids. When they turn 18 and move out, you move out too... Just keep making that money! Also, put a little on the side for yourself that she doesn't know about. That would be a smart idea.
