LividBovine
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How far does one go to stand for their principles?  At what point do you yield to the masses and accept what everyone else seems to be accepting?

My wife and  dealt with this over the weekend.  My 11 year old daughter came home from school expressing concern over a song they were learning for the spring concert.  The song was "Imagine" by John Lennon.  This is a beautiful song as far as the structure and melody.  The problem my daughter had was with the lyrics:

Imagine there's no heaven
It's easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today

Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace

You may say I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will be as one

Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world

You may say I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will live as one


Now some may ask what the problem could possibly be with a bunch of children singing a Lennon song, others may know I am a Christian and may take issue with the song based on that.  Some may even see more issues with the song. 

My question is where do you take a stand.  If your daughter or son came home and showed you that they were learning this song, what would your response be?  Why?
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This song doesn't ever tell the listener that the world is or isn't a certain way.  It simply asks them to imagine a few scenarios.  If anything, it's simply a plea for people to be more open-minded.  I don't really feel that it's anything to be upset by, but then again, I wasn't raised in a strictly religious household.
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I'd tell them to grow up.

A song isn't going to hurt your child. And maybe some education about the Beatles and John Lennon wouldn't go astray either.

Sounds like you've packed your daughter in cotton wool and she's come running to you because Imagine has somehow offender her.

Honestly, is this song going to destroy her belief in Christianity? If so, I would say it wasn't a very strong belief anyway.
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AussieReaper wrote:

I'd tell them to grow up.
Whom are you referring to?

A song isn't going to hurt your child. And maybe some education about the Beatles and John Lennon wouldn't go astray either.
Yes, a song is just a song.  You want me to force my child to sing a song that she doesn't agree with?

What education are you referring to?  The fact that he was not a communist.  That is true, but his intention with the song was to influence others.  I don't judge things at first glance, hours of research have gone into knowing as much about the song as possible. 



Sounds like you've packed your daughter in cotton wool and she's come running to you because Imagine has somehow offender her.

Honestly, is this song going to destroy her belief in Christianity? If so, I would say it wasn't a very strong belief anyway.
I don't insulate them from the world.
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I'd say that is an awesome song.  Take it from me, I went to a catholic school all my life and had to sing about jesus and moses and all the rest but never said anything about it and now I'm the happiest non believer out there so it really doesn't matter just let them do what they do and don't take an elementary school song too seriously
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LividBovine wrote:

AussieReaper wrote:

I'd tell them to grow up.
Whom are you referring to?
Well you did ask "My question is where do you take a stand.  If your daughter or son came home and showed you that they were learning this song, what would your response be?  Why?"

My response would be to tell them to grow up.

LividBovine wrote:

A song isn't going to hurt your child. And maybe some education about the Beatles and John Lennon wouldn't go astray either.
Yes, a song is just a song.  You want me to force my child to sing a song that she doesn't agree with?
Of course you should not force your child to sing a song she doesn't agree with. But you should encourage her to understand that she can sing without fear of hell fire. Without fear of discrimination. And without accepting the Devil into her world.

Where's this paranoia coming from?

LividBovine wrote:

What education are you referring to?  The fact that he was not a communist.  That is true, but his intention with the song was to influence others.
Communist, what? What in the world does this have to do with Communism? His song was to influence others to get along and be happy. It's in the lyrics. The world as one. Living life in peace.

Is that where your objection to the song is coming from? World peace is a terrible ideal?

Maybe you could explain to your daughter the song's influence with civil rights movements, the background of the Vietnam war.

Or compare it to another John Lennon solo, "Give Peace a Chance" and see how evil that song is...

LividBovine wrote:

I don't judge things at first glance, hours of research have gone into knowing as much about the song as possible.
Hours of research, are you serious? By who, you or your daughter. I doubt it's the latter. And my suggestion to you is that you as a parent should help her make an informed decision. And give her a background of the man himself. See if she still has objections after reading about his stance towards conscription, war and human rights. Good Christian values.

Be warned though, the Beatles did say they were bigger than Jesus...

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LividBovine wrote:

Sounds like you've packed your daughter in cotton wool and she's come running to you because Imagine has somehow offender her.

Honestly, is this song going to destroy her belief in Christianity? If so, I would say it wasn't a very strong belief anyway.
I don't insulate them from the world.
One day she'll turn on the radio and hear "The Devil went down to Georgia, he was looking for a soul to steal. He was in a bind 'cos he was way behind - he was willin' to make a deal."

What exactly do you plan on doing when that happens? Help guide her into the bomb shelter? If her reaction to Imagine is anything to go by, that's what you'll be doing.

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What is your daughters concern exactly?
Or is it more her concern that you'll be concerned?

'Imagine' Is about as tame as it can get, if your daughter can't deal with it she's not had a very broad education.

Apart from the 'no religion' bit which part do you have an issue with?
From my perspective it seems pretty well ideal, all the values religions purport to put forward, without the BS of organised religious dogma and pedos in dresses, don't see what your problem is TBH.
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Dilbert_X wrote:

What is your daughters concern exactly?
Or is it more her concern that you'll be concerned?

'Imagine' Is about as tame as it can get, if your daughter can't deal with it she's not had a very broad education.

Apart from the 'no religion' bit which part do you have an issue with?
From my perspective it seems pretty well ideal, all the values religions purport to put forward, without the BS of organised religious dogma and pedos in dresses, don't see what your problem is TBH.
Her concern, not mine.  She told me what bothered her about it.  I didn't tell her what to think about it, just asked questions on what she thought about it when she brought it up.

I have a problem with the no Heaven and Hell, no religion, and the live for today aspects.  She mainly had an issue with the no Heaven and Hell aspect.

I honestly wouldn't think a non-believer would understand.  Would you be OK with your child singing a song about God in their school?  Would you say something to the school?


AussieReaper wrote:

Well you did ask "My question is where do you take a stand.  If your daughter or son came home and showed you that they were learning this song, what would your response be?  Why?"

My response would be to tell them to grow up.
You have any kids?

Aussiereaper wrote:

Of course you should not force your child to sing a song she doesn't agree with. But you should encourage her to understand that she can sing without fear of hell fire. Without fear of discrimination. And without accepting the Devil into her world.

Where's this paranoia coming from?
No paranoia here, just principles about denouncing Heaven and Hell and telling kids to live for today.

Aussiereaper wrote:

Communist, what? What in the world does this have to do with Communism? His song was to influence others to get along and be happy. It's in the lyrics. The world as one. Living life in peace.
You are ignoring most of the rest of the song why?

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Maybe it would be worth discussing the posititve aspects of having no religion with her, as well as the negatives, so she can make a balanced choice instead of just do what she's told.

Would I be bothered about a child singing about god? Not really, they can make up their own minds based on the available information. Unless they were ramming religious dogma down their throat - in which case I'd find another school.
I don't see why you are bothered TBH, unless you're scared she's going to bend from the path you've chosen for her.

Do you object to her being taught Darwinism too?

See my awesome thread - http://forums.bf2s.com/viewtopic.php?id=129873&p=1

I honestly wouldn't think a non-believer would understand.
Yes, and non-scientologists wouldn't understand the joy of having a thetan living in their heads.

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LividBovine
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Dilbert_X wrote:

Maybe it would be worth discussing the posititve aspects of having no religion with her, as well as the negatives.

Would I be bothered about a child singing about god? Not really, they can make up their own minds based on the available information. Unless they were ramming religious dogma down their throat - in which case I'd find another school.
I don't see why you are bothered TBH, unless you're scared she's going to bend from the path you've chosen for her.

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Saw the thread, looks like I even posted in it.

Not worried about her bending, to much anyways.  Kids are impressionable, and yes, as a parent I am damn sure going to make sure my child understands what I believe and why.  I will never ask them to blindly follow anything though.

This is not meant as a slam, or even to minimize your comments much.  If you have not had children and felt the responsibility of raising them the best you know how, you are at a disadvantage.  If you are a non-believer in any religion you will most certainly pass that along to your children, sometimes knowingly, sometimes not so much.

I don't have a problem with Darwinism.  I am not sure how God created the earth.  The science isn't settled yet.

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I can't see what the problem is tbh. You can go far by explaining to her, as others have suggested, the background to the song and the historical context it was made in. Otherwise, what, you're saying that living in peace is a bad thing? I don't get it. As for the no heaven and hell bit, maybe you should tell her that some people don't believe in God or Jesus, and it doesn't make them bad people, and also that religion including Christianity has for centuries been an oppressive tool, as well as having some good come out of it, so it's not surprising that many people have a negative reaction to it.

If she's really bothered tell her to stand there and mouth the words if she doesn't want to sing it. That's what I did whenever we had to sing hymns at school.

It's a beautiful if overplayed song. Again, as someone else pointed out it's just saying IMAGINE x and IMAGINE y, it's not even saying this is how it is, i.e. not prosletysing, unlike Christian songs.

Your kid needs to realise that one of the fundamental tenets of any religion should be the acceptance of other people's beliefs.
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ruisleipa wrote:

Your kid needs to realise that one of the fundamental tenets of any religion should be the acceptance of other people's beliefs.
Who's a classic leading example? The Dalai Lama?
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ruisleipa wrote:

I can't see what the problem is tbh. You can go far by explaining to her, as others have suggested, the background to the song and the historical context it was made in. Otherwise, what, you're saying that living in peace is a bad thing? I don't get it. As for the no heaven and hell bit, maybe you should tell her that some people don't believe in God or Jesus, and it doesn't make them bad people, and also that religion including Christianity has for centuries been an oppressive tool, as well as having some good come out of it, so it's not surprising that many people have a negative reaction to it.

If she's really bothered tell her to stand there and mouth the words if she doesn't want to sing it. That's what I did whenever we had to sing hymns at school.

It's a beautiful if overplayed song. Again, as someone else pointed out it's just saying IMAGINE x and IMAGINE y, it's not even saying this is how it is, i.e. not prosletysing, unlike Christian songs.

Your kid needs to realise that one of the fundamental tenets of any religion should be the acceptance of other people's beliefs.
I am not asking for parenting advice from a bunch of internet jockeys here.  Get real people.  The idea that they are taking religous songs out of school, but keeping ones like this is a big problem if you don't see it.  I have no problem with others view points, I am one of the first to defend anyones right to express their views.  I am looking for balance here.

Remember, I did not pull my daughter out of the concert.  I did not make the school pull the song from the concert.  I have told her to just stand there for that song if she didn't want to sing it.
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Chou wrote:

ruisleipa wrote:

Your kid needs to realise that one of the fundamental tenets of any religion should be the acceptance of other people's beliefs.
Who's a classic leading example? The Dalai Lama?
see that word in bold?
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LividBovine wrote:

I am not asking for parenting advice from a bunch of internet jockeys here.  Get real people.  The idea that they are taking religous songs out of school, but keeping ones like this is a big problem if you don't see it.  I have no problem with others view points, I am one of the first to defend anyones right to express their views.  I am looking for balance here.

Remember, I did not pull my daughter out of the concert.  I did not make the school pull the song from the concert.  I have told her to just stand there for that song if she didn't want to sing it.
Alright mate calm down. Just trying to offer my opinion, which is what you asked for. If you don't want advice from 'internet jockeys' then don't feckin post here tbh.

How terribly nice of you to "not make the school pull the song from the concert". Well done. :slow handclap:

As for your question "If your daughter or son came home and showed you that they were learning this song, what would your response be?  Why?" I think I pretty much answered it, I'd say it's a good song, not the best he's written, but I can see why you'd want to sing it with kids cos it's got a nice melody and is easy to sing and whatnot, so knock yourself out kiddo, and maybe next time with any luck they'll get you to sing Slayer.
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ruisleipa wrote:

LividBovine wrote:

I am not asking for parenting advice from a bunch of internet jockeys here.  Get real people.  The idea that they are taking religous songs out of school, but keeping ones like this is a big problem if you don't see it.  I have no problem with others view points, I am one of the first to defend anyones right to express their views.  I am looking for balance here.

Remember, I did not pull my daughter out of the concert.  I did not make the school pull the song from the concert.  I have told her to just stand there for that song if she didn't want to sing it.
Alright mate calm down. Just trying to offer my opinion, which is what you asked for. If you don't want advice from 'internet jockeys' then don't feckin post here tbh.

How terribly nice of you to "not make the school pull the song from the concert". Well done. :slow handclap:

As for your question "If your daughter or son came home and showed you that they were learning this song, what would your response be?  Why?" I think I pretty much answered it, I'd say it's a good song, not the best he's written, but I can see why you'd want to sing it with kids cos it's got a nice melody and is easy to sing and whatnot, so knock yourself out kiddo, and maybe next time with any luck they'll get you to sing Slayer.
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lol christians, why I'm not amazed?
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Longbow wrote:

lol christians, why I'm not amazed?
What's your point?
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Are there going to be any religous songs sung at the concert?
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Pubic wrote:

Are there going to be any religous songs sung at the concert?
No.  There was no Christmas concert either.  No holiday concert at all this year.

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No Christmas concert?!!!  That, my friend is something worth kicking up a stink over.

For what its worth, plenty of atheists (including myself) find the war on Christmas to be highly offensive.
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In this particular case I would have explained to my kids what the song is really about ... and that if they believe in God that this song is far from a threat to their believes ...

It's a tribute to an ideal world without war because with no religion, no countries and no material possesions there would be nothing left to fight wars over ... quite simple ...
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Pubic wrote:

No Christmas concert?!!!  That, my friend is something worth kicking up a stink over.

For what its worth, plenty of atheists (including myself) find the war on Christmas to be highly offensive.
I don't mind the taking Christmas out and trying to expose people to all the Faiths, or lack thereof.  I am looking for equality here.  I also would not expect or encourage a non-believer to sing a gospel song.
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LividBovine wrote:

You have any kids?
No.

LividBovine wrote:

No paranoia here, just principles about denouncing Heaven and Hell and telling kids to live for today.
What's wrong with telling kids to live for today? And the song is titled Imagine for a reason. It isn't saying through away your religion. But consider, "imagine" what the world would be like without it.

Maybe your child doesn't know about the terrible things that have been done in the name of religion, like the Crusades?

LividBovine wrote:

You are ignoring most of the rest of the song why?
I'll make it easy for you. If you want to know what the song is about, look at the last sentence of each verse. Here:


Living for today

Living life in peace

And the world will be as one

Sharing all the world

And the world will live as one


That is the message of the song. And it is incredible that you cannot see this after an hour of research... What is so horrible about this message? That you have to take religion out of the equation? If that's the case then you're extremely naive to think religion is a necessity to morality.
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Pubic wrote:

No Christmas concert?!!!  That, my friend is something worth kicking up a stink over.

For what its worth, plenty of atheists (including myself) find the war on Christmas to be highly offensive.
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