I'm 17, she's 16. We haven't know each other for that long, really, about 3 months.SEREMAKER wrote:
whats your and hers age and whats the time length that you've known each other
I'm not quite getting something here. How do her motives for joining the Marines affect your interest in her?_j5689_ wrote:
I already did talk to her that day though. Still, I did want to talk to her some more, because she wants to join the Marine Corps now and I think it's for the wrong reasons. It wasn't like I would've been scared to talk to her, I figured it would be nice to just leave it the way it was for the day and show some self-control: that I don't need to talk to her every time I see her. But if I am in the inner circle, as you say, then maybe she wouldn't care when I talked to her or how frequent.
Either way, I don't see it as that big of a deal that I didn't talk to her again. Hopefully she didn't either.
Then I'd say it's no problem. I once took it slow for 18 months though, that wás a problem. Once you're standing still in high gear, accelerating becomes harder.Jebus wrote:
I'm 17, she's 16. We haven't know each other for that long, really, about 3 months.SEREMAKER wrote:
whats your and hers age and whats the time length that you've known each other
And you're Belgian righ? So, you guys have chocolate
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in those 3 months, how many times has it been just you and her hanging out or going on a dateJebus wrote:
I'm 17, she's 16. We haven't know each other for that long, really, about 3 months.SEREMAKER wrote:
whats your and hers age and whats the time length that you've known each other
Let's see.. A few trips to town, once to the movies.. For the rest we didn't get to hang out a lot during the vacation, she went on holidays and I had to work. We're in the same school(not same class, she's a year younger). I talk to her every day at school, we talk on MSN too every day, text aswell.. The regular stuff.. I just got home from talking to her, actually, for about an hour and a half.SEREMAKER wrote:
in those 3 months, how many times has it been just you and her hanging out or going on a dateJebus wrote:
I'm 17, she's 16. We haven't know each other for that long, really, about 3 months.SEREMAKER wrote:
whats your and hers age and whats the time length that you've known each other
you're going to have to step up on the " you and her " time ... also see if you can get to school just a let bit earlier then her and leave little notes saying " I miss you " or " thinking of you " or " everytime you look at this I'm thinking of you " in places that only she will find - in her locker ( if you guys have those ), under her desk etc etcJebus wrote:
Let's see.. A few trips to town, once to the movies.. For the rest we didn't get to hang out a lot during the vacation, she went on holidays and I had to work. We're in the same school(not same class, she's a year younger). I talk to her every day at school, we talk on MSN too every day, text aswell.. The regular stuff.. I just got home from talking to her, actually, for about an hour and a half.SEREMAKER wrote:
in those 3 months, how many times has it been just you and her hanging out or going on a dateJebus wrote:
I'm 17, she's 16. We haven't know each other for that long, really, about 3 months.
Just the two of you? Nah,.. it isn't going thát slow then is it? Be patient young grasshopper!Jebus wrote:
Let's see.. A few trips to town, once to the movies.. For the rest we didn't get to hang out a lot during the vacation, she went on holidays and I had to work. We're in the same school(not same class, she's a year younger). I talk to her every day at school, we talk on MSN too every day, text aswell.. The regular stuff.. I just got home from talking to her, actually, for about an hour and a half.
Have you, and more importantly her, been in a serious relationship before?
Make sure you triple check every intended move though, ;eaving notes under the wrong desk can get you into a hassleSEREMAKER wrote:
you're going to have to step up on the " you and her " time ... also see if you can get to school just a let bit earlier then her and leave little notes saying " I miss you " or " thinking of you " or " everytime you look at this I'm thinking of you " in places that only she will find - in her locker ( if you guys have those ), under her desk etc etc
These are good points though. The real trick is with ingenuity like this, it doesn't have to cost you an expensive dinner or anything. Bear in mind also that the best moves are made unprepared, ad hoc, by making use of a given situation.
@LaiLai wrote:
Just the two of you? Nah,.. it isn't going thát slow then is it? Be patient young grasshopper!Jebus wrote:
Let's see.. A few trips to town, once to the movies.. For the rest we didn't get to hang out a lot during the vacation, she went on holidays and I had to work. We're in the same school(not same class, she's a year younger). I talk to her every day at school, we talk on MSN too every day, text aswell.. The regular stuff.. I just got home from talking to her, actually, for about an hour and a half.
Have you, and more importantly her, been in a serious relationship before?Make sure you triple check every intended move though, ;eaving notes under the wrong desk can get you into a hassleSEREMAKER wrote:
you're going to have to step up on the " you and her " time ... also see if you can get to school just a let bit earlier then her and leave little notes saying " I miss you " or " thinking of you " or " everytime you look at this I'm thinking of you " in places that only she will find - in her locker ( if you guys have those ), under her desk etc etc
These are good points though. The real trick is with ingenuity like this, it doesn't have to cost you an expensive dinner or anything. Bear in mind also that the best moves are made unprepared, ad hoc, by making use of a given situation.
Well, I know I'm impatient, I just have this feeling that she doesn't really want to progress, I might be completely wrong on this, and I truly hope I am! I know her parents are really strict though, and they somehow got a bad image of me because they saw me talking to her after school.. So she has to make excuses and whatnot to get around, for example today. She told her parents she was gonna talk to some friends after school so she could be with me(I'm not sure if this is just her rebelious nature or just because she could see me). Either way, it means a lot, I guess
And no, neither of us have been in a serious relationship. I'm not so sure about her, actually, but still. I'll ask her though =-)
@Sere
I try my best. Before school is pretty much impossible, but we talk every day after school, and at night on MSN. I'm not sure if I want to do the 'miss you/thinking of you/etc' thing yet, as I'm not sure if she's just seeing me as a friend, or possibly more than that, yet.
Thanks for the advice, both
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Oh God,.. in laws.Jebus wrote:
@Lai
Well, I know I'm impatient, I just have this feeling that she doesn't really want to progress, I might be completely wrong on this, and I truly hope I am! I know her parents are really strict though, and they somehow got a bad image of me because they saw me talking to her after school.. So she has to make excuses and whatnot to get around, for example today. She told her parents she was gonna talk to some friends after school so she could be with me(I'm not sure if this is just her rebelious nature or just because she could see me). Either way, it means a lot, I guess
And no, neither of us have been in a serious relationship. I'm not so sure about her, actually, but still. I'll ask her though =-)
@Sere
I try my best. Before school is pretty much impossible, but we talk every day after school, and at night on MSN. I'm not sure if I want to do the 'miss you/thinking of you/etc' thing yet, as I'm not sure if she's just seeing me as a friend, or possibly more than that, yet.
Thanks for the advice, both
To be honest a girl with parents like that is the worst possible pick. They actually made a problem of her talking to you? I guess it she is not allowed to have any male (platonic) friends at all then? Maybe she does want to progress, but can't. If she's lying to her parents to talk to you, that is quite something I guess, but still I dare not put any money on it.
My best bet would be that she doesn't really know herself what she wants, assuming she hasn't been in any serious relationships and considering she has a loyalty conflict with her parents. It'd mean any innitiative would have to come from you, but at the same time you should leave her enough room and make her feel comfortable making her own choices. It's always a tricky thing though, girls with "bagage" like that.
I know man.. But I don't go around picking girls out lol, I guess this is just another thing to overcome . And yeah, according to her her parents are really old fashioned and are making a problem out of it that she wants to meet me or talk to me. 'Because I'm dangerous'. I really wouldn't have a problem at all with meeting her parents, maybe I should do that, but it's not the time for that yet, I need to know what she's looking for firstLai wrote:
Oh God,.. in laws.Jebus wrote:
@Lai
Well, I know I'm impatient, I just have this feeling that she doesn't really want to progress, I might be completely wrong on this, and I truly hope I am! I know her parents are really strict though, and they somehow got a bad image of me because they saw me talking to her after school.. So she has to make excuses and whatnot to get around, for example today. She told her parents she was gonna talk to some friends after school so she could be with me(I'm not sure if this is just her rebelious nature or just because she could see me). Either way, it means a lot, I guess
And no, neither of us have been in a serious relationship. I'm not so sure about her, actually, but still. I'll ask her though =-)
@Sere
I try my best. Before school is pretty much impossible, but we talk every day after school, and at night on MSN. I'm not sure if I want to do the 'miss you/thinking of you/etc' thing yet, as I'm not sure if she's just seeing me as a friend, or possibly more than that, yet.
Thanks for the advice, both
To be honest a girl with parents like that is the worst possible pick. They actually made a problem of her talking to you? I guess it she is not allowed to have any male (platonic) friends at all then? Maybe she does want to progress, but can't. If she's lying to her parents to talk to you, that is quite something I guess, but still I dare not put any money on it.
My best bet would be that she doesn't really know herself what she wants, assuming she hasn't been in any serious relationships and considering she has a loyalty conflict with her parents. It'd mean any innitiative would have to come from you, but at the same time you should leave her enough room and make her feel comfortable making her own choices. It's always a tricky thing though, girls with "bagage" like that.
The thing I'm doing right now is leaving her enough space and trying to make sure she doesn't get in trouble with her parents because of me..
Right lads I'm off for my date
Wish me luck xD
Wish me luck xD
you're supposed to post here after the date.Oisín<3 wrote:
Right lads I'm off for my date
Wish me luck xD
proactive thinking, i like it.
good luck!
So they obsess over the little things like that just as much as I do when they like someone?SEREMAKER wrote:
you were in the inner circle ............. chicks are emotional and not stopping by to at least say Hi will leave a bad mark in her memory about you_j5689_ wrote:
I already did talk to her that day though. Still, I did want to talk to her some more, because she wants to join the Marine Corps now and I think it's for the wrong reasons. It wasn't like I would've been scared to talk to her, I figured it would be nice to just leave it the way it was for the day and show some self-control: that I don't need to talk to her every time I see her. But if I am in the inner circle, as you say, then maybe she wouldn't care when I talked to her or how frequent.SEREMAKER wrote:
are fucking kidding me ............ you were in, you're in the inner circle with this chick
then you walked away .... without looking back ...................... *facepalm*
you could have pulled a sweet move by starting to walk toward the bus then 180 and go over to the chick and talk to her
I hope you pick up the cell and call her up and do some talking .... and when you talk to her and better bring up that moment when you walked away but play it off - something like " hey I wanted to run over and talk with you but I needed to get home and to let the tv repairman in " ( or some other bullshit answer - just remember if you lie, make a lie that doesn't come back to bite you in the ass )
Either way, I don't see it as that big of a deal that I didn't talk to her again. Hopefully she didn't either.
not self control ....its showing priorities and importance ....... you got to show that this chick is priority #1 and top of the importance list ( even if she isn't but you need to show it )
It seemed like such a little thing. It can't be THAT bad of a fuck-up can it? It was only one little event.
Jebus...afraid you've got to man up a little bit and make a move. From experience the longer you wait the more awkward it'll get, the more nervous you'll get, the more unneccessary thought you'll be putting into the situation, and the less likely anything will happen. I don't know how many times I've said it in this thread but a girl likes a guy with confidence. If you man up, make the move she'll love it and embrace it. Girls generally wait for the guy to make the first move so make it. There's absolutely no point in being afraid to do something. When I started seeing girls I was also afraid but from experience that's just something you've got to conquer or you'll get absolutely nowhere.
Suggestions: If you're texting become more flirtatious. Ask her out. Ask her if you can buy her lunch. Find things to do with her and gradually make it more obvious that you like her.
Suggestions: If you're texting become more flirtatious. Ask her out. Ask her if you can buy her lunch. Find things to do with her and gradually make it more obvious that you like her.
Thanks for the advice man, appreciate it..teddy..jimmy wrote:
Jebus...afraid you've got to man up a little bit and make a move. From experience the longer you wait the more awkward it'll get, the more nervous you'll get, the more unneccessary thought you'll be putting into the situation, and the less likely anything will happen. I don't know how many times I've said it in this thread but a girl likes a guy with confidence. If you man up, make the move she'll love it and embrace it. Girls generally wait for the guy to make the first move so make it. There's absolutely no point in being afraid to do something. When I started seeing girls I was also afraid but from experience that's just something you've got to conquer or you'll get absolutely nowhere.
Suggestions: If you're texting become more flirtatious. Ask her out. Ask her if you can buy her lunch. Find things to do with her and gradually make it more obvious that you like her.
I guess I'll have to man up, you're right.. It's pretty weird though, for example there are girls that hug easily, but this girl I have yet to hug.. I will try, but I hope she won't get scared off because she's not looking for a relationship at all, that would really suck. I'll do the texting thing too
But her parents really are a big trouble, she isn't allowed to go to any parties (even though she would love to), and has a really hard time meeting me..
Dude, girls obsess over little things if not more. Play it cool though. I honestly don't think you fucked up majorly. Just play it cool next time you see her, show you're interested and see what happens._j5689_ wrote:
So they obsess over the little things like that just as much as I do when they like someone?SEREMAKER wrote:
you were in the inner circle ............. chicks are emotional and not stopping by to at least say Hi will leave a bad mark in her memory about you_j5689_ wrote:
I already did talk to her that day though. Still, I did want to talk to her some more, because she wants to join the Marine Corps now and I think it's for the wrong reasons. It wasn't like I would've been scared to talk to her, I figured it would be nice to just leave it the way it was for the day and show some self-control: that I don't need to talk to her every time I see her. But if I am in the inner circle, as you say, then maybe she wouldn't care when I talked to her or how frequent.
Either way, I don't see it as that big of a deal that I didn't talk to her again. Hopefully she didn't either.
not self control ....its showing priorities and importance ....... you got to show that this chick is priority #1 and top of the importance list ( even if she isn't but you need to show it )
It seemed like such a little thing. It can't be THAT bad of a fuck-up can it? It was only one little event.
I'm sure she won't get scared off! She's human too and that's what I think a lot of guys forget. If she likes you I'm sure she'll be receptive to going on a date or hooking up as this doesn't automatically lead to any kind of relationship. It's only after you've done these things she'll start thinking.Jebus wrote:
Thanks for the advice man, appreciate it..teddy..jimmy wrote:
Jebus...afraid you've got to man up a little bit and make a move. From experience the longer you wait the more awkward it'll get, the more nervous you'll get, the more unneccessary thought you'll be putting into the situation, and the less likely anything will happen. I don't know how many times I've said it in this thread but a girl likes a guy with confidence. If you man up, make the move she'll love it and embrace it. Girls generally wait for the guy to make the first move so make it. There's absolutely no point in being afraid to do something. When I started seeing girls I was also afraid but from experience that's just something you've got to conquer or you'll get absolutely nowhere.
Suggestions: If you're texting become more flirtatious. Ask her out. Ask her if you can buy her lunch. Find things to do with her and gradually make it more obvious that you like her.
I guess I'll have to man up, you're right.. It's pretty weird though, for example there are girls that hug easily, but this girl I have yet to hug.. I will try, but I hope she won't get scared off because she's not looking for a relationship at all, that would really suck. I'll do the texting thing too
But her parents really are a big trouble, she isn't allowed to go to any parties (even though she would love to), and has a really hard time meeting me..
It's not easy to hug her or you just haven't tried? Go in for the hug and see what happens.
Her parents are annoying? Try and arrange things to do with her at school. Sit with her at lunch...Ask her to meet you when you walk the dog...even the most simple ideas can leave long lasting impressions!!!
Listen to tedjims.
Also trust your gut, it's almost always corrrect.
Also trust your gut, it's almost always corrrect.
Nah,.. that doesn't say much really. Hugging like that has little to do with relations at all, it is more of a friendly formality like three kisses. My best (female) friend and I, usually just say "bye", while some girls I know a lot less well do the three kisses. I also introduced the three kisses in Russia, but that's another story again.Jebus wrote:
for example there are girls that hug easily, but this girl I have yet to hug..
Ahhh,.. give him a break, you and Sere are stressing him out. It's just one event, it won't matter a thing...teddy..jimmy wrote:
Dude, girls obsess over little things if not more. Play it cool though. I honestly don't think you fucked up majorly. Just play it cool next time you see her, show you're interested and see what happens.
_j5689_, in general yes. The truth is, between their ears, girls are 90% the same as men. Those 10% are directly related to producing offspring Any percieved mental difference between gender is purely cultural.
Cuz I don't think she should do it, and I wanted to change her mind. She says she wants to do it so she "can kill people without getting arrested" and she wants to be a Marksman. That's like every 10-year old's dream(She's 17). She has no idea what any of that is like for real, the training or the actual job, she's probably never read about it or anything, it's all based off the movies and videogames she's seen. The recruiter probably hears that all the time, and I'm sure he couldn't possibly give a fuck why someone wants to join the Corps so long as he gets his commission.Lai wrote:
I'm not quite getting something here. How do her motives for joining the Marines affect your interest in her?_j5689_ wrote:
I already did talk to her that day though. Still, I did want to talk to her some more, because she wants to join the Marine Corps now and I think it's for the wrong reasons. It wasn't like I would've been scared to talk to her, I figured it would be nice to just leave it the way it was for the day and show some self-control: that I don't need to talk to her every time I see her. But if I am in the inner circle, as you say, then maybe she wouldn't care when I talked to her or how frequent.
Either way, I don't see it as that big of a deal that I didn't talk to her again. Hopefully she didn't either.
So just keep doing what I'm doing other than that basically...teddy..jimmy wrote:
Dude, girls obsess over little things if not more. Play it cool though. I honestly don't think you fucked up majorly. Just play it cool next time you see her, show you're interested and see what happens._j5689_ wrote:
So they obsess over the little things like that just as much as I do when they like someone?SEREMAKER wrote:
you were in the inner circle ............. chicks are emotional and not stopping by to at least say Hi will leave a bad mark in her memory about you
not self control ....its showing priorities and importance ....... you got to show that this chick is priority #1 and top of the importance list ( even if she isn't but you need to show it )
It seemed like such a little thing. It can't be THAT bad of a fuck-up can it? It was only one little event.
its quotas not commission ........ and a Marksman is qualifing the lowest on shooting range - Marksman-Sharpshooter-Expert_j5689_ wrote:
Cuz I don't think she should do it, and I wanted to change her mind. She says she wants to do it so she "can kill people without getting arrested" and she wants to be a Marksman. That's like every 10-year old's dream(She's 17). She has no idea what any of that is like for real, the training or the actual job, she's probably never read about it or anything, it's all based off the movies and videogames she's seen. The recruiter probably hears that all the time, and I'm sure he couldn't possibly give a fuck why someone wants to join the Corps so long as he gets his commission.Lai wrote:
I'm not quite getting something here. How do her motives for joining the Marines affect your interest in her?_j5689_ wrote:
I already did talk to her that day though. Still, I did want to talk to her some more, because she wants to join the Marine Corps now and I think it's for the wrong reasons. It wasn't like I would've been scared to talk to her, I figured it would be nice to just leave it the way it was for the day and show some self-control: that I don't need to talk to her every time I see her. But if I am in the inner circle, as you say, then maybe she wouldn't care when I talked to her or how frequent.
Either way, I don't see it as that big of a deal that I didn't talk to her again. Hopefully she didn't either.
_j5689_ wrote:
So just keep doing what I'm doing other than that basically...teddy..jimmy wrote:
Dude, girls obsess over little things if not more. Play it cool though. I honestly don't think you fucked up majorly. Just play it cool next time you see her, show you're interested and see what happens._j5689_ wrote:
So they obsess over the little things like that just as much as I do when they like someone?
It seemed like such a little thing. It can't be THAT bad of a fuck-up can it? It was only one little event.
I know he's right And to be honest, I haven't really tried to hug her, either. Yeah, her parents are annoying, that's why I've only had a few chances to meet her outside of school.. Every other day I only see her on and after school.
And the reason why I don't want her to get scared off is pretty simple. She told me what her father told her about boys and stuff, that they're only interested for one thing, etc.. That's why I don't want to rush things, because I know I'm not like that. Luckily my parents are quite cool about it, today I realized they knew we were meeting, asked some questions about her and they were really cool about, which is great
But I'll have to step it up, because otherwise I'll never know what she wants, I guess
And the reason why I don't want her to get scared off is pretty simple. She told me what her father told her about boys and stuff, that they're only interested for one thing, etc.. That's why I don't want to rush things, because I know I'm not like that. Luckily my parents are quite cool about it, today I realized they knew we were meeting, asked some questions about her and they were really cool about, which is great
But I'll have to step it up, because otherwise I'll never know what she wants, I guess
So, while I was in Daneland I banged this Danish broad after I got her sloppy drunk. Now she put out this video on utube of her and GravyJr., and it's making the rounds pretty heavy. I fear I will be easily identified as the father by the childs enormous genitalia. What do I do?
Cut yours offGravyDan wrote:
So, while I was in Daneland I banged this Danish broad after I got her sloppy drunk. Now she put out this video on utube of her and GravyJr., and it's making the rounds pretty heavy. I fear I will be easily identified as the father by the childs enormous genitalia. What do I do?
Stressing him out? I told him to play it cool
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Dan- use this child and reap the benefits! Enormous genitalia means only one thing! Future pornstar who will generate you a lot of monies.
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Dan- use this child and reap the benefits! Enormous genitalia means only one thing! Future pornstar who will generate you a lot of monies.