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-Sh1fty- wrote:

Jaekus wrote:

-Sh1fty- wrote:

Yes I know but asking her while she's in the middile of having to work and do something for her job would be annoying. I get that not asking is going to get me 0% but I can't just shove customers aside, tell 'em to piss off while I ask her out .

I know this process is complicated, so pay close attention.

1) grow some balls;
2) go in there and buy something;
3) ask her out when you're talking to her.

Seriously, it's not rocket science. You're making excuses.

went to buy a drink, got in line, person in front had like 2 items, so she moved to the next lane where the person had like 20+ items to help bag...

ok Shanter

Think of it this way.

A man walked the fucking moon.

THE FUCKING MOON.

They didn't find excuses like "well it's reeeeeeally far away" or any shit, they made the effort, tried and tried and made it happen.



All you are doing is finding apparent "reasons" why you haven't asked her out. If you were actually serious you would've done so long ago.

Honestly dude, you've been talking about this chick for months and done -nothing-

To be blunt, it's pretty pathetic.

Dating is a numbers game..

-Sh1fty- wrote:

Yes I know but asking her while she's in the middile of having to work and do something for her job would be annoying. I get that not asking is going to get me 0% but I can't just shove customers aside, tell 'em to piss off while I ask her out .

"Hi, I don't think I'm going to get a better opportunity to ask at any point since all I know about your lovely self is that you work here. So would you like to go out sometime?"

Answer A: Yes. "Splendid! Here be my cellular information. Give me a ring!" And you got it off your chest and move on to the next level.

Answer B: No. "Oh, what a shame. Atleast I tried! "  <-- !!! Remember that and she MIGHT think it over if you still visit the store. And you got it off your chest and move on to other womenfolk.

Get.

It.

Off.

Your.

Chest.

Otherwise it'll pester your brain like snow in London. I was attracted to a girl for several years but didn't have the guts to say anything. When I finally managed to say it (drunk text, the best option there is... not) I didn't get much of an answer, more like "dude is this really you?". "Yeep. Sorry about that, just had to let it out ". No reply. Ok, didn't work. Off to the bar with the boys. It's as simple as that.

I dunno I might have told this before but what I did tho was I ended up in the same cab with her and her sister a few years later and at the attractions place. There the sisters got into an argument and I was about to get out of there but she stopped me. I was like wtf is going on now then? Was so confused I thought I gotta check this out. I was assigned to her bed with basically an order. Helloo! As I hop in, still confused as hell, she tells her sister to go sleep in the bedroom while she hits the hay with this other guy on the sofa. Ummm come again? You gotta be kidding me?! Didn't say anything, just kept my mouth shut and avoided fueling the fire. So now I got this pretty blonde thing next to me sobbing like hell and I can't sleep due to severe wtf in my brain. So I started calming her down and around me goes her arm. Oh, great now this. A minute later I find myself kissing the sister of the woman I was attracted to. She was up for some hanky panky, but I refused since the walls were waaay too thin and there was a giant leonberger sleeping on the floor. I wasn't gonna get my leg bitten off or thrown out in the snow at that point anymore. Left the place with the biggest brainfuck of my life in the morning. My buddies were laughing in tears when I told about the events of the night. Tried to get on a date with her a couple times but she always had some damn obstacles and the last time I had a bad flu and couldn't do anything. She was one of those types that get attracted to the wrong guys too so she had some of those I don't wanna get too close issues. FF a few years and I'm living with my soon to be wife in our current place. We heard about some new neighbor moving in a few doors away and guess who walks in there... My kissy-friend. The wife had a riot, since I had to tell her how I knew her. Woulda looked a bit bad if I had lied and she found out about it from someone else. "Oh, going to the neighbor when I'm not home are we, hmmm??? " Screw you woman

So long story short. Get it off your chest and you'll be kissing her sister in a couple years!

pics

i meant of ultras scandinavian conquests

Jaekus wrote:

Kmar wrote:

Jaekus wrote:

Reason why some girls go for guys who treat them not so well is that when they are treated well by them they feel they measure up to their standards. A nice guy gives them validation without any effort on their part so they don't bother, or just aren't attracted to him as a result. Nice guys also tend to come across as being a bit of a pushover. Girls want to be looked after so even if a guy is an arsehole they know that whilst they're with him no other guy will give her shit, so she feels safe.

Better the devil you know...

And these are the girls that almost always have a guy in the friend-zone. They get the best of both worlds in their minds. Though few will admit it, because they'd be labeled as selfish, and rightfully so.

Yeah, totally.

I had a girl (friend) that was like this with me. I'm one of those kind giving-I-like-to-take-care of ya ppl (now at least). When she was with me she was calmed, at peace and happy. But she was still drawn to the inconsiderate type. I felt used for awhile .. even though I eventually hit it..lol. But she still would never commit to me. She claimed she would understand if I just left.. that she put herself in my shoes. But in my mind, if that is the case, then you reflect that with your behavior, and not just words.

.. and btw, every-time I did leave, even if I just didn't talk to her for one day, she got verrrry upset. Because she did learn to count on me.. and yea, there was other attraction between besides the nurtring-ill take care-of-ya. Eventually the cycle gets too much you to handle tho.

I was in a bit of a similar situation once. I was her rock in life, but she'd refuse to hook up even though she hinted a few times verbally that she was attracted to me (we did end up doing it anyway). Everytime it would fall apart with some other guy she'd come back to me. We certainly did have a deep connection but I would never put myself through something like that again with all the feelings I had for her. I'd be that friend for a girl intentionally as that friend, but I would not be the nice guy that helps out and does stuff for her because I hoped she would wake up and see what an awesome guy I am and want me as a result. But I guess you have to experience these things to work it out for yourself.

I think every guy has been in this situation. Had a girl that I was attracted to (and she knew it) but she tossed me in the friend zone. She then started dating my best friend since kindergarten, but he was just on leave and left back to Colorado 2 weeks later. I then became their bridge of communication because my buddy fucked it up with her parents. She would constantly expect me to go out of my way to do things for her, and I did for the longest time. Eventually I got fed up with it, I hated being the guy she went to when she broke up with someone, or hearing stories about her sex life. it's just not shit you wanna hear. Finally told her that I was fed up with being her basically boy friend with out the boy friend benefits and she called me a selfish prick and we haven't talked since.

fucked up thing is, most everyone I know said she liked me. But she was too shallow and since my dick isn't 9 inches long and 4 inches wide she wanted nothing to do with me. Life's been great since I stopped talking to her though, don't regret it one bit.

TL;DR friend zone sucks dick.

Jaekus wrote:

I don't think everyone has been there, not yet at least

i haven't. there has been girlfriends, girls i've shagged, and friends, but not being a boyfriend without the benefit

Best advice is to forget about her and move on. If there is a chance you'll increase it by getting with someone else. People find things more appealing when they suddenly can't have them.

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Last edited by Superior Mind (2012-02-10 09:08:00)

lol this thread

lol

_j5689_ wrote:

Superior Mind wrote:

If you are having girl problems then don't smoke more weed. Just smoke with better intention. Once a week smoke as much as possible while alone in the dark.

Never tried it, what does that do?

it won't bum your ride when some bitch tells you to stop smoking weed . . .