Whilst all this may be true to some extent, thinking too much into this will get you into more trouble than success.Adams_BJ wrote:
He made it seem overly complicated, but most of it does come naturally, and if you aren't that good with girls, it will come naturally after a couple drinks._j5689_ wrote:
That's a lot to think about during every part of everything with a girl.
It seems to me like if you do even one thing out of place or say one weird thing accidentally(which I do a lot) then you're done for.
There's this hot girl in my gym class that I think might like me so as long as I've got that I'm content. I don't honestly see anything coming out of it though. She seems to find me interesting because I'm the only introvert/person that isn't up playing basketball.
Seriously girls aren't that confusing until you actually have a relationship, then you can throw anything you want out the window.
Talk to her, be entertaining, but don't look like you're trying. Start slow, when you walk past her put your finger tips on the small of her back as in "I'm just moving by" but make it a little more sensual. Make everything seem casual but with that subtle little edge and she will start to respond. If you are out and talking to her, get close so she can feel your breath on her neck, but don't scream in her ear and drown her in spit. put your hand on her lower back or arm while you talk to her, again in that subtle "its loud in here and I need to be close to talk". If you decide to dance, put your hand on her hips and pull her in close.
Just try not to do it in a smothering way, if she keeps pulling back she probably feels like you are getting to close without needing to, but that won't happen if you are playing your cards right and not coming in to hard and fast.
Subtly is the key gentlemen. It can go out the window when she knows your game and is all over you.
Half the fun in early life is being single and picking up, I'm just a sucker for relationships
It's great being casually able to cause a girls sensations to heighten by they way you act around her, but not everybody can do it, and even if you can do it, not every girl likes it when you're THAT comfortable with doing those kind of things.
In the end, it comes down to the girl, but making a move is what you should always try and do. If that's one thing that they'll appreciate no matter what. Make the effort and you will be rewarded. Don't be sleazy and don't be a dick, just try it.
Coming in hard and fast at points is actually a GOOD thing because you catch the girl off guard, and instead of her going "oh my god, what the fuck is he doing, get him off me", the usual thoughts are "oh... hmm... what? Oh..... Okay.... *continue*". I know that isn't what you expect, but trust me, that is what happens. I know it works because I do it all the time - course, I like to go in casually as well, makes it just as interesting, but both work, my suggestion tends to be easier to pull off. By hard and fast I don't mean act as a sleazeball or touch her everywhere. I mean - Smile, talk, laugh and just grab her and kiss her. Touching and being a sleazeball will get you nowhere.
My last serious relationship started at a house party - I knew the girl for 10 minutes, we were talking, not even flirting, and she was telling me about something she didn't like. At this point, I just stopped her, grabbed her and kissed her. And the rest is history. When you ask them how they felt whilst it happened, the "Oh my what am I doing?!" does cross their mind, but is quickly subdued by the pleasant surprise they get. Oh, and I just repeated that action this Saturday.
Also, keep in mind that girls go weak at the knees for cheesy or rehearsed shit. Yeah, not all, but most fall instantly for it. They may claim that they dislike it or whatever, but if you pull it off successfully, you'll have the girl in your pocket - The perfect example of this is the "lipstick" trick, that is the advert for clearasil (I think?). It's been pulled off many a time, and you'd think it gets tiresome, but girls fall for it every time.
The more you think about how you're doing, the less likely it is that you're going to succeed. The most animal of instincts usually get you through. Sure, be suave, charming, and a flirtations bastard, but remember that the simplest of actions will get you in a position where you can kiss her/bang her.
